Having a very hard time with my 2 children right now ages 3&7 I fell i am going crazy please help!
My 2 children are out of control! Niether one of them of them listen to me at all! lets start with my daugter who is 3 all she does is scream and yell and talk back to me all day and night it is so frustratilng! she refuses to go to bed when she is supposed to and he always wants to sleep with me and my boyfriend of 10 yrs(we are both losing are minds)But i have to deal with most of the drama because i stay at home while jerrad goes to work and i'm pretty much stuck at home because we only have one car right now! Anyways i'm trying to potty train her and she wants nothing to do with it and i can't get her away from her sippy cup at night or nookie so her diaper is constantly leeking so that means constantly washing bedding! and on top of it loss of sleep! She waits till we can't even keep our eyes open anymore and then she will destroy our room or wonder around witch is really scarry! My Son who is 7 also does not listen one bit either and yells and talks back and is very lazy unless it's to his interest he wants nothing to do with school or chores picks on his sister constantly complains has very poor eating habbits and he also does not want to go to bed and wants to sleep with us! I have no time to myself ever i can't even take a shower alone! Me and jerrad have no time together! I have no friends that i can hang out with or talk to i feel so aloneI And on top of it we are living with jerrads parents right now it's horrible i am so depressed i don't know what to do anymore does anyone have any thoughts? Thanks for reading this i know it's alot to take in! Oh one more thing to add on i'm in my own bussiness with at home america which has reallly neat things for your home but things have not been going well with that either. My life is a mess lol!
Let me just say that you need to start putting your foot down, and sticking to it. My niece was a bratty 3 year old who thought she could do anything she wanted. Well, that 3 year old is now almost 13, still has a crappy attitude. It is so much easier to make rules and make your kids stick to them when they are young, compared to when they are older. My sister is trying very hard (sometimes) to do right by her kids, but its hard to break old habits.
As far as the sippy cup goes, lose it and don't ever find it again. My niece (the same bratty one) would scream if she didn't have it at bed time, and so my sister kept giving it to her. Her bottom teeth became so worn from having that cup in her mouth all night, that the teeth were worn down to the nubs of her teeth, and she had to have them yanked. You will be doing your daughter a favor to just get rid of it. She may cry, she may scream but she will get over it.
As for bedtime, make a schedule/routine and stick to it. I understand you are living with his parents, but you got to do whats right for your kids. Do they each have their own beds or rooms? My daughter went through a phase of not wanting to go to bed and would get up every 2 minutes. There were many frustrating nights that I had to put her back to bed a million times, but we eventually worked through it and she sleeps so much better now.
As for the yelling and talking back from both, put your foot down and don't allow it. When my daughter strikes up an argument with me or tells me she doesn't want to do what I told her to do, I ask if she's sure she wants to make that decision because there will be a consequence should she choose that route. 9 times out of 10, she stops and will make a different choice because she knows I mean business. Whether its time outs, losing privileges (tv, video games ect), being grounded - what ever works for your kids stick to it, and they will learn. They need you to be the bad person sometimes. Don't be afraid to hurt their feelings, they will get over it. And they will be happier, and you will be happier in the end.
Thankyou very much for writing back! I really do need to put my foot down i'm a softy i have have to say and know it's kicking me in the but! it's going to rough but i'm going to put my all into it and take your advice! thanks again kristin
Back talk gets immediate time out. Explain in child terms it is disrespectful and what mommy says goes. Are there any parks or libraries nearby.
I agree!!! Put your foot down. Let them know you are mommy and they have to do what is right. If you let them think they are the boss they will run all over you.
For bed time you have to stay on top of it. When my SDD was living with us (age two) she was really bad at going to sleep. She would get up and play all the time and get into evrything. I took a weekend and this is what I did : I put her to bed and shut her door. Then I sat in a chair in front of the door. Everytime she would open it she would see me then shut the door and get back into bed. The first night it took about three hours for her to sleep. The next night it was about two hours. The last night she laid down and went to bed. No fighting at all :) yes it takes time but if you do it right its only a few hours of your time unlike now on the endless amount of sleep you are getting.
When did this all start? When you moved in with the parents or has it always been this way? How does his parents deal w all the drama, screaming kids?
It just started a couple of months ago! and guess what i just found out i'm pregnamt again! found out yesterday and i'm scared becuase i have had 4 miscarriges in the past and 1 etopic and i'm scared it's going to happen again! Plus i'm on meds one thats a benzo and the other hydrocodone for my migranes and i'm scared there going to put me in the hospital for detox because you go trough withdrawl when getting off those meds! this is just a mess!
Your kids are way too old to be controlling you like this. You should be taking showers without them destroying the house. In fact, they should sit down and watch an episode of Spongbob (or what have you) and not move the entire time it takes you to shower and get ready-at least a half an hour. You need to start serious discipline. Both kids are due for a time-out. Do not ever allow your kids to be disrespectful to you. That is absolutely off limits. If you struggle with time-outs at first, start taking away things the kids (esp the older one) love. Not things they kind of like, but the things they love the most. A favorite toy or game is good. Also, your 3 yo can drink out of a normal cup. Make her sit at the table and drink. She can only drink what she consumes sitting at the table calmly. AND, this is very important-make sure that you are only feeding your kids healthy food. No chips, no pop, no candy or cookies. Limit all processed food-like seriously cut out the chicken nuggets, fish sticks, mac and cheese, spaghettios. Only for rare occasions. It has been shown by many studies that kids' diets will seriously affect their behavior. Put your foot down. NOW. Insist and expect decent behavior. And get out of the house. I don't care where you live. We used to live out in the middle of farm land-miles from anything, and I would just make my kids walk and ride bikes outside. So, unless you live in the middle of an industrial park (which I know don't) there is no excuse for not getting those kids exercise every day. Again, put your foot down and demand respect.
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- kristin940
on Sep. 18, 2012 at 4:11 PM