For the Guardian Followers- Update
i got isaiah back aug 15th. since then, my main focus has been on rebuilding that relationship with him since i have the chance now. he had not seen anyone from his paternal family in a little over a month, because i wasn't comfortable with all that they had done (exmil had guardianship, called CPS on me, jeopardizing everything).
before exmil had guardianship, my father's parents had him for 9 months. during that time, it wasn't going the way it should have, and i fought to get him taken away from them.
since then, my grandmother had died (one of the first guardians). my grandfather has changed and has been seeing isaiah supervised by me for a few weeks now. it took me two years to be comfortable with that again.
so, after many conversations with exmil about knowing her role as grandmother and not stepping on toes now that she isn't the guardian and i have my rights, i decided it would be okay to meet up with her and take isaiah to see her for a bit at the local mall.
everything went well until isaiah mentioned seeing "grandpa w". she looked at me and even though i don't need an explaination for myself, i gave one, gladly, because i'm the mom here- not her. i have nothing to hide.
so, she decided she is "concerned" for isaiah's well-being because of him seeing my grandfather and decided to EMAIL MY MOTHER. no- she didn't call me and talk about it to me- she EMAILED MY MOTHER. like i'm a child.
i'm at the point where i've given this woman chance after chance to just step back but still be a good grandparent to isaiah- like my grandfather is. she just blew it, IMO.
no more visits. no more phone calls. cut ties completely again and just move on. we're moving soon, and our number will change, so i'm done.
I called exmil on her lunch break at work (12) and left her a message. I basically word-for-word said:
As nicely as I can say this, "S", I have tried to extend the olive branch of peace and not stand in the way of your family and my son's relationship, but you have relentlessly caused problems for two years now, and the only difference is now, I don't have to deal with it. The only rights you have are the rights I give you, and you abused those rights by trying to cause issues in my family that I've worked so hard for THREE years to put back together. We're going to just have to go our separate directions for now, and I'll be speaking with you further along down the road. You allowed your exhusband who has no biological relationship to anyone to take my son 4 hours up north for nights on end and get drunk without you there, and I was not allowed to say anything about it. What makes you think you can complain about my family? I'd prefer if I didn't hear back from you. Have a nice day.