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Df accused me of cheating cuz i wanted to shower during the day

Posted by on Sep. 12, 2012 at 12:30 AM
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I was itching really bad and it wouldnt stop.We have bedbugs and fleas(weve had apt professionally sprayed twice and spent $500 to have it done but it didnt work so were stuck with em til our lease is up May 2013) Figured a shower would make it stop so instead of telling df i was taking a shower i made the mistake of asking. He said if i wanted a shower i have to send sexy pics after i get out. Well i just wanted to stop itching and after arguing with him about the pics it calmed and hardly itched. Well when he got home that night he said i had to be hiding something cuz i never shower during the day always at night with him. he said i must of just fucked somebody and i wanted to wash the smell off. I dont know anybody here but his family for 1 and 2 dd was home and i would never do that in front of her! I'm gettin tired of him accusing me of stuff and thats part of the reason i left the first time. And hes starting to do it again and hes like i could go find a woman 10x better than you and im like well go do it and he turns it on me and is like why, cuz u dont love me anymore? or some bs like that. i liked it a hell of alot better at my moms. I was free and could do anything i wanted. Here with df i have to ask to do anything except pee. but to eat or shower or use comp i have to ask. i dont like it here but im trying to make it work cuz i really do love him.  weve been together 2 years.

by on Sep. 12, 2012 at 12:30 AM
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frndlyfn
by Emerald Member on Sep. 12, 2012 at 12:31 AM
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I have a feeling he has already gone after other women and you need to get in a better relationship.  The chronic infestation will not cease if you havent treated the mattresses and all linens with a high heat essentially baking them to death.

Logan_Bellasmom
by Falling Starr on Sep. 12, 2012 at 12:33 AM
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He is accusing you cuz he is fucking his babies mom and you are to stupid to leave him...why are you really still living in a bug infested house that reeks of piss?
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lovehimforever
by Bronze Member on Sep. 12, 2012 at 12:33 AM
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sounds to me like he has a guilty conscience and probably is already cheating. 

-AshleyNicole-
by on Sep. 12, 2012 at 12:34 AM
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You ask to shower, eat, & use the computer? Huh?
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FloridaGurl4
by on Sep. 12, 2012 at 12:34 AM

sounds to me he has a guilty conscience

jpalmer
by on Sep. 12, 2012 at 12:34 AM
Sounds like abuse...and anyone that allows you to live in bedbugs is just gross!!! Besides i would report that to the county health dep! Your land lord will be in some serious trouble because it's thier resposibility NOT on you!!!
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Paperfishies
by on Sep. 12, 2012 at 12:35 AM
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You had to ask him if you could take a shower and he wasn't even home? Wtf
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NDADanceMom
by on Sep. 12, 2012 at 12:35 AM
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well that is class all around that post eh?  You are going to live in bugs till then?  I assume you have kids.  Wont CPS step in?  

Seriously though you need therapy.  You dont love this guy.  Nobody loves a man that treats them like this.  You just dont want to be alone or something.  CRAZY.  

mstkn.identity
by on Sep. 12, 2012 at 12:35 AM
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Leave him. My exdh was like that. It only gets worse. Do NOT marry him.
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lovehimforever
by Bronze Member on Sep. 12, 2012 at 12:36 AM

It's time to either leave or stop complaining. if you dont like how he treats you or how he makes you feel then leave. i understand that you love him, but it doenst sound to me like he loves you because you dont say or do things like that to people that you love. IMO

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