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Im not invited to my sisters wedding **UPDATE**

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Let me start out by saying that I am extremely hurt. My sister and I are very close.

I'm currently helping my sister out with the dress shopping. She looks beautiful trying dresses and I am typing to not only vent but hide the pain.

My sister and her fiancee met in September and have plans to marry soon.

I am not allowed to know the date nor am I welcomed to come bc she wants to make it fair for him.

His parents are still in Belarus (it's a country next to Russia).

They are not able to attend so we're not allowed to attend. How is that my problem? I'm trying hard to be happy for her but I find myself miserable. I understand it's her day and her decision but can't help to feel sad.


UPDATE:

After shopping with her all day.  I finally told her my feelings and recommended skyping the wedding to them.  She said it still wouldn't be the same.  To add more insult to injury, we finally found a very simple dress which she had been implying all day would be all day would be the wedding dress and as we were leaving the mall I mentioned something along the lines "Oh it took forever to find your dress, you're gonna look so beautiful..." to which she replied, "Oh, that's just the dress I'm wearing to the party we're having after the wedding, you can't see the dress". 

As if I haven't cried enough and poured my feelings out ...  I am hanging up my hat and putting my wall up.

Thank you ladies for your help.

by on Nov. 17, 2012 at 12:01 PM
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coolmommy2x
by Ruby Member on Nov. 17, 2012 at 12:08 PM
So no one will be there? Are they planning a party for everyone later on?
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LaLa_Ivory
by on Nov. 17, 2012 at 12:09 PM
its her wedding, man.
tough shit.
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EAzizM
by on Nov. 17, 2012 at 12:09 PM
Even though that sucks, it is her decision in the end. If that will make her happy, support her.
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periwinkle163
by Platinum Member on Nov. 17, 2012 at 12:10 PM
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 It sounds more like they are eloping, which is their right. Does it suck for you, well yes, but just try to be happy she is letting you help as much as she can. You are still getting special memories by helping her pick out the dress.

illinoismommy83
by on Nov. 17, 2012 at 12:10 PM

Why does she need a dress to elope? If that is the plan then she shouldn't have told anyone about her upcoming secret wedding.

And she certainly shouldn't expect any gifts. 

crzy4mc
by Bronze Member on Nov. 17, 2012 at 12:11 PM
Just them and two of his friends. This is her first marriage.
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ColieO
by I Rock on Nov. 17, 2012 at 12:11 PM
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Tell him to set up Skype if they have a computer and then you can all attend.
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crzy4mc
by Bronze Member on Nov. 17, 2012 at 12:12 PM
Thats a good idea. I may recommend that.

Quoting ColieO:

Tell him to set up Skype if they have a computer and then you can all attend.
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DayDreamer1201
by on Nov. 17, 2012 at 12:12 PM
That's a FANTASTIC idea.

Quoting ColieO:

Tell him to set up Skype if they have a computer and then you can all attend.
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lovemysnugbugs
by Silver Member on Nov. 17, 2012 at 12:13 PM
So two of his friends but none hers? That's odd to me.

I'd be hurt too.


Quoting crzy4mc:

Just them and two of his friends. This is her first marriage.
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