Heres the situation..
Option one: my ex is USAF and currently stationed overseas, next summer he will be relocated stateside and wants me to move me our two kids and my fiancee and our newborn to where he is. This wasnt a terrible idea before he left (we dont love the town we live in and wouldnt mind a start over.) but while he's been gone he rarely calls the kids, and when he does he wants to talk to me more than them about what ifs and maybe we coulda tried crap.
Option two: My sister in law to be and i are both photographers and she asked me to go into business and open a studio together, our own space and all, basically a dream come true for both of us. Id make more money and live in a town that i do really like, that fiancee grew up in, his family is all very loving and supportive and it seems kind of perfect, BUUUUTTTTT...
I feel like im being selfish if i can move my kids close to their dad, even if he doesnt put a ton of time into a relationship with them (even when he's in the states he has better things to do on leave and generally sees the kids a 3-5 days out of 2 weeks.) Im really torn between a better life financially and stability wise for me and my whole family and having my kids close to their father. Opinions...?