My dh and I got married when we were really young. We had our son young too. Dh and I had problems and we divorced. We got remarried and tried to work out our marriege again. We were still fighting. Then we seperated for 2 years. I lived with my parents and dh lived with his family. Ds always saw dh on the weekends and when he was sick dh would come over and help me with ds. Then we decided to work out our marriege again because you know 3rd times a charm. We started seeing eachother more often and took things slow. I got pregnant with dd and dh moved in. A few year later I got pregnant with our youngest. Dh has seen our younger 2 kids everyday of there life. My oldest is jealous. Ive told him it was best we seperated because he didnt need to be around the constant fighting and arguing. My husband whom is the father to all 3 kids has admitted to me he isnt that bonded to our oldest and my oldest has said the same. i feel horrible and I want to mend there relationship but Im not sure how. My oldest said he looks at his dad like a stranger and looks at my father as his own dad. My husband knows what dh has said and feels bad and blames himself about there relationship. I dont want to be bashed but dont know what to do.