age 11? A friend of mine came to me and told me her 11 year old DD ( just turned 11) dropped a bomb on her and said she was gay.... can she know at that age,?She hasn't done anything sexually......My friend doesn't know what to say to her DD to reassure that she loves her, doesn't know what questions to ask.....I mean she has reassured her she loves her but she is just a little shocked and wondering if her DD might just be confused. She asked her DD what she thought it meant and her DD told her exactly what it meant..... but can the child just be confused?
I respectfully disagree, I don't think this response is necessarily appropriate to the moment. I think that I would tell my child that I love them just as they are without any of the comparisons and without the "heads up" because it could be construed, especially in the head of an almost teenager who is just becoming aware of her sexuality and may be a bit off balance, as the parent giving them a "way out" of their sexuality or even as the parent's wishful thinking that this might just be a phase. I think the important thing at this particular moment is immediate and absolute acceptance without qualification.
Quoting ShadowLark:If it were my daughter, I'd say something like this. Ok, you could very well be gay. If you're gay, you're gay. That's fine, I love you just the same and I'll stand by you through thick and thin just like I would if you were straight. But just as a head's up, there ARE some kids who go through a phase around your age. They THINK they're gay but then as they get older, they realize that they were never gay to begin with. If that happens to you, that's also fine. The most important part is you finding yourself and being true to yourself. I love you as long as you do that.
i remember ahving my first cruch at tha age, so if her crsush is a girl....
Is it just me, or... ?
- kasm75
on Oct. 3, 2012 at 7:25 PM