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Need advice ASAP.....What would you do??

Posted by on Nov. 18, 2012 at 5:35 AM
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I have been staying with my ex sence we broke up a few days ago. Things have been ok but today we had a HUGE blow out. He came home from work being a complete jack ass. I was trying to talk to him about our son and how he has been feeling. He sat there like he could care less. I also found out today that he has been cheating on me. Anyways things blew up and at one point he said he was going to call the cops on me for having weed (the weed was his) and alchole and send me to jail for a long time. I smacked him cause he was willing to hurt mt kids that way. He said I have till the first to be completly out at which time he will have a new apartment and will have the cable/internet and electric turned off. He said something about going after custody of my kids and cancelling childsupport. He said he would file a restraining order against me for stalking him that way it would be easier to get custody of my kids. He has left for the night and says he won't come back till I am gone. He says because I smaked him he fears for his life. My question is even though I have till the first to be out should I just move all my stuff out now and get it over with?? Or should I do it slowly and make sure I am out by the first?? I have no clue what him or his druggy friends are capeable of if they just show up here or what. What would you do?? The only problem is when I leave here I will be going back to my parents home.
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jhslove
by Bronze Member on Nov. 18, 2012 at 5:37 AM
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I'm not sure what you're asking. It sounds pretty clear that you and your son need to move out ASAP. Are you asking for advice on how to do that?
Lunarprancer
by Betsy on Nov. 18, 2012 at 5:38 AM

Move out, ASAP.

jakesmom323
by on Nov. 18, 2012 at 5:38 AM
Sounds like a toxic relationship and a bad environment for children anyways. Time to separate yourself from the situation especially if drugs are involved.
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jhslove
by Bronze Member on Nov. 18, 2012 at 5:44 AM

I was just thinking this. If this guy is keeping drugs in the house and is willing to use "sending you to jail for a long time" (not sure how he thinks he has the power to do that, but whatever) , regardless of the negative impact that it would have on your son, then he's a jackass and a loser to boot.

Sounds like you AND your son would be better off without him.

Quoting jakesmom323:

Sounds like a toxic relationship and a bad environment for children anyways. Time to separate yourself from the situation especially if drugs are involved.


jenking04
by on Nov. 18, 2012 at 5:49 AM
It is very toxic. If I move out I will be going back to my parents. I just don't know if I can move everything out in one day when most of it still isn't packed. But I have a feeling if I stay he is going to cancel cable/internet and have electric turned off. He doesn't care about the damage it does to the kids. He said because I am a psycho for slapping him that unless we have a meadater to bring him the kids he will never see them untill they are 18 because he wants nothing to do with me.


Quoting jakesmom323:

Sounds like a toxic relationship and a bad environment for children anyways. Time to separate yourself from the situation especially if drugs are involved.

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jenking04
by on Nov. 18, 2012 at 5:50 AM
We are better without hime. And honestly it felt pretty damn good to hit him after all he has put me and my kids through.


Quoting jhslove:

I was just thinking this. If this guy is keeping drugs in the house and is willing to use "sending you to jail for a long time" (not sure how he thinks he has the power to do that, but whatever) , regardless of the negative impact that it would have on your son, then he's a jackass and a loser to boot.

Sounds like you AND your son would be better off without him.


Quoting jakesmom323:

Sounds like a toxic relationship and a bad environment for children anyways. Time to separate yourself from the situation especially if drugs are involved.



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jenking04
by on Nov. 18, 2012 at 5:55 AM
He also said I was drunk. I had one glass of wine. But my anger has been building up over the last 10 years. I finding out today that he was cheating on me before we broke up was the thing that pushed me over.
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SOCO101
by on Nov. 18, 2012 at 5:59 AM

Leave now. Don't wait till the first. Sorry this is happening to you and your kiddos. I would try to stay away from any kind of alcohol right now since he's making these threats, imo. And if he's the druggie, he probably has shit on him. it wouldn't hurt to inform a social worker of this. 

jenking04
by on Nov. 18, 2012 at 6:02 AM
I would but if I know him he will do something stupid like cancell CS and disapear so he never has to pay CS again. Today was a one time thing. It was something I couldn't do when we were together.


Quoting SOCO101:

Leave now. Don't wait till the first. Sorry this is happening to you and your kiddos. I would try to stay away from any kind of alcohol right now since he's making these threats, imo. And if he's the druggie, he probably has shit on him. it wouldn't hurt to inform a social worker of this. 


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SOCO101
by on Nov. 18, 2012 at 6:05 AM


Quoting jenking04:

I would but if I know him he will do something stupid like cancell CS and disapear so he never has to pay CS again. Today was a one time thing. It was something I couldn't do when we were together.


Quoting SOCO101:

Leave now. Don't wait till the first. Sorry this is happening to you and your kiddos. I would try to stay away from any kind of alcohol right now since he's making these threats, imo. And if he's the druggie, he probably has shit on him. it wouldn't hurt to inform a social worker of this. 


He's probably just making threats that he has no plans on backing up. I wouldn't worry about them too much, but I would go ahead and try to get out. 

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