Im new, here looking for advice. So here it goes
My son has always been such an angel to me. He was always a mommys boy. He never fought, never yelled. He was always courteous and respectful. On May 2012 we received the worst news We could have ever imagined possible, my son was was diagnosed with a brain tumor. Within 10 hrs of the finding my son immediately underwent a 6 and a half hour long of surgery with the succession of 95% tumor removal. A week later they find that the tumor has been malignant and that he would need to start aggressive treatments of radiation and chemotherapy. He has already finished 32 days of radiation, stem cell harvesting, dental operation and various of other tests. In about 2 weeks time (1 week after his little sisters birthday) he will be going back into the hospital as an in patient for chemotherapy for the next four months. I am just very afraid for him, I have never seen anyone go through chemotherapy. I don't know what it's like, and I feel hopeless that I won't be strong enough for him. It's hard to see a child go through pain that no kids should go trough, and let alone to see your own child suffer.
I feel like my life now is going way too fast. I just feel so alone. My views on life has changed. I feel like I HAVE changed and DH is really starting to get on my nerves. I'm starting to feel like DH and I are no longer on the same boat. It always seems like once weekend hits there's nothing more important than "drinking until we're stupid drunk" time for DH and his family and friends. Everytime they drink together it always seems like they're in their own little planet without a care for anyone. It would make it a little easier too if DH wasn't so annoying when he gets drunk. My patience has really shortened especially when it comes to DH. I really feel like everything I once had will start to come loose and fall apart. The only things I want to do now is just to focus on my to kids and to take them away from stress.
Would you guys have any advice?
Hello, nice to meet you. So sorry about the news of your son. It always seems like the most undeserving are always given the toughest battles. I bet he is one tough little dude though.
Does your husband drink more so now after the news of your son? Do you think it could be his way of coping? I know how annoying that must be.. you just need support, he's getting his in one form, but you need yours too.
First off my heart goes out to you and your family. I have two boys and i cant even imagine what you must be feeling. I would just pray and stay as strong as you can for your children. As for your DH maybe this is his way of taking away the pain that he has for what your son is dealing with. I would sit and have a long talk with him express how your feeling maybe he will open up. And be there for you all instead of drinking all the time.
Quoting BEXi:Hello, nice to meet you. So sorry about the news of your son. It always seems like the most undeserving are always given the toughest battles. I bet he is one tough little dude though.
Does your husband drink more so now after the news of your son? Do you think it could be his way of coping? I know how annoying that must be.. you just need support, he's getting his in one form, but you need yours too.
Quoting xavier929:First off my heart goes out to you and your family. I have two boys and i cant even imagine what you must be feeling. I would just pray and stay as strong as you can for your children. As for your DH maybe this is his way of taking away the pain that he has for what your son is dealing with. I would sit and have a long talk with him express how your feeling maybe he will open up. And be there for you all instead of drinking all the time.
I agree.. have you tried explaining that to him?
Quoting Jhona_mama:
No DH has always had that habit, but I think it's more of a family trait lmao. The thing that bothers me about it is that he knows that our family is going through something and it should be a time of realization. For him to know that family is important and that the time we have should be cherished, and not to blow the day away by being drunk with the boys.Quoting BEXi:Hello, nice to meet you. So sorry about the news of your son. It always seems like the most undeserving are always given the toughest battles. I bet he is one tough little dude though.
Does your husband drink more so now after the news of your son? Do you think it could be his way of coping? I know how annoying that must be.. you just need support, he's getting his in one form, but you need yours too.
It sounds like your dh is throwing himself into drinking to get some sort of grip on this. It is horrible what your son is going through and I can't imagine. My heart goes out to you. Just be strong and talk to your dh and tell him his drinking is getting to you. That you think both of you need sober minds to get through this. Also like the other posters said get some counseling I am sure all of this is creating several emotions neither of you know what to do with. Like I said I can't imagine. I will keep your family in my prayers.
What is so funny?
- Jhona_mama
on Jul. 30, 2012 at 10:34 AM