When is enough, enough and actually beneficial to the kids?? Advice please!
O.K. ladies, a little back story first.....my DH and I have been married for 3 years, together for 7....I have an 11 year old DD and we have a 17 mo DS together. He's always been a wonderful provider for the family etc. but we've always had an underlying tension that has finally just erupted....I can't take it anymore. Since DS has been born, DH has totally lost interest in myself or my DD....I guess cause she's not his child. He always treated her like his own, but since DS he constantly stays on her, never has anything nice to say etc. I know it's also got something to do with her age, she's a smart mouth preteen some days, but also a very helpful, smart girl, and I can't watch this anymore....he's gotten to where he'll get pissed at me and go out and drink, come home, or not etc.....always blames his actions on myself and DD. I finally told him just to leave if he was so miserable with us...and he did Nov 1. My dilemma is my DS, who really misses his dad, and DH is having a really hard time as well with being away from DS. DS spent the whole weekend with him, and we will continue to do that etc....but I don't even think DH misses me and DD.....Should I stick this out and move on, or try to work it out for DS??? I'm so confused, and I have to think about DD as well, it's just not fair to her, what do u ladies think??