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My dd is so mad.. She lives with her bf and his parents. She thinks this is so wrong and she wanted me to post and get you guys' opinions on this:

Both of his parents don't work. They have their home registered as a church so they pay no taxes even though they do no church type activities at all there. His mom gets child support for the bf and his little brother. The step father gets disability.

Her bf gets 1,000/month to go to college from the veterens benifits because the step dad is disabled.  When he got his check this month (it's the first check, school just started) His parents insisted that her bf give them half of it. Then bf got a student loan of 680.00 that he will end up having to pay back. It came on a debit-type card. Yesterday, his parents decided they wanted to go on a date day. His mom went in his room and demanded his card. Then she wanted the code. Bf told her that it was his money for school. She told him that she would leave him some.

They were gone all day long! When they got home last night, bf asked for his card back and my dd said that he had to beg for it! When he got it back his mom told him that she had left him 300 on it. They had spent over half of it.

Her bf just went and got his driver's license and his parents promised him a pick up that they had bought for him. He passed but they won't let him drive it. They still have to get up 3 hours early so they can catch the bus into town. They go to school M,W, and Fridays. His step dad insists all of a sudden that he wants to go fishing every morning and needs the truck. Does any of this sound right to you?

On top of all of this, my dd is resopnsible for cleaning the house and they are in charge of the cooking dinner 5 days out of the week. DD told me that they never leave their bedroom. DD and her bf are not allowed to close the bedroom door at any time and she found out that the other morning, the step dad got up early and was walking around nude while she slept with the bedroom door open right across the hall. These people really disturb me. What are your thoughts? Am I over reacting?

by on Oct. 26, 2012 at 10:11 AM
Replies (121-128):
Caitlin10081989
by Ruby Member on Oct. 27, 2012 at 3:07 PM

Those people disturb me to. No, your not overreacting. 

Erna2
by Platinum Member on Oct. 27, 2012 at 3:42 PM

She hasn't texted me today. That means that they probably "talked" to her and she fell for their act. They do it all the time.  sigh....

Quoting Caitlin10081989:

Those people disturb me to. No, your not overreacting. 


brettsmomma
by Tammie on Oct. 27, 2012 at 3:46 PM

Do they pay rent? If not then thats their house their rules. 


Erna2
by Platinum Member on Oct. 27, 2012 at 3:52 PM

I understand rent. But they are taking 75% of their son's student loan money every month, plus the cs they get for him. Then they insist that dd and her bf to do all the cleaning as well. DD had no privacy at all either. She sleeps on the couch and if they are studying the little brother has to be in the same room with the door open at all times. I just found out that the reason that they took his student loan card the other day is because they wanted to spend the day at the casino. They gambled away almost 900.00 of his student loan money! That is not rent!

Quoting brettsmomma:

Do they pay rent? If not then thats their house their rules. 


brettsmomma
by Tammie on Oct. 27, 2012 at 3:54 PM
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I agree 100% they way they are being treated is horrible. But the solution is a very simple one. Get their own apt. 

Quoting Erna2:

I understand rent. But they are taking 75% of their son's student loan money every month, plus the cs they get for him. Then they insist that dd and her bf to do all the cleaning as well. DD had no privacy at all either. She sleeps on the couch and if they are studying the little brother has to be in the same room with the door open at all times. I just found out that the reason that they took his student loan card the other day is because they wanted to spend the day at the casino. They gambled away almost 900.00 of his student loan money! That is not rent!

Quoting brettsmomma:

Do they pay rent? If not then thats their house their rules. 




Erna2
by Platinum Member on Oct. 27, 2012 at 4:01 PM

I agree fully. But he is so wishy washy, he gives in to what ever his mom wants. At this rate, he will never have the money. I was pissed once because dd called and said that she needed some info for a student loan. She wanted my and dh's social security numbers. I was going to give them to her, until I heard dd's bf's mom in the background tell dd that she needs to give HER our info and she would do the paperwork for dd later!! Hell no! Those people would have used our info! Hell, they are frauding the government and their own child to live the high life, I know they would do it to me and dh!!!!

