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She f***ed someone in the bathroom and we think her husband should know. ***EDIT***

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All us neighbor gals went out for girls night and one of the gals hooked up andscrewed some random stranger in the mens room at the bar. We are all married and we are all friends. Our husbands are all friends with her hubby and we all party together every weekend. DH and the other husbands think someone should tell him what his wife did.

Thoughts?

 

Ok. So I was away for a couple of days and didn't have a chance to keep up with all of the replies.

4 things I would like to address:

a) YES... it was obvious what was going on the bathroom. A bunch of guys at the bar heard the "noise" and took turns entering the bathroom to get a peek. Two gals from our group went INTO the bathroom to make sure it was our friend (we were about to panic because we couldn't find her anywhere). Moments after returning to our table, the manager came to us and kicked her out for her "sexual acts."

b) YES... we party with our neighbors at least one night every weekend. We sit in driveways while the kids play in the culdesac and the adults hang out and have a beer or two. I say party because there are usually at least 15 of us, which to me qualifies as more than a "gathering." lol! My kids do not suffer. I don't drink every weekend. Much of our time is actually spent WITH the kids and all of the neighbors actively keeping an eye on each others children. It's not a booze fest, for those of you who like to make things up for drama sake.

c) For those of you saying STFU???? Right back at you! I'm here seeking your thoughts! Not your judgement. WHERE did I say I was ABSOLUTELY going to tell him? NOwhere... because I came here for your thoughts before making the determination... and I plan on sharing your thoughts with the other neighbor gals who feel the same as I do.

d) OF FUCKING COURSE my husband (and the other gals husbands) know. We all (except for the gal who screwed someone in the bathroom) have healthy marriages and I have told EVERY one of my friends to watch what they tell me because I share EVERYTHING with DH. I make no secret of that. Our friend who chose to involve us so deeply in her personal life also knew this. As for her? We all knew her marriage sucked. But she took advantage of us by putting us all in a really awkward position. If she wanted to go fuck some stranger, she should have done it on her own time and not involved the entire neighborhood. That is selfish and inconsiderate of her! And she didn't even appologize to us OR our friend who had to leave her MEAL to take her home because she got kicked out of the bar.

AND NO! No one has said anything... yet.

by on Nov. 13, 2012 at 7:33 PM
Replies (251-260):
mommyg97
by on Nov. 15, 2012 at 2:05 PM
You can't tell. You don't know what goes on behind closed doors at her house. Give her a chance to tell him herself and stay out of it as much as you can.
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Megan11587
by on Nov. 15, 2012 at 2:05 PM
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 I think you should have the guys tell him.

charliebean
by on Nov. 15, 2012 at 6:45 PM
I never claimed to be a genius, but I at least have common sense and can form coherent sentences.

Quoting kaylasmom22:

Oh I know your not asking that,cause what I have read from you makes you the Queen of stupid people.



Quoting charliebean:

Are you high or just stupid?





Quoting kaylasmom22:

Lmao,yep you sure did know who u were sleeping with. I'm dying here







Quoting charliebean:

Oh I knew who I was sleeping with, dear. What I didn't know was who my husband was sleeping with, which I think is understandable seeing as how I'm not psychic. Too bad I didn't have any "friends" like you to do absolutely nothing about it and not help prevent me from getting a disease that can kill me.









Quoting kaylasmom22:

Thats why you need to know who you sleeping with. Lol.Since the op doesn't care to respond to the questions being ask im off to bed.Good night.











Quoting charliebean:

Yes, thank your God that you've never had a spouse cheat on you and give you an STD. I have. It's not all fucking sparkles and sunshine.













Quoting kaylasmom22:

Oh I know you gave heard of STD thanks God I have never had one. Lmao















Quoting charliebean:

Of course they're two different things, that's why it's called a comparison. You can't compare two of the same thing.

















I swear, it's like some of you women have never heard of STD's. Or the Golden Rule.

















Really? That's your excuse? "They might be in an open marriage"? Have you ever heard of Occam's Razor?


















Quoting kaylasmom22:

Very different,helping a person that is wounded and might die is not the same as telling someone their wife cheated. You are not saving a life but destroying a marriage.(granted the wife did it on her own.) Who knows they might have an open marriage,are departed and just putting up a fright. No one knows what goes on behind close doors.



















Quoting charliebean:

All I'm seeing is "it's not your place, it's not your place". It's not your place to help a stranger bleeding on the side of the road either, but we all know it's the right thing to do. Whatever happened to 'do onto others as you would have them do onto you' and having compassion for your fellow humans? We're all so selfish and so concerned with protecting our own asses it's disgusting.

