What would you do in this situation? *edit*
I'm due to have a c-section on Dec. 12, 2012. I am having hernia repair surgery either the 13th or he 14th. My SIL is having a wedding (she and her HUSBAND got married already in June 2012 at city hall because he was being stationed in Hawaii in July.) on January 20, 2013. The baby will be just shy of 6 weeks and I will still be recovering from the c-section and hernia surgery. My OB said I probably shouldn't fly mainly because of how stressful it will be to be on 12 hour flight with a 6 week old, 3 yr old and 4.5 yr old. We'd only be going from Friday Jan 19th-Monday Jan 22nd. 24 hours of that will be on a plane. Our plane tickets cost $4000 and we have to get a hotel room and a rental car. I'm a graduate nursing student and my husband just started a new job at a law firm. I'll be missing school and DH will be using two of his vacation days. His family accepts that the new baby and I cannot go. DH does not want to take our two girls on a plane for 24 hours alone, so they will not be going. His family wants just him to go alone to Hawaii and leave me here with three kids after two surgeries. We have no one who can stay with us and help me with all three girls. I'll be completely alone from Friday-Monday. What do you think I should do? Should I suck it up and deal with DH going away? Should I just go even though I might be in pretty bad shape still? Or do you think he should stay home?
*edit* For the record, I NEVER said DH was going or even WANTED to go. He's not a jerk and he's not dead set on going and leaving me home. I was simply asking what everyone else thought because I didn't know if I was being unreasonable for making him stay home. So, can we please stop calling him a mama's boy, a jerk and saying he needs to get some balls. If I say I need him to stay home, he WILL stay home.