Ok, so someone I know is getting married in November. She has been telling me for a long time that when/if she ever got married I'd be her maid of honor. Well it turned out that she asked her niece (who helped pick out the ring). She said she got "caught up" in the moment because her niece was there when he asked her to get married. No biggie. I honestly don't care about that. I'm one of 7 bridesmaids. Well all she does on fb is bitch about how nobody is helping her out with wedding stuff. Her and I got into it a little cause she was like "none of my bridesmaids are there for me! I'm doing it all on my own!" I even asked her what she wanted/needed help with and got no specific answer. Talked to her today because she asked if I could give her a ride across town so she could pick up some flowers to do our bouquets. Well I couldn't and she started in again about how she can't count on her bridesmaids to do anything for her.
So as far as wedding ettiquette, what am I, as a bridesmaid, supposed to be doing for her??? I've been a bridesmaid once before and wasn't asked to do a damn thing except pick out my dress. I've also been a maid of honor twice and was asked to do a couple small things but nothing major. She wants help making all the bouquets, making decorations, etc. Is it just me or isn't it up to the BRIDE to do her wedding stuff?? Am I out of the wedding loop?
Oh, and just to add....her niece is only going to be 19 when she gets married. My friend already cried on my shoulder one day about how she wasn't going to get a bridal shower or bachelorette party because her niece is young and broke and she wished she would have just asked me like she planned to. I told her then and there that I would make sure she had both and I still plan to host both the bridal shower and bachelorette party. Should I be doing more?