We all know that scientifically BF is best. I recognize that to be a proven fact...HOWEVER that does not give anyone the right to look down on another mother for what she chooses for her child. The holier than thou attitude that some (didn't say all) moms have towards this topic is just ridiculous. It is every individual's right to choose what is best for them and their child for whatever reason may it be. It does not in any way shape or form make one mother better than another and those who think it does need to step off the soapbox. I did not BF. It wasn't an option for me for reasons I don't need to justify to anyone. My children are still happy, healthy and thriving regardless. My SIL gave me so much shit with both of my kids for not BF and the irony of it is that the same person who told me my kids would be malnourished, stupid, and overweight (my kids are fab thanks!) for bottlefeeding...feeds her BF kids poptarts, hotdogs, french fries, and junkfood. I'm pretty sure if you asked a Dr whose kids are actually healthier at this point in their life, and likely to be so as adults...it wouldnt be hers. So basically my point is that i thought CM was supposed to be a place to share not to point finger through a computer scream. If i write a post that i beat me kids you can call me a bad mom go for it, but as much as some of you would like to beleive so bottlefeeding is not an equivilent offense. We ALL do our best as parents, or at leats I would hope so, and it's really no ones place to throw insults. Its one thing to disagree and state ones opinion in an educated manner...it's another to throw insults, sling names, and act like trash.
Our first child was the only one who was breastfed at all. We decided not to take our chances with our other four kids -- they started on soy-formula from birth.
My kids are all happy, healthy, smart kids who did perfectly fine on formula.
Quoting AmiJanell:If you are over the debate..... then why make a whole post about it?! (to stir up another debate!!)
But you cannot say in one sentence that breastfeeding is best.... and then turn around and say that a parent gets to choose what is best for her child. If breastmilk is best... it's BEST... period.... it's not really a choice on what is BEST, it's a choice for other reasons... maybe it's easier, maybe it's medically necessary... but no matter the reason, it doesn't make formula rise up from being second.. it's still not BEST.
That said... I combo fed my son... he had breastmilk and formula because I didn't produce enough... I didn't pretend that he formula I was giving him was equal to that of the breastmlik... it was second rate.
We all make choices for our families... some are healthier than others... but why lie to ourselves about those choices and pretend they are equally healthy as other choices when we know it's not true? To make ourselves feel better? It's not any different than comparing a home cooked organic meal to a meal at McDonalds... there is no question on which meal is better... but I still choose to let my son eat happy meals, I'm not going to pretend his meal was nutritious. Does that make me a bad mom? To some, for sure! But it doesn't matter what they think.
Anyway, my point is... just admit that formula is second best and move on... who cares what other people think of it.
Quoting a06z08mama:
My sister bf all three of kids. Each of them have allergies of some sort. My ex hubby was the only bf child. And he ended up having a mastoidectomy. My DD was bf for two months. Had rsv at 8. And eczema. My DS was bf for 6 months just gets simple colds after growing out of his soft wind pipe as a newborn(I think that ha to do with the chemicals I used at work while PG with him). My ex sil ff her son (3 months older than my DD) and he has asthma and eczema. So which one caused their problems??
Quoting LAXmom21:
I ffd my kids no allergies, no exczema, an ear infection or two in the younger one, my sister Bfd both and they are always sick, both are allergic to quite a few things, and the youngest gets rashes a lot and has asthma. So which one caused their problems? I personally think some things are genetic.
Quoting a06z08mama:
My sister bf all three of kids. Each of them have allergies of some sort. My ex hubby was the only bf child. And he ended up having a mastoidectomy. My DD was bf for two months. Had rsv at 8. And eczema. My DS was bf for 6 months just gets simple colds after growing out of his soft wind pipe as a newborn(I think that ha to do with the chemicals I used at work while PG with him). My ex sil ff her son (3 months older than my DD) and he has asthma and eczema. So which one caused their problems??
I'll just say this about thiat: for every woman who is bashed for formula feeding, there is one who is humiliated for breastfeeding her baby in a public place. Can we call it even and let it go?
I agree. I think we all need to mind our own business, esp when it comes to this. Just leave it alone for awhile, everyone can make their choices and live with them.
Quoting inspain:LOL. I never give a shit what anyone else does with their kids. I think breast is best, but if you're going to bottle-feed, that's your business, I don't care why you're doing it either. If I already don't like you, I will most likely judge you harshly for your choice, in my head, to myself, while horking down a Taco Bell gordita and enjoying the look of horror on my breast fed kid's face (she thinks junk food is filthy, I didn't do that, I swear). But, if I like you, I don't care what you feed them. It's none of my business.
Now, if only I could find more formula feeding moms and even more bf-ing moms who would butt the Hell out and shut their silly mouths when it comes to commenting on how or where breast-feeding women choose to feed their kids. ;-)
Help calm me down,please. (graphic picture)
Pregnancy Attack!
- ChloeDolce1
on Aug. 21, 2012 at 3:46 PM