I would look at friends who have the same beliefs as you and your husband rather than family which has not shown the same dedication to the belief system.
Depends what denomination you are. What the rules are at your church. Us Catholics. They say one God parent at least has to be a practicing Catholic. In good standing with their parish. The other can be of another denomination in good standing with their church. Called a Christian witness. I've always felt the role of God parent was to help bring the child up in whatever faith you believe in.
Quoting pinkcoffeecup:Depends what denomination you are. What the rules are at your church. Us Catholics. They say one God parent at least has to be a practicing Catholic. In good standing with their parish. The other can be of another denomination in good standing with their church. Called a Christian witness. I've always felt the role of God parent was to help bring the child up in whatever faith you believe in.
Godparents are only needed at religious events (baptisms, communications, etc). It's not a job that need to be fulfilled everyday. My son's Godparents live in another state and got divorced so technically the Godfather isn't a relative anymore. At my niece's First Communion last year, I wasn't even needed (class was too large) and I am her Godmother.
It would be nice if the Godparents wanted to be more involved but it doesn't always work out that way. Choose whomever you wish but don't hold it over their heads that if they don't behave or to perform to your expectations they will be replaced.
Quoting coolmommy2x:
Honestly, I think you're overthinking this.
Godparents are only needed at religious events (baptisms, communications, etc). It's not a job that need to be fulfilled everyday. My son's Godparents live in another state and got divorced so technically the Godfather isn't a relative anymore. At my niece's First Communion last year, I wasn't even needed (class was too large) and I am her Godmother.
It would be nice if the Godparents wanted to be more involved but it doesn't always work out that way. Choose whomever you wish but don't hold it over their heads that if they don't behave or to perform to your expectations they will be replaced.
We have godparents for our kids but not for religious purposes. We have them for in case something happens to both of us when they are still young. Our siblings are not in spots where they can do it and the grandparents are out too so they are one of my best friends and her dh. My mom is mad that they aren't blood relations but we don't care. They would do the best job. We need to get it on paper but everyone is aware of our wishes.
Kinda crazy
Good thing I didn't have to pass a test on thier religion bc I would have failed hands down.
We..,my best friend and I...based our decisions not based on religious requirements but who we thought would love and cherish our children if we were to no longer be here.
OP sounds like maybe you need to rethink your decision. Good luck
Quoting Y2kmomma:
But I think it's silly that you NEED to have god parents. We are catholic and I still think that.
Quoting Y2kmomma:
If you are religious, it's picking people to make sure they grow up in your religious belief if something happens to you.
OP- I would pick different ones. They might not even notice lol.
Quoting JennyCaps:
I don't see the point in God parents so I'm no help. Bump
Quoting jillbailey26:You don't have to pick them again. Also, look into a will. Something that would state who gets your kids if something bad happens to you. Make it a logical choice. People who can provide for them, love them, and be responsible parents.
Quoting pangie23:
They were when my son was born but now they're both totally different ppl, my sister raised me and she was what i thought the most responsible person i knew and my mother figure and my bro inlaw was too a very responsible young man too and now they're so different
Quoting jillbailey26:I'm pretty sure the purpose is to have someone for them to if something were to happen to you. Pick someone in your life that is reliable and would be a good parent to your child in case they're needed.
Quoting pangie23:
To be completely honest i dont either. We're Catholic and in order for anyone to get baptized they must have Godparents, i want my son to get baptized and get Gods blessing and i truly find it absurd that in order to do that i have to pick a couple to be his Godpatents. *no offense to anyone* this is just my opinion
Quoting JennyCaps:
I don't see the point in God parents so I'm no help. Bump
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- pangie23
on Nov. 19, 2012 at 6:04 PM