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She f***ed someone in the bathroom and we think her husband should know. ***EDIT***

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All us neighbor gals went out for girls night and one of the gals hooked up andscrewed some random stranger in the mens room at the bar. We are all married and we are all friends. Our husbands are all friends with her hubby and we all party together every weekend. DH and the other husbands think someone should tell him what his wife did.

Thoughts?

 

Ok. So I was away for a couple of days and didn't have a chance to keep up with all of the replies.

4 things I would like to address:

a) YES... it was obvious what was going on the bathroom. A bunch of guys at the bar heard the "noise" and took turns entering the bathroom to get a peek. Two gals from our group went INTO the bathroom to make sure it was our friend (we were about to panic because we couldn't find her anywhere). Moments after returning to our table, the manager came to us and kicked her out for her "sexual acts."

b) YES... we party with our neighbors at least one night every weekend. We sit in driveways while the kids play in the culdesac and the adults hang out and have a beer or two. I say party because there are usually at least 15 of us, which to me qualifies as more than a "gathering." lol! My kids do not suffer. I don't drink every weekend. Much of our time is actually spent WITH the kids and all of the neighbors actively keeping an eye on each others children. It's not a booze fest, for those of you who like to make things up for drama sake.

c) For those of you saying STFU???? Right back at you! I'm here seeking your thoughts! Not your judgement. WHERE did I say I was ABSOLUTELY going to tell him? NOwhere... because I came here for your thoughts before making the determination... and I plan on sharing your thoughts with the other neighbor gals who feel the same as I do.

d) OF FUCKING COURSE my husband (and the other gals husbands) know. We all (except for the gal who screwed someone in the bathroom) have healthy marriages and I have told EVERY one of my friends to watch what they tell me because I share EVERYTHING with DH. I make no secret of that. Our friend who chose to involve us so deeply in her personal life also knew this. As for her? We all knew her marriage sucked. But she took advantage of us by putting us all in a really awkward position. If she wanted to go fuck some stranger, she should have done it on her own time and not involved the entire neighborhood. That is selfish and inconsiderate of her! And she didn't even appologize to us OR our friend who had to leave her MEAL to take her home because she got kicked out of the bar.

AND NO! No one has said anything... yet.

by on Nov. 13, 2012 at 7:33 PM
Replies (31-40):
zebbyzebby06
by on Nov. 13, 2012 at 8:07 PM
That was ny firt thought....unless they r grown

Quoting MammaMurphy:

How do you all manage to party every weekend? Your poor kids. 

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Amiehart62
by Silver Member on Nov. 13, 2012 at 8:08 PM
Why didn't you try and stop her?!
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jaysmom2002
by on Nov. 13, 2012 at 8:09 PM
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STAY OUT OF IT AND MIND YOUR BUSINESS IT'S ONLY GONNA ESCALATE AND SHE CAN ALWAYS DENY IT AND SAY YOUR MAKING THINGS UP ETC
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cLanief
by on Nov. 13, 2012 at 8:10 PM
Yup
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kimber2465
by Silver Member on Nov. 13, 2012 at 8:11 PM

i agree- 

Quoting celestegood:

 Honestly, I would stay out of it.  Once upon a time, I thought I knew what was best for another person's marriage and took it upon myself to tell the spouse that was cheated on.

HUGE mistake.

I would stay out of it.  If she is doing this kind of stuff, he either knows or will soon.


kolbiesmommy
by on Nov. 13, 2012 at 8:14 PM
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Yup, Idk what her dh does behind closed doors. But their marriage is not mine to meddle in. Especially if I don't know for sure what happened. Hear say can get you caught up in lies. And that dh could be a psycho and kill her over that shit. You bet your ass I'll protect her deceit.

Quoting grey7399:

So you would protect skanky 'ho over the good husband?  I guess at least you'll be by her side through gonorrhea and syphilis

Quoting kolbiesmommy:

Good God ppl stay out of it. I cant understand why anyone would rat their friend out. I would take that shit to my grave if it were me, but I'm pretty protective of my friends.


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mama2sqgl
by on Nov. 13, 2012 at 8:15 PM
As much as you may want him to know id stay out of it. If she did something like that with you buys around who know what you don't know. She will get herself into her own shit
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ihave1
by on Nov. 13, 2012 at 8:16 PM

 If you all think that then you all need to do it together.  I guess or  mind your own business & when he finds out he has a std  he will know.

CM_Junkie
by on Nov. 13, 2012 at 8:16 PM
She needs to face reality. Someone should tell him
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rowansmum
by on Nov. 13, 2012 at 8:17 PM

There's a very good chance that you'll become the one that gets blamed.  The messenger is often the one that gets shot

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