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She f***ed someone in the bathroom and we think her husband should know. ***EDIT***

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All us neighbor gals went out for girls night and one of the gals hooked up andscrewed some random stranger in the mens room at the bar. We are all married and we are all friends. Our husbands are all friends with her hubby and we all party together every weekend. DH and the other husbands think someone should tell him what his wife did.

Thoughts?

 

Ok. So I was away for a couple of days and didn't have a chance to keep up with all of the replies.

4 things I would like to address:

a) YES... it was obvious what was going on the bathroom. A bunch of guys at the bar heard the "noise" and took turns entering the bathroom to get a peek. Two gals from our group went INTO the bathroom to make sure it was our friend (we were about to panic because we couldn't find her anywhere). Moments after returning to our table, the manager came to us and kicked her out for her "sexual acts."

b) YES... we party with our neighbors at least one night every weekend. We sit in driveways while the kids play in the culdesac and the adults hang out and have a beer or two. I say party because there are usually at least 15 of us, which to me qualifies as more than a "gathering." lol! My kids do not suffer. I don't drink every weekend. Much of our time is actually spent WITH the kids and all of the neighbors actively keeping an eye on each others children. It's not a booze fest, for those of you who like to make things up for drama sake.

c) For those of you saying STFU???? Right back at you! I'm here seeking your thoughts! Not your judgement. WHERE did I say I was ABSOLUTELY going to tell him? NOwhere... because I came here for your thoughts before making the determination... and I plan on sharing your thoughts with the other neighbor gals who feel the same as I do.

d) OF FUCKING COURSE my husband (and the other gals husbands) know. We all (except for the gal who screwed someone in the bathroom) have healthy marriages and I have told EVERY one of my friends to watch what they tell me because I share EVERYTHING with DH. I make no secret of that. Our friend who chose to involve us so deeply in her personal life also knew this. As for her? We all knew her marriage sucked. But she took advantage of us by putting us all in a really awkward position. If she wanted to go fuck some stranger, she should have done it on her own time and not involved the entire neighborhood. That is selfish and inconsiderate of her! And she didn't even appologize to us OR our friend who had to leave her MEAL to take her home because she got kicked out of the bar.

AND NO! No one has said anything... yet.

by on Nov. 13, 2012 at 7:33 PM
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boys2men2soon
by Silver Member on Nov. 15, 2012 at 11:57 AM

I think one of the Husbands should tell him.    She was well aware she was with neighbors....who tell the DH's the antics of the night, so this should not come as a surprise to her.    Has she said anything to any of you after the incident?   

Your cul de sac sounds like mine! 




lilcaesarsmama
by on Nov. 15, 2012 at 12:01 PM
that's a really tough situation for all of you and one in which your friend created for everyone. the truth is going to eventually come out. i believe it's better now than later. go with your gut instinct on this and if all of you decide to tell him, please treat him with dignity and respect.
anesmom
by on Nov. 15, 2012 at 12:08 PM

No I wouldn't tell him.But if I had a friend like her, she just lost me as a friend. I can respect her privacy, but I cannot respect what she did.Frends ssouldn't impose their mistakes on other people like that, we all are responsible for our actions. Man or woman alike. I would be PISSED if a friend put me in a situation like that, she would hear from me.

kansasmom1978
by on Nov. 15, 2012 at 12:11 PM

I myself would not tell my husband some chic got laid in the bathroom. A decent friend does not spread shit like that. If you want to spout off go tell her husband but gossiping is stupid.

jamesmommy1208
by on Nov. 15, 2012 at 1:07 PM
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The husband should know. All of his "friends" ( husbands) should have a sit down and let him know.
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jamesmommy1208
by on Nov. 15, 2012 at 1:15 PM
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Yup only post that seems to make sense. What happened to doing the right thing? Poor man doesnt even know but all his " friends" do and still haven't told him :(

Quoting godsgirl26:

I heart this ...



Quoting DOMTITI:

It seems like a lot of the comments are surrounded around the friend being "upset" with them. I am sooo not scared of my friends. If they are mad, they can get over it, especially in situations like this one. They know who I am and how I handle business. No sugar coating and no ass kissing. If you conduct yourself in a disgusting manner and include me in it, then you open the door for the consequences. I am SO glad my friends are loyal. That would not fly in my "circle". I would of dragged her ass out the bathroom before it  happened. We are very protective over each other and have been friend for decades. If they are doing dirt, it is not when its with the "group".


