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is it ok I am upset?

Posted by on Oct. 8, 2012 at 10:29 PM
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I learned today the dh was getting close to going over his data plan. The guy in the phone (from the phone company) said it had to do with his web browser. He also explained to me that any app dh has on his phone that are connect to the internet would show up as this for data usage. When I got off the phone I asked what he was using the internet on his phone for. I was asking to see if it was something he could just cut back on or if we should just up his data plan. He start telling my to quit being paranoid. This starts a huge fight and he tells me I had an attitude when I asked and that is why he reacted upset. We have had our problems in the past with internet and certain sites but I was not asking to catch him doing something I was asking to see if upping the plan was legitimate. After calming down and talking about it we came to the conclusion to up the plan.
So I called them back to change the plan. I walked up to dh and asked for his phone because I thought I would have to turn it off and then on again or something like that so the change would take affect. I was in our room during this call because the living room was too loud. Dh comes and sits next to me and while I was waiting the rep on the phone I started to play with dh's phone (the guy on the phone was a new guy). He looks over and asked what I was doing and took his phone back and started looking at what I was doing. I told him I was bored and waiting. After that he refuses to give me back the phone, says he will give it when the guy says I need it. At the end of the conversation with the phone guy he says I have to confirm he recieved a text. He decided to shave while we waited and instead of letting me take care of the confirmation he stops shaving and stands next to me waiting for the text. Still wouldnt give me the phone. After I hung up my phone I asked him what the big deal was and he said I shouldnt have told him I needed the phone when I wanted to was play with it. He said I was hiding it from him. Umm....he was sitting right next me when I started playing with his phone. I started playing with it when the call started taking longer them I thought because the guys was new, I was trying to be patient. It kind of upset me the way dh acted. I really dont get what the big deal was, I would have done the same if it was my moms or sisters
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whowhat
by on Oct. 8, 2012 at 10:33 PM
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Maybe he's got some embarrassing, to him, sites in his browser history he doesn't want you to see. I delete mine once In a while so my husband won't see all the stuff I look up if he grabs my phone. People are going to tell you it's bc he's cheating on you.
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Daylorenasmom
by Member on Oct. 8, 2012 at 10:34 PM
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Well if you don't see it Im sure a lot of these women will point it out to you HE HAS SOMETHING TO HIDE FROM YOU......
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frndlyfn
by Emerald Member on Oct. 8, 2012 at 10:34 PM

Yes very suspicious behavior on his part..  We do not have internet or texting on our cellphone (thats right we only have one ).  I guess if you needed it for your job though it is worth it.

D.O.E.
by on Oct. 8, 2012 at 10:35 PM

there is a POF app....and lavalife.......he could be on one of those

RLT2
by on Oct. 8, 2012 at 10:36 PM

Sorry :(

Chelsey191
by Silver Member on Oct. 8, 2012 at 10:39 PM
he sounds like he has something to hide. SO can pick up my phone at any point if he wanted. It wouldnt bug me a bit. I have nothing to hide so its not a big deal.
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goodnightmama
by Gold Member on Oct. 8, 2012 at 10:42 PM
We used to have issues with him on the internet I found him going to sites no married man should be on. (not porn) we have been working through it for years, although lately any question that is brought up lately that has to do with his email, phone and such he freaks out and says the reason why he does is because I jave an attitude when I ask. As far as I know I have no attitude, its just a simple question because I am curious. Its just the way acted just now has made me wonder whats going on, how I talk to him about my concerns, am I wrong for feeling upset?

Quoting Daylorenasmom:

Well if you don't see it Im sure a lot of these women will point it out to you HE HAS SOMETHING TO HIDE FROM YOU......
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goodnightmama
by Gold Member on Oct. 8, 2012 at 10:48 PM
I know he does I <3 radio, netflix, solitaire, and some dinosaurs war game thing. I know the solitaire isnt connected to the web, that netflix is, and I <3 radio might be. As for the game dont know never played it. He works as a security gaurd during the night at a manufacturing company. Sounds boring so I know he needs some entertainment. I havent been to worried, or at least not until he acts like this.

Quoting D.O.E.:

there is a POF app....and lavalife.......he could be on one of those

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goodnightmama
by Gold Member on Oct. 8, 2012 at 11:03 PM
Bump
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Daylorenasmom
by Member on Oct. 9, 2012 at 12:06 AM
If he HAS nothing to HIDE FROM YOU then hen wouldn't be so defensive and freak about his phone but good luck hope its nothing although it doesn't sound like nothing


Quoting goodnightmama:

We used to have issues with him on the internet I found him going to sites no married man should be on. (not porn) we have been working through it for years, although lately any question that is brought up lately that has to do with his email, phone and such he freaks out and says the reason why he does is because I jave an attitude when I ask. As far as I know I have no attitude, its just a simple question because I am curious. Its just the way acted just now has made me wonder whats going on, how I talk to him about my concerns, am I wrong for feeling upset?



Quoting Daylorenasmom:

Well if you don't see it Im sure a lot of these women will point it out to you HE HAS SOMETHING TO HIDE FROM YOU......

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