Tell him, OP.
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kaylasmom22
by Silver Member on Nov. 15, 2012 at 6:52 PM
I prefer to be called stupid cause I don't make coherent sentences. Than to make stupid choices like you have. At least I can correct my writing but you can't go back and undo the past.

Quoting charliebean:

I never claimed to be a genius, but I at least have common sense and can form coherent sentences.



Quoting kaylasmom22:

Oh I know your not asking that,cause what I have read from you makes you the Queen of stupid people.





Quoting charliebean:

Are you high or just stupid?







Quoting kaylasmom22:

Lmao,yep you sure did know who u were sleeping with. I'm dying here









Quoting charliebean:

Oh I knew who I was sleeping with, dear. What I didn't know was who my husband was sleeping with, which I think is understandable seeing as how I'm not psychic. Too bad I didn't have any "friends" like you to do absolutely nothing about it and not help prevent me from getting a disease that can kill me.











Quoting kaylasmom22:

Thats why you need to know who you sleeping with. Lol.Since the op doesn't care to respond to the questions being ask im off to bed.Good night.













Quoting charliebean:

Yes, thank your God that you've never had a spouse cheat on you and give you an STD. I have. It's not all fucking sparkles and sunshine.















Quoting kaylasmom22:

Oh I know you gave heard of STD thanks God I have never had one. Lmao

















Quoting charliebean:

Of course they're two different things, that's why it's called a comparison. You can't compare two of the same thing.



















I swear, it's like some of you women have never heard of STD's. Or the Golden Rule.



















Really? That's your excuse? "They might be in an open marriage"? Have you ever heard of Occam's Razor?




















Quoting kaylasmom22:

Very different,helping a person that is wounded and might die is not the same as telling someone their wife cheated. You are not saving a life but destroying a marriage.(granted the wife did it on her own.) Who knows they might have an open marriage,are departed and just putting up a fright. No one knows what goes on behind close doors.





















Quoting charliebean:

All I'm seeing is "it's not your place, it's not your place". It's not your place to help a stranger bleeding on the side of the road either, but we all know it's the right thing to do. Whatever happened to 'do onto others as you would have them do onto you' and having compassion for your fellow humans? We're all so selfish and so concerned with protecting our own asses it's disgusting.

Tell him, OP.
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Sanctimommy
by Platinum Member on Nov. 15, 2012 at 6:54 PM
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I would quietly and privately suggest to the man that he get tested for STD's and leave it at that. He'll ask why of course, but I'd just tell him I didn't want to answer anymore questions about it, just thought he might look into getting tested for STD's.

charliebean
by on Nov. 15, 2012 at 7:02 PM
Erm, I don't know if you're aware of this, but I didn't CHOOSE to be cheated on and given an STD. Or are you one of those crazies that thinks the other is responsible for one's infidelity?

Quoting kaylasmom22:

I prefer to be called stupid cause I don't make coherent sentences. Than to make stupid choices like you have. At least I can correct my writing but you can't go back and undo the past.



Quoting charliebean:

I never claimed to be a genius, but I at least have common sense and can form coherent sentences.





Quoting kaylasmom22:

Oh I know your not asking that,cause what I have read from you makes you the Queen of stupid people.







Quoting charliebean:

Are you high or just stupid?









Quoting kaylasmom22:

Lmao,yep you sure did know who u were sleeping with. I'm dying here











Quoting charliebean:

Oh I knew who I was sleeping with, dear. What I didn't know was who my husband was sleeping with, which I think is understandable seeing as how I'm not psychic. Too bad I didn't have any "friends" like you to do absolutely nothing about it and not help prevent me from getting a disease that can kill me.













Quoting kaylasmom22:

Thats why you need to know who you sleeping with. Lol.Since the op doesn't care to respond to the questions being ask im off to bed.Good night.















Quoting charliebean:

Yes, thank your God that you've never had a spouse cheat on you and give you an STD. I have. It's not all fucking sparkles and sunshine.

















Quoting kaylasmom22:

Oh I know you gave heard of STD thanks God I have never had one. Lmao



















Quoting charliebean:

Of course they're two different things, that's why it's called a comparison. You can't compare two of the same thing.





















I swear, it's like some of you women have never heard of STD's. Or the Golden Rule.





















Really? That's your excuse? "They might be in an open marriage"? Have you ever heard of Occam's Razor?






















Quoting kaylasmom22:

Very different,helping a person that is wounded and might die is not the same as telling someone their wife cheated. You are not saving a life but destroying a marriage.(granted the wife did it on her own.) Who knows they might have an open marriage,are departed and just putting up a fright. No one knows what goes on behind close doors.























