Why would a woman not take on her dh's last name?. If they are married
I know some women may get married. But then choose to not take the dh's last name. If you love the man enough to marry him. Why wouldn't you take his last name? My sister got married to dh 3 December 2011. Summer of 2012 moves to the state he is from with her kids. She getsa job there. But goes by her maiden last name. Not the last name she had from dh 2 father of all her kids.
No not implying anything bad. Just wondering what people felt as a reason for not taking on their dh's last name. Me was proud to take on dh's last name. I didn't like my last name anyways.
Quoting FooLynRoo:because its a choice.
Are you saying the man doesn't love his wife because he doesn't take her last name? No
so why because i have a vagina i have to express my love by changing MY name.
btw I did change my last name a few years after marriage, but only because DH said it would mean a lot to him. Not that he felt unloved. He can be pretty traidtional sometimes.
I kept my last name though, just made it my middle name.
doesn't mean I dont love my husband.
Taking the husband's last name is a tradition, not a given. I don't think it has anything to do with depth of love and committment. Sometimes I wish I had kept my maiden name, although my maiden name is a very common one and my husband's surname is relatively unique. I also like the hyphenated approach. All in all, it's a personal decision and shouldn't be of concern to anyone else.
I love my husband- I don't particularly like and want to be connected by name with the rest of his family.. I don't want to be one of "them".
I will keep my last name, our children's names are hyphenated.
You keep saying things implying bad.
If you love the man enough to marry him. Why wouldn't you take his last name?
Me was proud to take on dh's last name
by making those statements you are questioning a womans pride or love in her mate.
And what i telling you right now - is you're wrong. it has nothing to do with either of those.
I have much pride and love for my husband
but didn't feel compelled to change my name.. I dont see a REASON to do it. Not in this day and age, some conventions don't come naturally to me.
When i found an actual reason (my husbands express desire). I changed it.
Quoting pinkcoffeecup:No not implying anything bad. Just wondering what people felt as a reason for not taking on their dh's last name. Me was proud to take on dh's last name. I didn't like my last name anyways.
Quoting FooLynRoo:because its a choice.
Are you saying the man doesn't love his wife because he doesn't take her last name? No
so why because i have a vagina i have to express my love by changing MY name.
btw I did change my last name a few years after marriage, but only because DH said it would mean a lot to him. Not that he felt unloved. He can be pretty traidtional sometimes.
I kept my last name though, just made it my middle name.
doesn't mean I dont love my husband.
How can I take three children to the store by myself? I have never done this but my husband says he won't go anymore.
have this mother in law......
- pinkcoffeecup
on Nov. 23, 2012 at 8:30 AM