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kaylasmom22
by Silver Member on Nov. 15, 2012 at 1:40 PM
Oh I know your not asking that,cause what I have read from you makes you the Queen of stupid people.

Quoting charliebean:

Are you high or just stupid?



Quoting kaylasmom22:

Lmao,yep you sure did know who u were sleeping with. I'm dying here





Quoting charliebean:

Oh I knew who I was sleeping with, dear. What I didn't know was who my husband was sleeping with, which I think is understandable seeing as how I'm not psychic. Too bad I didn't have any "friends" like you to do absolutely nothing about it and not help prevent me from getting a disease that can kill me.







Quoting kaylasmom22:

Thats why you need to know who you sleeping with. Lol.Since the op doesn't care to respond to the questions being ask im off to bed.Good night.









Quoting charliebean:

Yes, thank your God that you've never had a spouse cheat on you and give you an STD. I have. It's not all fucking sparkles and sunshine.











Quoting kaylasmom22:

Oh I know you gave heard of STD thanks God I have never had one. Lmao













Quoting charliebean:

Of course they're two different things, that's why it's called a comparison. You can't compare two of the same thing.















I swear, it's like some of you women have never heard of STD's. Or the Golden Rule.















Really? That's your excuse? "They might be in an open marriage"? Have you ever heard of Occam's Razor?
















Quoting kaylasmom22:

Very different,helping a person that is wounded and might die is not the same as telling someone their wife cheated. You are not saving a life but destroying a marriage.(granted the wife did it on her own.) Who knows they might have an open marriage,are departed and just putting up a fright. No one knows what goes on behind close doors.

















Quoting charliebean:

All I'm seeing is "it's not your place, it's not your place". It's not your place to help a stranger bleeding on the side of the road either, but we all know it's the right thing to do. Whatever happened to 'do onto others as you would have them do onto you' and having compassion for your fellow humans? We're all so selfish and so concerned with protecting our own asses it's disgusting.

Tell him, OP.
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kelliamber006
by Member on Nov. 15, 2012 at 2:00 PM

they could havebeen kissing....not that it makes it ANY better.... but ask her first maybe??

steph_hailee
by on Nov. 15, 2012 at 2:02 PM
I think you guys should tell him
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godsgirl26
by ♥Char2theMaine♥ on Nov. 15, 2012 at 2:05 PM
* Queen of stupid people * hahah.

Quoting kaylasmom22:

Oh I know your not asking that,cause what I have read from you makes you the Queen of stupid people.



Quoting charliebean:

Are you high or just stupid?





Quoting kaylasmom22:

Lmao,yep you sure did know who u were sleeping with. I'm dying here







Quoting charliebean:

Oh I knew who I was sleeping with, dear. What I didn't know was who my husband was sleeping with, which I think is understandable seeing as how I'm not psychic. Too bad I didn't have any "friends" like you to do absolutely nothing about it and not help prevent me from getting a disease that can kill me.









Quoting kaylasmom22:

Thats why you need to know who you sleeping with. Lol.Since the op doesn't care to respond to the questions being ask im off to bed.Good night.











Quoting charliebean:

Yes, thank your God that you've never had a spouse cheat on you and give you an STD. I have. It's not all fucking sparkles and sunshine.













Quoting kaylasmom22:

Oh I know you gave heard of STD thanks God I have never had one. Lmao















Quoting charliebean:

Of course they're two different things, that's why it's called a comparison. You can't compare two of the same thing.

















I swear, it's like some of you women have never heard of STD's. Or the Golden Rule.

















Really? That's your excuse? "They might be in an open marriage"? Have you ever heard of Occam's Razor?


















Quoting kaylasmom22:

Very different,helping a person that is wounded and might die is not the same as telling someone their wife cheated. You are not saving a life but destroying a marriage.(granted the wife did it on her own.) Who knows they might have an open marriage,are departed and just putting up a fright. No one knows what goes on behind close doors.



















Quoting charliebean:

All I'm seeing is "it's not your place, it's not your place". It's not your place to help a stranger bleeding on the side of the road either, but we all know it's the right thing to do. Whatever happened to 'do onto others as you would have them do onto you' and having compassion for your fellow humans? We're all so selfish and so concerned with protecting our own asses it's disgusting.

Tell him, OP.
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