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Sleepover with opposite sex at 7 years old in same bed (update)

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Hey everyone, I am not fake, I have been on cafemom before but it was a very long time ago and I can't remember any of my info so I made a new one (just got re-married so I needed a fresh start anyways :))

Okay so my step kids just got here from there moms for the weekend and at dinner sd said that her brother had a sleepover last night with the girl he has a crush on at his bm's house. She said they slept in the same bed. He is 6 and the girl was 7. I find this completely and totally inappropriate. Am I wrong?



So I am reading the responses and just want to clarify a few things. I understand I am the "step mom". I am not poking my nose in her (BM's) business.  I just wanted to get ya'lls opinions to see if I was the only one who see's it wrong..

His older sister also said when she walked into the bedroom the girl was sleeping on top of him!!! I think that's just asking for problems later on in life. It may have been meant to be "innocent" but I just find it totally not okay for them to be sharing a bed!

Thanks to everyone for their input. I am not going to say anything to BM, because I agree with ya'll that it's not my place but if it continues to happen my hubby will address it as he see's fit :)

by on Nov. 9, 2012 at 8:35 PM
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by on Nov. 14, 2012 at 8:39 PM
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Well if you will not let them do it as pre teens or teenagers then why let them do it now?

by Bronze Member on Nov. 18, 2012 at 12:16 PM

If it bothered YOUR child that much that you heard about it when he/she came home then the CHILD's FATHER (your current husband)  should tell the mother of the house where it occurred that the child the TWO of you have together was upset  seeing it and it should maybe not occurr when YOUR child is sleeping there over night. Otherwise, its not your house, not your child directly involved so you should not speak to the mother unless you two have a hey lets be BFF  relationship. It sounds like you two do NOT have that.

by on Nov. 19, 2012 at 2:34 AM

  That is definitely unacceptable and yes, you husband will need to speak with his ex wife about that.  Sure, right now the children are not thinking in those terms right now because they only see each other as friends but it is better to nip in the bud now then have trouble later.  Thank goodness the older sister was so observant. 

by on Nov. 19, 2012 at 6:10 AM
Shouldnt surprise me on here but it does that people told you since you are the step mom to mind your own business... wow! And on to the point of your post, i too find that wrong and inappropriate. Your dh needs to address this w/ their mother.
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by on Nov. 19, 2012 at 8:12 AM
No, IMO that is very inappropriate and is just begging for trouble!
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by on Nov. 19, 2012 at 8:24 AM
Wow! No you are not wrong. That shouldn't happen.
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