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Im not invited to my sisters wedding **UPDATE**

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Let me start out by saying that I am extremely hurt. My sister and I are very close.

I'm currently helping my sister out with the dress shopping. She looks beautiful trying dresses and I am typing to not only vent but hide the pain.

My sister and her fiancee met in September and have plans to marry soon.

I am not allowed to know the date nor am I welcomed to come bc she wants to make it fair for him.

His parents are still in Belarus (it's a country next to Russia).

They are not able to attend so we're not allowed to attend. How is that my problem? I'm trying hard to be happy for her but I find myself miserable. I understand it's her day and her decision but can't help to feel sad.


UPDATE:

After shopping with her all day.  I finally told her my feelings and recommended skyping the wedding to them.  She said it still wouldn't be the same.  To add more insult to injury, we finally found a very simple dress which she had been implying all day would be all day would be the wedding dress and as we were leaving the mall I mentioned something along the lines "Oh it took forever to find your dress, you're gonna look so beautiful..." to which she replied, "Oh, that's just the dress I'm wearing to the party we're having after the wedding, you can't see the dress". 

As if I haven't cried enough and poured my feelings out ...  I am hanging up my hat and putting my wall up.

Thank you ladies for your help.

by on Nov. 17, 2012 at 12:01 PM
Replies (21-30):
yayay15
by Ruby Member on Nov. 17, 2012 at 12:13 PM
That's ridiculous!!!!!!!
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skittlebeans88
by Traci on Nov. 17, 2012 at 12:14 PM
Id be very hurt. His friends can attend but nobody close to her can? Thats shitty
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crzy4mc
by Bronze Member on Nov. 17, 2012 at 12:14 PM
No party afterwards

Quoting coolmommy2x:

So no one will be there? Are they planning a party for everyone later on?
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Supervane
by Platinum Member on Nov. 17, 2012 at 12:15 PM
So make out unfair for everyone to even it.out O.o
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crzy4mc
by Bronze Member on Nov. 17, 2012 at 12:16 PM
I have been more than supportive. I've kept my mouth shut and go along with it.

Quoting EAzizM:

Even though that sucks, it is her decision in the end. If that will make her happy, support her.
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crzy4mc
by Bronze Member on Nov. 17, 2012 at 12:18 PM
It is. :( we are close and yet two of his friends that she barely knows can attend.

Quoting skittlebeans88:

Id be very hurt. His friends can attend but nobody close to her can? Thats shitty
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my4littlegirls
by and 1 boy on Nov. 17, 2012 at 12:19 PM

Sounds like he is going to end up to be a controlling husband. Good Luck to your sister.

skittlebeans88
by Traci on Nov. 17, 2012 at 12:19 PM
I honestly wouldn't be able to just keep my mouth shut about the situation. What she is doing is pretty hurtful

Quoting crzy4mc:

I have been more than supportive. I've kept my mouth shut and go along with it.



Quoting EAzizM:

Even though that sucks, it is her decision in the end. If that will make her happy, support her.
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mmeredith
by on Nov. 17, 2012 at 12:20 PM

I was thinking the same thing

Quoting my4littlegirls:

Sounds like he is going to end up to be a controlling husband. Good Luck to your sister.


Y2kmomma
by Bronze Member on Nov. 17, 2012 at 12:24 PM
Me and my husband decided to kind of elope. We did it with our priest. I couldn't keep it secret so I told my sister...she wanted to go so bad, but we just wanted it us.
She helped me pick out our dress and all (yes I had a dress also).
We just had one guy with us. DH best friend (I also grew up with him) to be witness and to take pics.
My sister was bummed, but knew we just wanted it us. I couldn't pick my sister to be the witness because DH has sister also...it just wouldn't have been fair.

I'm sorry you are hurt, but figured I would show you a little view from the other side.
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