I need help and don't know where to look :( piog sibling bullying
Dh and I are at a loss. We have four beautiful girls. Their ages are 5.5, 4, 2.5 years and a 1 year old. Our 5.5 year is pretty much a bully! She is so mean to dd2 and we don't know why. She takes toys from her, "accidently" walks into her, tells her she's "bad", ignores her, and has such an ugly attitude with her. Recently, dh and I have discovered that when she has her back is turned to us, she makes a mean face at dd2. Dd1 is not mean to her other sisters. She helps them, talks nicely to them, and etc. We do not know why she is like this. Dd2 is our sensitive one, so I know that dd1 is really hurting her feelings. Just witnessing all this has me in tears. I've had to call dh at his work because of dd1. We have tried time outs, being sent to bed early, no toys, no treats, no tv, even spanking. Dh thinks it's become some kind of cycle. Dd1 gets in trouble for bullying dd2, she gets punished, then takes her "revenge" on dd2, and it starts all over again. I have no idea what to do, I really need some help!