I really need support & guidance right now.
My husband and I have been married for 8 years, together 10.We recently had a baby boy this July, making us a family of 4 :o)
My marriage is in flippin' dumps :o( We had a ton of fun TTO during the summer 2011. We were going on vacations and working out together - in the best shapes of our lifes. We did still have stresses with my husband working for my brother, me still in school, and got ourselves into some credit card issues.
During my pregnancy, my husband also burned his foot really badly being dumb, which resulted in a skin graft & him being out of work for about a month w/out benefits. He works construction. There has ALWAYS been stress around his work b/c it can come with great pay and be gone the next day. I will admit that I got pretty stern while pregnant... deciding I wanted us to work hard at our credit, him find a stable job, and keep my eye on graduating. It has been so stressful with him having an unstable job. I know I tend to hold resentment for it. He works hard when he is working!! I will never take away from the fact that he is a hard worker, a loyal loyal loyal person, and amazing father.
He slacks when it comes to the house. We are so different when it comes to this because I love things to be spotless and in order. All I ask of him is to pick up after himself, take out the trash, and help when I ask but sometimes that even seems like too much. He trashes out his truck and our backyard (his work area). It has really made me resent him. He holds resentment toward me because he says, I treat him like a "toy soldier," I don't have any sympathy, and he actually feels like I only love him when he is working & making money. This all recently came out in an arguement we had. That breaks my heart, because I do truly love him. I just get tired of running the house, paying the bills, having the job with benefits, etc.
There is soooo much more....ugh. I feel so lost.