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My dd is so mad.. She lives with her bf and his parents. She thinks this is so wrong and she wanted me to post and get you guys' opinions on this:

Both of his parents don't work. They have their home registered as a church so they pay no taxes even though they do no church type activities at all there. His mom gets child support for the bf and his little brother. The step father gets disability.

Her bf gets 1,000/month to go to college from the veterens benifits because the step dad is disabled.  When he got his check this month (it's the first check, school just started) His parents insisted that her bf give them half of it. Then bf got a student loan of 680.00 that he will end up having to pay back. It came on a debit-type card. Yesterday, his parents decided they wanted to go on a date day. His mom went in his room and demanded his card. Then she wanted the code. Bf told her that it was his money for school. She told him that she would leave him some.

They were gone all day long! When they got home last night, bf asked for his card back and my dd said that he had to beg for it! When he got it back his mom told him that she had left him 300 on it. They had spent over half of it.

Her bf just went and got his driver's license and his parents promised him a pick up that they had bought for him. He passed but they won't let him drive it. They still have to get up 3 hours early so they can catch the bus into town. They go to school M,W, and Fridays. His step dad insists all of a sudden that he wants to go fishing every morning and needs the truck. Does any of this sound right to you?

On top of all of this, my dd is resopnsible for cleaning the house and they are in charge of the cooking dinner 5 days out of the week. DD told me that they never leave their bedroom. DD and her bf are not allowed to close the bedroom door at any time and she found out that the other morning, the step dad got up early and was walking around nude while she slept with the bedroom door open right across the hall. These people really disturb me. What are your thoughts? Am I over reacting?

by on Oct. 26, 2012 at 10:11 AM
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melisawoosley
by on Oct. 26, 2012 at 10:24 AM
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Id offer them a place to live. With conditions of course to get started on a place of their own. They aren't getting anywhere like that.
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RobJar
by Member on Oct. 26, 2012 at 10:26 AM
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If your so concerned have the bf move in too. He's being screwed more than your dd
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silverdawn99
by Jamie on Oct. 26, 2012 at 10:27 AM

if she chose to leave home she has to live with her choice

if she wants to move back home let her know

NyiaBaby216
by on Oct. 26, 2012 at 10:28 AM
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Can I ask why? Not being rude at all. Just curious and I get everyone has their own rules, but him staying with you isnt any different than her staying over there. Minus the fact that with you, he wont be getting used.

Quoting Erna2:

We would not allow the bf to live here but she can come home anytime..

Quoting NyiaBaby216:

Over reacting? No, not IMO. That family sounds like a piece of work. Is there any way they could stay with you?


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Mrs.Tirado
by on Oct. 26, 2012 at 10:28 AM
you know you're not over reacting and you know its not right for your daughter to be the putting up with their bs!
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Paigesmommy78
by Gold Member on Oct. 26, 2012 at 10:29 AM

oh hell no that isso not even right i would not be letting my DD be around that kind of houeshold

owl0210
by on Oct. 26, 2012 at 10:32 AM

If I had a daughter I would not want her living there but like you said she made the choice and hopefully they'll be out of there soon. 

StoneColdKiller
by Platinum Member on Oct. 26, 2012 at 10:34 AM
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I would offer my home up. But that is the kind of person I am. I won't get used but if my child is really in love and I felt it was a serious relationship then I would help them. My parents did this for me. We however did pay rent (we were 18 and 19) couldn't afford $800 for our own place but could afford $300 my parents asked for. We also saved whatever we could and we all helped out in the house.

Mind you I'm a control freak and I would feel better to have my child under my roof then someone else being used.
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LiesLiesLies
by on Oct. 26, 2012 at 10:37 AM
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They could just move out and support themselves.

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Mrs.Tirado
by on Oct. 26, 2012 at 10:38 AM
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let me guess. your daughter is in love and can't stand being away from her bf. something similar like this happened to me and the outcome of it all was that my bf and I almost broke up and I til this very day distrust and hate being around my now inlaws. Seriously, there's not a big difference if the boyfriend stays with you. You'll be doing them a great favor and preventing a big fued. Trust me, if this continues there WILL be a fued.


Quoting NyiaBaby216:

Can I ask why? Not being rude at all. Just curious and I get everyone has their own rules, but him staying with you isnt any different than her staying over there. Minus the fact that with you, he wont be getting used.



Quoting Erna2:

We would not allow the bf to live here but she can come home anytime..

Quoting NyiaBaby216:

Over reacting? No, not IMO. That family sounds like a piece of work. Is there any way they could stay with you?



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