Quoting charliebean:

All I'm seeing is "it's not your place, it's not your place". It's not your place to help a stranger bleeding on the side of the road either, but we all know it's the right thing to do. Whatever happened to 'do onto others as you would have them do onto you' and having compassion for your fellow humans? We're all so selfish and so concerned with protecting our own asses it's disgusting.

Tell him, OP.
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kaylasmom22
by Silver Member on Nov. 15, 2012 at 7:10 PM
Oh I'm not talking about STD,I'm talking about other stupid choices you have made. You seem eager to tell everyone about your STD's.I would be embarrassed to talk about it.

Quoting charliebean:

Erm, I don't know if you're aware of this, but I didn't CHOOSE to be cheated on and given an STD. Or are you one of those crazies that thinks the other is responsible for one's infidelity?



Quoting kaylasmom22:

I prefer to be called stupid cause I don't make coherent sentences. Than to make stupid choices like you have. At least I can correct my writing but you can't go back and undo the past.





Quoting charliebean:

I never claimed to be a genius, but I at least have common sense and can form coherent sentences.







Quoting kaylasmom22:

Oh I know your not asking that,cause what I have read from you makes you the Queen of stupid people.









Quoting charliebean:

Are you high or just stupid?











Quoting kaylasmom22:

Lmao,yep you sure did know who u were sleeping with. I'm dying here













Quoting charliebean:

Oh I knew who I was sleeping with, dear. What I didn't know was who my husband was sleeping with, which I think is understandable seeing as how I'm not psychic. Too bad I didn't have any "friends" like you to do absolutely nothing about it and not help prevent me from getting a disease that can kill me.















Quoting kaylasmom22:

Thats why you need to know who you sleeping with. Lol.Since the op doesn't care to respond to the questions being ask im off to bed.Good night.

















Quoting charliebean:

Yes, thank your God that you've never had a spouse cheat on you and give you an STD. I have. It's not all fucking sparkles and sunshine.



















Quoting kaylasmom22:

Oh I know you gave heard of STD thanks God I have never had one. Lmao





















Quoting charliebean:

Of course they're two different things, that's why it's called a comparison. You can't compare two of the same thing.























I swear, it's like some of you women have never heard of STD's. Or the Golden Rule.























Really? That's your excuse? "They might be in an open marriage"? Have you ever heard of Occam's Razor?
























Quoting kaylasmom22:

Very different,helping a person that is wounded and might die is not the same as telling someone their wife cheated. You are not saving a life but destroying a marriage.(granted the wife did it on her own.) Who knows they might have an open marriage,are departed and just putting up a fright. No one knows what goes on behind close doors.

























Quoting charliebean:

All I'm seeing is "it's not your place, it's not your place". It's not your place to help a stranger bleeding on the side of the road either, but we all know it's the right thing to do. Whatever happened to 'do onto others as you would have them do onto you' and having compassion for your fellow humans? We're all so selfish and so concerned with protecting our own asses it's disgusting.

Tell him, OP.
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charliebean
by on Nov. 15, 2012 at 7:20 PM
Lemme guess, it's my fault for marrying him in the first place? Lol

And it's called sharing a story to get a point across, ever heard of it? And you say that like I should be ashamed. I wasn't the one cheating on my spouse with dirty women and I didn't choose to get a possibly deadly disease. If it had been my fault, then yeah, I could see being embarrassed about it. There's not really anything embarrassing about getting a disease you didn't want.


Quoting kaylasmom22:

Oh I'm not talking about STD,I'm talking about other stupid choices you have made. You seem eager to tell everyone about your STD's.I would be embarrassed to talk about it.



Quoting charliebean:

Erm, I don't know if you're aware of this, but I didn't CHOOSE to be cheated on and given an STD. Or are you one of those crazies that thinks the other is responsible for one's infidelity?





Quoting kaylasmom22:

I prefer to be called stupid cause I don't make coherent sentences. Than to make stupid choices like you have. At least I can correct my writing but you can't go back and undo the past.







Quoting charliebean:

I never claimed to be a genius, but I at least have common sense and can form coherent sentences.









Quoting kaylasmom22:

Oh I know your not asking that,cause what I have read from you makes you the Queen of stupid people.











Quoting charliebean:

Are you high or just stupid?













Quoting kaylasmom22:

Lmao,yep you sure did know who u were sleeping with. I'm dying here















Quoting charliebean:

Oh I knew who I was sleeping with, dear. What I didn't know was who my husband was sleeping with, which I think is understandable seeing as how I'm not psychic. Too bad I didn't have any "friends" like you to do absolutely nothing about it and not help prevent me from getting a disease that can kill me.

