Quoting brettsmomma:

I agree 100% they way they are being treated is horrible. But the solution is a very simple one. Get their own apt. 

Quoting Erna2:

I understand rent. But they are taking 75% of their son's student loan money every month, plus the cs they get for him. Then they insist that dd and her bf to do all the cleaning as well. DD had no privacy at all either. She sleeps on the couch and if they are studying the little brother has to be in the same room with the door open at all times. I just found out that the reason that they took his student loan card the other day is because they wanted to spend the day at the casino. They gambled away almost 900.00 of his student loan money! That is not rent!

Quoting brettsmomma:

Do they pay rent? If not then thats their house their rules. 




brettsmomma
by Tammie on Oct. 27, 2012 at 4:04 PM

Honestly your daughter really needs to take a step back and look at what she is getting into. I'm sure her BF has good qualities however we both know you have to take in the total picture. At some point he needs to leave their house. If he cant why even waste time with him. 


*edit i only say this because in Your OP It says she is curious and wanted our opinion. I know as a mother you need to step back and allow her to develop her own set of skills. 

Quoting Erna2:

I agree fully. But he is so wishy washy, he gives in to what ever his mom wants. At this rate, he will never have the money. I was pissed once because dd called and said that she needed some info for a student loan. She wanted my and dh's social security numbers. I was going to give them to her, until I heard dd's bf's mom in the background tell dd that she needs to give HER our info and she would do the paperwork for dd later!! Hell no! Those people would have used our info! Hell, they are frauding the government and their own child to live the high life, I know they would do it to me and dh!!!!

Quoting brettsmomma:

I agree 100% they way they are being treated is horrible. But the solution is a very simple one. Get their own apt. 

Quoting Erna2:

I understand rent. But they are taking 75% of their son's student loan money every month, plus the cs they get for him. Then they insist that dd and her bf to do all the cleaning as well. DD had no privacy at all either. She sleeps on the couch and if they are studying the little brother has to be in the same room with the door open at all times. I just found out that the reason that they took his student loan card the other day is because they wanted to spend the day at the casino. They gambled away almost 900.00 of his student loan money! That is not rent!

Quoting brettsmomma:

Do they pay rent? If not then thats their house their rules. 






Erna2
by Platinum Member on Oct. 27, 2012 at 4:07 PM

I don't know. He is like a kid. If they get into an arguement, he goes literally crying to his mom about it and then she goes to dd and talks to her about her and bf's fight! It's so wierd!!!!

Quoting brettsmomma:

Honestly your daughter really needs to take a step back and look at what she is getting into. I'm sure her BF has good qualities however we both know you have to take in the total picture. At some point he needs to leave their house. If he cant why even waste time with him. 

Quoting Erna2:

I agree fully. But he is so wishy washy, he gives in to what ever his mom wants. At this rate, he will never have the money. I was pissed once because dd called and said that she needed some info for a student loan. She wanted my and dh's social security numbers. I was going to give them to her, until I heard dd's bf's mom in the background tell dd that she needs to give HER our info and she would do the paperwork for dd later!! Hell no! Those people would have used our info! Hell, they are frauding the government and their own child to live the high life, I know they would do it to me and dh!!!!

Quoting brettsmomma:

I agree 100% they way they are being treated is horrible. But the solution is a very simple one. Get their own apt. 

Quoting Erna2:

I understand rent. But they are taking 75% of their son's student loan money every month, plus the cs they get for him. Then they insist that dd and her bf to do all the cleaning as well. DD had no privacy at all either. She sleeps on the couch and if they are studying the little brother has to be in the same room with the door open at all times. I just found out that the reason that they took his student loan card the other day is because they wanted to spend the day at the casino. They gambled away almost 900.00 of his student loan money! That is not rent!

Quoting brettsmomma:

Do they pay rent? If not then thats their house their rules. 






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