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Appropriate punishment for hair cutting?

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Edit: can't believe this is still going
1)my daughter is not newly 4, she is almost 5
2) I was punishing her bc it's NOT the first time, she's aware that she can't cut her own hair- that being said, the last time she did it was nearly a year ago so it's not an on going thing.
3) sorry for those who disagree but I don't adapt the world to my kids, they adapt to the world. I see no problem whatsoever with her having a pair of plastic scissors in her art box. Half of her homework involves cutting stuff to develop motor skills. Granted, the scissors are away at the moment unless she asks for them, but under normal circumstances- um, a kid her age can freely use plastic scissors in my book.
4) has nothing to do with me restricting her style. The kid dresses like a nutjob half the time and thinks she looks cool- and I let her. If she wanted to shave her head- id let her- I don't care about that stuff- but if she wants a certain style shell go to a salon like a normal person-she won't just randomly hack off stuff.
5) she does cut her dolls hair- yes, and it's with my permission - I don't see that as mutilation- and she actually does ask before she cuts it. She knows the difference between cutting a dolls hair and her own. She's being punished for being disobedient - she was NOT punished the first time she did it nearly a year ago but was told shed be in trouble if she did it again.

Am I really that crazy for letting my daughter have some semblance of independence and giving her the opportunity to Learn how to act appropriately rather than forcing her to by default?

My 4 year old cut her hair again.
This is the 2nd time she's done it (last time was probably 8 months ago- she was not "punished" as I figured she really didn't grasp when she was doing, and I had let her cut and style her dolls' hair so we just had a talk, and she had messed up looking hair for awhile (it was so bad we did the best we could at the salon)
So now she did it again- and before any of the saintly moms here tell me I shouldn't have left scissors around - it was a pair of safety plastic scissors - its kept in her easel/drawer. She does quite a bit of artwork and I'm more of the "you will learn to use this appropriately" rather than the "I am going to hide everything from you and monitor every object you play with"
Now she KNOWS very well she was not supposed to cut her hair - trust me we've discussed the past incident many many times.
I'm toying with the idea of a pixie cut to show her if she's going to cut her hair, she'll have it all cut off- but I don't have the heart or backbone- I don't think at least.
What would you do?
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by on Oct. 8, 2012 at 4:28 PM
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.sanity.
by on Oct. 9, 2012 at 8:47 PM

cut it all off. make her sport a pixie cut. It'll grow back and maybe she'll learn a lesson.

fullxbusymom
by Silver Member on Oct. 9, 2012 at 10:33 PM
Sorry I am one for not leaving scissors around because toddlers cut anything especially hair at these ages. It is normal and I am one for prevention before it happens vs. after the fact.
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sakpoints
by Bronze Member on Oct. 10, 2012 at 1:13 AM

Sorry no suggestions DD never cut her own hair, but I know someone that just had to give her DD a buzz cut because she there was no way for the salon to 'fix' what dd had done to her own hair.

itsm3
by on Oct. 10, 2012 at 11:22 AM

if my dd kept on cutting her hair after i repeatedly asked her not to, i would shave it off.  

my dd came to me with a locket of her hair that she cut.  i wasn't mad but i asked her why she did it and what are the rules with scissors.  then i said, "if you do this again, we will shave your head like daddy's and you will not be able to use your scissors anymore since that will be showing me you don't know how to be responsible with your scissors.  it's your choice".  

she never did it ever again because she knew what the consequences are.

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