Quoting kaylasmom22:

Thats why you need to know who you sleeping with. Lol.Since the op doesn't care to respond to the questions being ask im off to bed.Good night.



















Quoting charliebean:

Yes, thank your God that you've never had a spouse cheat on you and give you an STD. I have. It's not all fucking sparkles and sunshine.





















Quoting kaylasmom22:

Oh I know you gave heard of STD thanks God I have never had one. Lmao























Quoting charliebean:

Of course they're two different things, that's why it's called a comparison. You can't compare two of the same thing.

























I swear, it's like some of you women have never heard of STD's. Or the Golden Rule.

























Really? That's your excuse? "They might be in an open marriage"? Have you ever heard of Occam's Razor?


























Quoting kaylasmom22:

Very different,helping a person that is wounded and might die is not the same as telling someone their wife cheated. You are not saving a life but destroying a marriage.(granted the wife did it on her own.) Who knows they might have an open marriage,are departed and just putting up a fright. No one knows what goes on behind close doors.



























Quoting charliebean:

All I'm seeing is "it's not your place, it's not your place". It's not your place to help a stranger bleeding on the side of the road either, but we all know it's the right thing to do. Whatever happened to 'do onto others as you would have them do onto you' and having compassion for your fellow humans? We're all so selfish and so concerned with protecting our own asses it's disgusting.

Tell him, OP.
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chalisa0
by Kim on Nov. 15, 2012 at 7:26 PM
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You should tell her to tell her husband.  Give her a time limit, and say "if you don't tell him, we will."  He has a right to know that she's endangering him and exposing him to a whole slew of std's.

kaylasmom22
by Silver Member on Nov. 15, 2012 at 8:33 PM
Oh lawd you don't get it. Good night lady

Quoting charliebean:

Lemme guess, it's my fault for marrying him in the first place? Lol



And it's called sharing a story to get a point across, ever heard of it? And you say that like I should be ashamed. I wasn't the one cheating on my spouse with dirty women and I didn't choose to get a possibly deadly disease. If it had been my fault, then yeah, I could see being embarrassed about it. There's not really anything embarrassing about getting a disease you didn't want.




Quoting kaylasmom22:

Oh I'm not talking about STD,I'm talking about other stupid choices you have made. You seem eager to tell everyone about your STD's.I would be embarrassed to talk about it.





Quoting charliebean:

Erm, I don't know if you're aware of this, but I didn't CHOOSE to be cheated on and given an STD. Or are you one of those crazies that thinks the other is responsible for one's infidelity?







Quoting kaylasmom22:

I prefer to be called stupid cause I don't make coherent sentences. Than to make stupid choices like you have. At least I can correct my writing but you can't go back and undo the past.









Quoting charliebean:

I never claimed to be a genius, but I at least have common sense and can form coherent sentences.











Quoting kaylasmom22:

Oh I know your not asking that,cause what I have read from you makes you the Queen of stupid people.













Quoting charliebean:

Are you high or just stupid?















Quoting kaylasmom22:

Lmao,yep you sure did know who u were sleeping with. I'm dying here

















Quoting charliebean:

Oh I knew who I was sleeping with, dear. What I didn't know was who my husband was sleeping with, which I think is understandable seeing as how I'm not psychic. Too bad I didn't have any "friends" like you to do absolutely nothing about it and not help prevent me from getting a disease that can kill me.



















Quoting kaylasmom22:

Thats why you need to know who you sleeping with. Lol.Since the op doesn't care to respond to the questions being ask im off to bed.Good night.





















Quoting charliebean:

Yes, thank your God that you've never had a spouse cheat on you and give you an STD. I have. It's not all fucking sparkles and sunshine.























Quoting kaylasmom22:

Oh I know you gave heard of STD thanks God I have never had one. Lmao

























Quoting charliebean:

Of course they're two different things, that's why it's called a comparison. You can't compare two of the same thing.



























I swear, it's like some of you women have never heard of STD's. Or the Golden Rule.



























Really? That's your excuse? "They might be in an open marriage"? Have you ever heard of Occam's Razor?




























Quoting kaylasmom22:

Very different,helping a person that is wounded and might die is not the same as telling someone their wife cheated. You are not saving a life but destroying a marriage.(granted the wife did it on her own.) Who knows they might have an open marriage,are departed and just putting up a fright. No one knows what goes on behind close doors.





























Quoting charliebean:

All I'm seeing is "it's not your place, it's not your place". It's not your place to help a stranger bleeding on the side of the road either, but we all know it's the right thing to do. Whatever happened to 'do onto others as you would have them do onto you' and having compassion for your fellow humans? We're all so selfish and so concerned with protecting our own asses it's disgusting.

Tell him, OP.
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