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I think my mom is crazy- OMG she just did it again!! only worse!!! thats it

or at least has the mind of a 15 yr old or something.    I have been told for years by close friends and DH that my mom is nuts and a very negative influence on my life but well she's my mom so I ignored it.  However, it seems everyone was right.    As a mom I am so proud of every accomplishment my kids achieve.  My mom is not.   I started a very successful cleaning busines a yr ago and instead of being happy her first comment was " remember you cant go through peoples drawers"    Really mom?  you know because apparently I have a habit of that and didn't know it?   Her next was " dont ignore the IRS" again really?  I am so stupid?     Then, I got a kidney stone and she said it was because I was working too hard.  I bought a new house ( by myself DH is in school)  she said  "dont get to big for your britches now"  what?    DD is making straight A's in highschool and I was excited about it, her comment was "well she doesn't go to public school so its probably easier"  she goes to private school that is rated # 4 in the nation for college preparedness.      My mom slapped me a lot when I was a kid, and I said I would never slap my children and her comment was "wait until they become teens" well DD is 16 and never been slapped, her response was "well your just a better mother than me" and she said it very sarcastically.     I could go on and on and on but its long enough.  Is it me?  Or does she sound like a jealous teenager?    BTW I have not thrown this is in her face like she claims I have just been happy with things and wanted to tell my mom.     

OMG She just pulled another one, she called to get my address to send kids Christmas presents ( she does give presents to the kids) and DD 16 answered and jokingly said "what are you getting me for Christmas?" and my mother ( now tell me shes not crazy) said " a little N!$@er doll"  I will not say that horrible word so i hope you can figure it out.   My DD said "here's mom" and gave me the phone and wrote what she said.  I told her that was horribly innappropriate and wrong and she said " fine they aren't getting anything" and hung up.  Thats it we are done never again.

by on Nov. 25, 2012 at 1:22 PM
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sucker4myloves
by on Nov. 25, 2012 at 5:38 PM

Blech. Your mother sounds like toxic trash. Sorry for talking shit about your mom, but she does.

Quoting Lordgodempress:


Quoting sucker4myloves:

So when she says those things, does she also congratulate you on success or is it JUST the negativity? Cause if she's also happy for you, that's just a concerned mom looking out for her kid. If it's just the bad stuff, she sounds like a bitch.

Never gotten congraluations or anything.  She seems to get upset and downright mad, even with the kids accomplishments, she says I'm rubbing it in her face.   She really likes DH but instead of congratualating me when we married she said " when you divorce this one I get to keep him".   DH can't stand her and has kicked her out of our house before.


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opal10161973
by on Nov. 25, 2012 at 5:38 PM

Narcissistic or Borderline Personality disorders are both relatively negative, but it seems more Narcissistic to me because of it's stable nature.  IDK look both up and see which one seems to fit her better. 

BTW- she's not crazy, she has an AXIS II or personality disorder.  What most people consider 'crazy' is usually an AXIS I or mental disorder, usually with acute symptoms.  Used to assess and treat people with mental disorders, the AXIS model is often found to look like this below.  Just FYI. 


An example of a multiaxial diagnosis

From Edward Pierce, LCSW

  • Axis I: Major Depressive Disorder, Single Episode, Severe Without Psychotic Features
  • Axis II: Dependent Personality Disorder Frequent use of denial
  • Axis III: None
  • Axis IV: Threat of job loss
  • Axis V: GAF = 35 (last year)
Lordgodempress
by Silver Member on Nov. 25, 2012 at 5:43 PM


Quoting opal10161973:

Narcissistic or Borderline Personality disorders are both relatively negative, but it seems more Narcissistic to me because of it's stable nature.  IDK look both up and see which one seems to fit her better. 

BTW- she's not crazy, she has an AXIS II or personality disorder.  What most people consider 'crazy' is usually an AXIS I or mental disorder, usually with acute symptoms.  Used to assess and treat people with mental disorders, the AXIS model is often found to look like this below.  Just FYI. 

