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Im not invited to my sisters wedding **UPDATE**

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Let me start out by saying that I am extremely hurt. My sister and I are very close.

I'm currently helping my sister out with the dress shopping. She looks beautiful trying dresses and I am typing to not only vent but hide the pain.

My sister and her fiancee met in September and have plans to marry soon.

I am not allowed to know the date nor am I welcomed to come bc she wants to make it fair for him.

His parents are still in Belarus (it's a country next to Russia).

They are not able to attend so we're not allowed to attend. How is that my problem? I'm trying hard to be happy for her but I find myself miserable. I understand it's her day and her decision but can't help to feel sad.


UPDATE:

After shopping with her all day.  I finally told her my feelings and recommended skyping the wedding to them.  She said it still wouldn't be the same.  To add more insult to injury, we finally found a very simple dress which she had been implying all day would be all day would be the wedding dress and as we were leaving the mall I mentioned something along the lines "Oh it took forever to find your dress, you're gonna look so beautiful..." to which she replied, "Oh, that's just the dress I'm wearing to the party we're having after the wedding, you can't see the dress". 

As if I haven't cried enough and poured my feelings out ...  I am hanging up my hat and putting my wall up.

Thank you ladies for your help.

by on Nov. 17, 2012 at 12:01 PM
Replies (31-40):
Due9
by on Nov. 17, 2012 at 12:24 PM

I would feel sad too. Sounds like something my sister would do.

Due9
by on Nov. 17, 2012 at 12:29 PM

This sounds just like something my own sister would do. She will choose her husband's friends and their feelings over any family members feelings..even our own mother. I don't think it's fair that they go and not any of her friends, or sister, at least. But it is her choice and there's not much you can do. I think you are being very supportive and I may even back off a little since she isn't being supportive towards your feelings.

Quoting crzy4mc:

It is. :( we are close and yet two of his friends that she barely knows can attend.

Quoting skittlebeans88:

Id be very hurt. His friends can attend but nobody close to her can? Thats shitty


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PinkButterfly66
by Bronze Member on Nov. 17, 2012 at 12:31 PM

That is just insane!  Why can't she skype the wedding to Russia so her in-laws can see it?  

girlcitycountry
by on Nov. 17, 2012 at 12:35 PM

He sounds controlling. 2 of his friends are going, no one on her side can go?? Can you convince her to postpone the wedding a little. I admit DH and I moved fast but I would have had  issues with him if he didn't want my family at our wedding.

crzy4mc
by on Nov. 17, 2012 at 12:45 PM
He's very sweet but I too was a bit weird out by this app hehad her install. It keeps him posted where she's at but then I thought I was over reacting since she was being followed the previous night.

Quoting girlcitycountry:

He sounds controlling. 2 of his friends are going, no one on her side can go?? Can you convince her to postpone the wedding a little. I admit DH and I moved fast but I would have had  issues with him if he didn't want my family at our wedding.

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Ollie123
by on Nov. 17, 2012 at 12:49 PM

That is really stupid. Is this her idea or his?

wildlilacs
by on Nov. 17, 2012 at 12:57 PM
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They met 2 months ago? He's not a citizen?Nobody can attend? He was a locater app on phone??? Look at all the red flags.
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Ktina11
by Silver Member on Nov. 17, 2012 at 1:01 PM
Hubby and I got married (7 years ago) without any family there. We told them weeks in advance. They didn't understand that the wedding was about us...NOT them. My dad still says stuff from time to time about how he didn't get to walk me down the aisle blah blah.... just shows me it is all about him.
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SoKamele
by Silver Member on Nov. 17, 2012 at 1:09 PM

Well....that's not a good way to start a marriage.

And it seems kind of lopsided to me.........only his friends are attending??

That would worry me a bit.....truthfully.

dcdmattison03
by on Nov. 17, 2012 at 1:32 PM
Not understanding why his friends can attend but not her family. Sounds like the beginning of control issues to me
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