I grew up without my dad in my life for the most part. If he was around, he was drunk and then would disappear again for a few years. Well, my dad is sick now, I let shit go, and I help my youngest sister care for him.
Well, my SS is in the same boat, kinda. His mom and my dh never had a relationship persay, 6 months of screwing and partying and then they broke up. Now, my dh does what is right by his son. He pays support, gets him for his weekends ALWAYS, sometimes more than that, and is an awesome dad.
I got to thinking how great it would be if I had a pic of my mom and dad together. Not a wedding pic or one that made it look lie they were a cople, just of them standing side by side the two people who gave me life. Then I though maybe SS would like the same thing. I didnt want him to be 40 yrs old and wanting a pic, like I am now.
So, I asked dh if BM had any pics of them together when they were going out. He said no, he didnt think so. So I tell him I would like to get a quick pic of them when she comes to get him sunday afternoon. Then I wanted to give it to SS for Xmas. Dh flatly and adamently kept saying no, aint gonna happen, he didnt want it to happen.
I asked why not. He used the comparrision of my son, if he did they same for my son. I told dh, my son is blessed. He remembers his father and I married. He also has tons of pics of us together. Granted its our life as it was then, but still.
So, I told dh I would not take the pic, but I am sad about it. I am looking past bullshit for the sake of a kid whose parents never were really a couple. (SS only knows his dad being with me)
A part of me wants to defy Dh and take it anyway, but I really dont want waves in house. What would you do?