I let my friend stay at my house. She had no where else to go, and I thought we would be able to get along. I was so wrong. My 7 year old is afraid of her (She has a very strong voice, and raised her voice to him) and she rarely helped out around the house. She seemed to get frustrated when my two year old misbehaved (like a two year old does). When I say frustrated, it was yelling, etc. She even said she spanked him! He is two, and was doing nothing to hurt anyone, he crunched up crackers on my bed....call the cops, oh my goodness! She frequently accused my 7 year old of lying (and he is not a habitual liar) and I really think she doesn't like him.
After over 6 weeks, I told her she needs to find another place. She is being a total bitch to me. I'm trying to be really nice about it, not trying to do anything to piss her off. I mean, there is SO much more that she has done. I decided not to try to fight, because everything is my fault anyhow. She doesn't have a job, and hasn't in over 6 months. I'm just tired of being the bad one when it comes to her. She is an alcoholic, and I tried to be respectful, just no alcohol at my house.....at all. Not inside, not outside. She is acting like a rebellious teenager. Asking me for money, gets edgy when I don't let her have any, and then she leaves anyways, somehow have money for beer, cigarettes, and gas. She leaves for a day or two, comes home in the middle of the night, it at all. I'm not her mom, but I don't want my kids around this instability. My 7 year old won't even sleep in his room anymore, which is a sign of stress for him.
She is saying I'm the cause of it. I'm just trying to protect my sanity and my children.