i am with my so and he treats me like shit, i was wanting to know that if i left him can he take the kids if i have custody of them and he has vistiation on the weekends only. he cant even help us get a place of our own.
i am talking to a real good friend and he can support me and my kids and is willing to let us live with him and not pay a single bill, but the guy i am with right now would rather spend the money then pay bills. please help me i want out but need to know about the custody thing first.
my ds and dd
EDIT
I HAVE CUSTODY OF THE KIDS, HE HAS 3 OTHER KIDS THAT HE DONT EVEN BOTHER TO TAKE CARE OF. WE ARE NOT MARRIED. THE OTHER GUY LOVES MY KIDS. THE ONE I AM WITH HAS A CRIMINAL PAST AND IS ON PROBATION AND DOES NOT EVEN PAY HIS COURT FINES OR CHILD SUPPORT.
If you do choose to stay w this friend and he wants to help you, look into getting some training or going to school to better your life.
Quoting m0m23b0ys458:Come on!Are you really that naive?!?!Of course she's going to say he's just a "good friend"!Like she's really going to say she's boinking the guy and get called a cheating whore!!!God,people just don't think anymore!!!
Quoting dlnimo:
Just because she is letting a friend help her doesn't mean she isn't trying to support her family. SMH at jumping to conclusions.......
Quoting 3xangel:
Sigh. How about YOU step up to the plate and at least TRY to support your children *INSTEAD* of relying on some man.
Gosh, I hate seeing posts like this. Jumping from one man to the next and dragging your kids along for the ride. Smh .
Do you have a job? Do you have a degree, certification, or skill you can put to use to make money?
You CAN be an independent woman who can provide for her kids without needing to depend on a man.
my friend does not have a criminal past but the guy i am with now does
Quoting grey7399:ugh - sick to my stomach reading this shit.
but no. He can't take custody of the kids just because you leave him. AS long as you can provide a clean home, food, utilities and keep them safe, he can't take them.
Does your "friend" have a criminal past? That might be an issue if so.
how can u support 2 kids on $718 and the cheapest place for rent is $350 or higher a month
Quoting 3xangel:
Sigh. How about YOU step up to the plate and at least TRY to support your children *INSTEAD* of relying on some man.
Gosh, I hate seeing posts like this. Jumping from one man to the next and dragging your kids along for the ride. Smh .
Do you have a job? Do you have a degree, certification, or skill you can put to use to make money?
You CAN be an independent woman who can provide for her kids without needing to depend on a man.
i have full custody of them
Quoting notjstasocermom:you would have to go to court and get full legal custody, otherwise yes he can take them if he wants and theres nothing you can really do.
no i am not married to him.
Quoting Jennyanne322:
This.
Are you married to him?
Quoting PinkyPan:Unless you have a custody order in place he can fail to return the children to you with no consequences.
Step 1. Get a lawyer
Step 2. Get a custody order
Step 3. Get some independence
Quoting alouya21:i have full custody of them
Quoting notjstasocermom:you would have to go to court and get full legal custody, otherwise yes he can take them if he wants and theres nothing you can really do.
yes and yes we went to court and i got custody cause both times we went to court for custody agreements he was in jail
Quoting FooLynRoo:
Is he the childrens father? Did you get a court order giving you full custody?
Quoting alouya21:i have full custody of them
Quoting notjstasocermom:you would have to go to court and get full legal custody, otherwise yes he can take them if he wants and theres nothing you can really do.
How can I take three children to the store by myself? I have never done this but my husband says he won't go anymore.
- alouya21
on Nov. 13, 2012 at 10:27 PM