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Appropriate punishment for hair cutting?

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Edit: can't believe this is still going
1)my daughter is not newly 4, she is almost 5
2) I was punishing her bc it's NOT the first time, she's aware that she can't cut her own hair- that being said, the last time she did it was nearly a year ago so it's not an on going thing.
3) sorry for those who disagree but I don't adapt the world to my kids, they adapt to the world. I see no problem whatsoever with her having a pair of plastic scissors in her art box. Half of her homework involves cutting stuff to develop motor skills. Granted, the scissors are away at the moment unless she asks for them, but under normal circumstances- um, a kid her age can freely use plastic scissors in my book.
4) has nothing to do with me restricting her style. The kid dresses like a nutjob half the time and thinks she looks cool- and I let her. If she wanted to shave her head- id let her- I don't care about that stuff- but if she wants a certain style shell go to a salon like a normal person-she won't just randomly hack off stuff.
5) she does cut her dolls hair- yes, and it's with my permission - I don't see that as mutilation- and she actually does ask before she cuts it. She knows the difference between cutting a dolls hair and her own. She's being punished for being disobedient - she was NOT punished the first time she did it nearly a year ago but was told shed be in trouble if she did it again.

Am I really that crazy for letting my daughter have some semblance of independence and giving her the opportunity to Learn how to act appropriately rather than forcing her to by default?

My 4 year old cut her hair again.
This is the 2nd time she's done it (last time was probably 8 months ago- she was not "punished" as I figured she really didn't grasp when she was doing, and I had let her cut and style her dolls' hair so we just had a talk, and she had messed up looking hair for awhile (it was so bad we did the best we could at the salon)
So now she did it again- and before any of the saintly moms here tell me I shouldn't have left scissors around - it was a pair of safety plastic scissors - its kept in her easel/drawer. She does quite a bit of artwork and I'm more of the "you will learn to use this appropriately" rather than the "I am going to hide everything from you and monitor every object you play with"
Now she KNOWS very well she was not supposed to cut her hair - trust me we've discussed the past incident many many times.
I'm toying with the idea of a pixie cut to show her if she's going to cut her hair, she'll have it all cut off- but I don't have the heart or backbone- I don't think at least.
What would you do?
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by on Oct. 8, 2012 at 4:28 PM
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Paperfishies
by Platinum Member on Oct. 8, 2012 at 4:36 PM

Yup.  My 9 year old decided to shave half of one of her eyebrows off the other day...I was like, "WTF?"  she was like, yeah I wanted to see what it would look like...okie dokie, she's the one that has to walk around with half an eyebrow.

Quoting momswag:

Why can't she cut her hair? It's her hair and it's not hurting or ruining anything.


Ktina11
by Silver Member on Oct. 8, 2012 at 4:36 PM
Obviously she didn't use the safety scissors they way they were supposed to be used. Step 1: Take away scissors. I wouldn't have the heart to cut her hair....
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melissam78
by on Oct. 8, 2012 at 4:37 PM
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The last time my dd cut her own hair the aftermath was punishment enough,she cut it so short (boy cut) and did it for fun,she had to go to school like that and NEVER did it again.we have a homework box for things like scissors,stapler etc and we only keep the "safety" (as if any scissors are safe) in the box-adult ones go in my room.I would punish her by saying,you've lost your privelage to use scissors for the time being for art projects that she likes to do AND have another talk about the use of scissors and safety
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cherrywaves21
by on Oct. 8, 2012 at 4:37 PM
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So grow some backbone. She would be in serious trouble. I don't believe in hiding things I believe in teaching my child.

Her hair would cut super short and I would take her easel and art supplies away from her for a week.
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LiliMama18
by on Oct. 8, 2012 at 4:38 PM
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Refer to the "to all you saintly moms..." line in the op. they're age appropriate scissors. The kids not going to be living in a scissor free world- she's gotta learn to use them appropriately.



Quoting Christy1919:

First time shame on her.  Second time shame on you.  Put the scissors away


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momswag
by on Oct. 8, 2012 at 4:38 PM
Kids like to experiment with their look and see how things look. It happens and isn't that big of a deal.

I bet she looks spunky. lol


Quoting Paperfishies:

Yup.  My 9 year old decided to shave half of one of her eyebrows off the other day...I was like, "WTF?"  she was like, yeah I wanted to see what it would look like...okie dokie, she's the one that has to walk around with half an eyebrow.


Quoting momswag:

Why can't she cut her hair? It's her hair and it's not hurting or ruining anything.


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graybealgirl
by Silver Member on Oct. 8, 2012 at 4:38 PM
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Are u serious right now! She's a small kid. Not a teen small kid. She has no say in her haircut


Quoting momswag:

Why can't she cut her hair? It's her hair and it's not hurting or ruining anything.

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kidlover2
by on Oct. 8, 2012 at 4:38 PM
My 3 year old dd cut her own hair and frankly I think it looks fabulous. She gave herself a sort of shag hairstyle. People compliment her all the time. I'm afraid that any lesson I have to teach her will go unlearned.
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melissam78
by on Oct. 8, 2012 at 4:39 PM
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Because she's 4 years old and could have hurt herself!!!!


Quoting momswag:

Why can't she cut her hair? It's her hair and it's not hurting or ruining anything.

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Christy1919
by Bronze Member on Oct. 8, 2012 at 4:39 PM

you obviously knew she did it befor and yet you still have this same attitude. and that is why some kids require SUPERVISION

Quoting LiliMama18:

Refer to the "to all you saintly moms..." line in the op. they're age appropriate scissors. The kids not going to be living in a scissor free world- she's gotta learn to use them appropriately.



Quoting Christy1919:

First time shame on her.  Second time shame on you.  Put the scissors away



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