 

An example of a multiaxial diagnosis

From Edward Pierce, LCSW

  • Axis I: Major Depressive Disorder, Single Episode, Severe Without Psychotic Features
  • Axis II: Dependent Personality Disorder Frequent use of denial
  • Axis III: None
  • Axis IV: Threat of job loss
  • Axis V: GAF = 35 (last year)


I understand mental disorders very well but when you and tons of other people are telling someone to get help and she blames you ( her child) for her mental problems and then refuses to get help in order to punish you ( her words) she is crazy .  She also told me I was the reason her and dad divorced because I yelled at her  ( that was it)

Lordgodempress
by Silver Member on Nov. 25, 2012 at 5:51 PM

BUMP!

opal10161973
by on Nov. 25, 2012 at 5:51 PM

That's why I thought she sounded like a Narcissist.  They never take the blame for ANY wrongdoing in their lives.  It's always someone else's fault.  They aren't crazy- YOU are!  That's how they think.  Seriously, look it up and you will be totally shocked how classic her behaviors are.  I wouldn't be surprised to find they match.  I'll even provide a link. Take a look.

http://www.lightshouse.org/the-narcissistic-parent.html#axzz2DHGlDSXv

Quoting Lordgodempress:


Quoting opal10161973:

Narcissistic or Borderline Personality disorders are both relatively negative, but it seems more Narcissistic to me because of it's stable nature.  IDK look both up and see which one seems to fit her better. 

BTW- she's not crazy, she has an AXIS II or personality disorder.  What most people consider 'crazy' is usually an AXIS I or mental disorder, usually with acute symptoms.  Used to assess and treat people with mental disorders, the AXIS model is often found to look like this below.  Just FYI. 


An example of a multiaxial diagnosis

From Edward Pierce, LCSW

  • Axis I: Major Depressive Disorder, Single Episode, Severe Without Psychotic Features
  • Axis II: Dependent Personality Disorder Frequent use of denial
  • Axis III: None
  • Axis IV: Threat of job loss
  • Axis V: GAF = 35 (last year)


I understand mental disorders very well but when you and tons of other people are telling someone to get help and she blames you ( her child) for her mental problems and then refuses to get help in order to punish you ( her words) she is crazy .  She also told me I was the reason her and dad divorced because I yelled at her  ( that was it)


southernbelle07
by on Nov. 25, 2012 at 5:51 PM
I swear she sounds like my mother! Same things. Like she's jealous.
Did she have you really young? Mine did, and my theory is that she never really grew up. Idk...
I say all the time how, as a mother, I would be proudof my kids. But she isn't.
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Kennadismom
by on Nov. 25, 2012 at 5:53 PM
Most of that sounds like my mom
Lordgodempress
by Silver Member on Nov. 25, 2012 at 5:55 PM


Quoting southernbelle07:

I swear she sounds like my mother! Same things. Like she's jealous.
Did she have you really young? Mine did, and my theory is that she never really grew up. Idk...
I say all the time how, as a mother, I would be proudof my kids. But she isn't.


well she was 22 when she had me,  she was married at 17 but didn't have me ( the oldest) for several years.

southernbelle07
by on Nov. 25, 2012 at 5:59 PM
Oh. Well, my mom was 15 and she had twins. My sister & I. She was forced to marry my dad.

I'm sorry your mom is so mean. If you ever want to vent, pm me. I can completly relate...


Quoting Lordgodempress:



Quoting southernbelle07:

I swear she sounds like my mother! Same things. Like she's jealous.
Did she have you really young? Mine did, and my theory is that she never really grew up. Idk...
I say all the time how, as a mother, I would be proudof my kids. But she isn't.


well she was 22 when she had me,  she was married at 17 but didn't have me ( the oldest) for several years.

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tairakittie
by Platinum Member on Nov. 25, 2012 at 6:05 PM
Yep, your mom is crazy. :/
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