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What would you do if your 4 year old told you this about preschool???? PIOG Need opinions please!!

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I made a post last week but I would like some more opinions.

My four year old son came home from preschool and told me that him and two other boys go in the back corner where no one else can see them and play Dr. Theres a big rock in the corner they call "the dr bed" He told me one boy got completely naked, the other boy took his shoes, socks, pants, underwear off. That's when the teacher found them! He told me he was patient number 3 so he didn't get to play yet. He said the teacher helped the other boys get dressed! He only knows one of the boys names the other one he never played with before.

Now, this was last Thursday I went to the school first thing Friday morning asking the director why I was not told about this incident since a teacher found them. She had no idea about it, the teacher never told her. I told her I thought it was inappropriate and I believe an incident report should have been written and there is no reason i should be hearing this from my 4 year old!! I know the one mother of the other boy and I told her.The teacher that found them took Friday off so she was not there. She said she would call me first thing Monday morning, by 11:00 I did not receive a call. I called at 11:45 and she said the teacher came in today not feeling well so she sent her home and she would call me tomorrow. I'm pissed she didn't even call to tell me that she didn't get a chance to talk to her or just give me a call to let me know she would ask tomorrow...I feel that this is being handled completely wrong!!! I told her my son would not be attending school until I get some explanation!

This is what I want. I want her story of what happened, an explatation of why she did not report this, I want all parents informed of her story what she saw and did, and all children talked to!!!

I'm so upset with all of this? Am I handling this wrong, should i demand more? Please give your advice and opinions on what you would do in this situation....

No bashing please Thank you


ETA: I'm also very concerned that he doesn't know the one boys name because my son always stays and plays with his best buddies so it's very strange that he was off with a boy he doesn't know

by on Nov. 19, 2012 at 6:01 PM
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by on Nov. 19, 2012 at 11:36 PM
My dd went to my best friends daycare. She once told me she took a bath with my friends dog. Clearly this didn't happen. I'm not saying not to look into it but slow down a bit on being so upset
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by on Nov. 19, 2012 at 11:37 PM
Id raise hell and wouldnt leave the school... That teacher has a home phone or cell phone. She needs to be fired for not reporting that and id by pass the principal and go straight to the school board. Good luck
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by on Nov. 19, 2012 at 11:42 PM

I'd be pissed and you should absolutely attack this like a rabid dog.

It could be that absolutely nothing happened, or it could be that it happened exactly as your four year old says or close to it, and there's a child getting molested at home that's acting out in class. My five year old niece told everyone her papa hurt her "body" (vagina) at the age of three,and he nearly went to jail--turns out she was just parroting what another three year old was saying, who was being molested by her grandpa.

I'm hoping your four year old is just lively and imaginative. But that might not be the case, and you need answers NOW.

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by on Nov. 20, 2012 at 1:09 AM

I would be at the school first thing in the morning to see the teacher w/the director face-to-face. Though it may be a 4 yo with a healthy imagination, if it isn't this is serious business. I wouldn't wait for a phone call tomorrow. 

by on Nov. 20, 2012 at 10:58 AM
4 classrooms. 2 year olds in one, 3 year olds in another etc.. They are all outside together at drop off and before lunch

Quoting A.J.s_mommy:

How is there enough time for a child to remove every stitch of clothing? Odd. There are children in the class your son doesn't know?

Quoting jb0520:


Quoting A.J.s_mommy:

Is this daycare or preschool?

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