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Am I Wrong? What would you do? PIOG

Posted by on Nov. 30, 2012 at 1:58 PM
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Okay so I was super impressed with myself because I found a good deal on a bunch of potato heads and accessories for my son (he is 3). With the $4 shipping the total was $34 and it came with 8 Potato heads and a crap ton of little parts...



Then I got an e-mail that said:

Hello. I shipped your Potato Heads today. The P.O. says that you can expect them on Wednesday (it took two boxes; they are bulky, even though I packed many small pieces inside the bodies of the Potato Heads.) Unfortunately, the Ebay estimate of shipping at $4.00 was very low; I had to pay $19.75, total (including delivery confirmation). Would you mind remitting the difference, or at least splitting it with me?


The only thing I could do was respond with:

I am sorry, but had I known the shipping would be that high I wouldn't have bid on it. We are very low on funds right now and this is a Christmas gift for one of our kids. When I was looking for a deal, I took shipping cost into consideration.


Under normal circumstances I would be happy too, but considering our financial situation right now I can't.

I don't really know what to say, other than I am sorry I can't help with that.




That is the truth. The whole reason I went to e-bay looking for good deals on stuff was so that my kids would have a decent Christmas without us missing a payment on a bill or something. We are living off of just my salary right now (DH is almost done with school) and we just bought a house. I wouldn't have bet on the stuff if I knew the shipping would be that high....


What would you have done in my situation?
by on Nov. 30, 2012 at 1:58 PM
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momdoes
by Platinum Member on Nov. 30, 2012 at 2:01 PM

Id done the same response.

Trina.mhmm
by on Nov. 30, 2012 at 2:02 PM

I would not worry. I ebay all the time and if the shipping is a little higher, I would never ask the buyer to pay the difference! They shouldnt have nuched them together and been more prepared. Do not stress its their fault.

jas_momof2
by Silver Member on Nov. 30, 2012 at 2:03 PM

It's the sellers fault...  You are not accountable.  If she cancels the sale, ding her for a non performing seller...


tennisgal
by on Nov. 30, 2012 at 2:04 PM

offered to go half with her. it was only $6 more than you already spent, right. 

StrawberryCool
by on Nov. 30, 2012 at 2:05 PM
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if you look, there should be a link that will say "free shipping" 

i always click on that.

jas_momof2
by Silver Member on Nov. 30, 2012 at 2:09 PM
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Why? 

As a seller (if you read everything you agree to before selling) she should have figured out the shipping cost and included that in the price if it was too high.  I think she has some nerve asking the op for more money.

If you agree on a price of a car, sign the dotted line and right as the dealer is handing you the keys he tells you he forgot to charge you for something - are you really going to pay?

Quoting tennisgal:

offered to go half with her. it was only $6 more than you already spent, right. 



tennisgal
by on Nov. 30, 2012 at 2:11 PM

we're not talking about buying a car. we are talking about two moms buying toys from one another. she asked what *I* would do and I would split the cost with her. 

Quoting jas_momof2:

Why? 

As a seller (if you read everything you agree to before selling) she should have figured out the shipping cost and included that in the price if it was too high.  I think she has some nerve asking the op for more money.

If you agree on a price of a car, sign the dotted line and right as the dealer is handing you the keys he tells you he forgot to charge you for something - are you really going to pay?

Quoting tennisgal:

offered to go half with her. it was only $6 more than you already spent, right. 



JulyBabies
by Platinum Member on Nov. 30, 2012 at 2:11 PM

You aren't wrong, I would have done the same thing. I have not gone through with many orders once I get to the shipping & handling section and realize it's just not a deal anymore.

jas_momof2
by Silver Member on Nov. 30, 2012 at 2:15 PM

This isn't a garage sale - this is Ebay...  When the bid was made, the contract was signed.  The seller is trying to change the deal AFTER it was agreed upon.

I was just trying to figure out "why" you would let her get away with that...

Quoting tennisgal:

we're not talking about buying a car. we are talking about two moms buying toys from one another. she asked what *I* would do and I would split the cost with her. 

Quoting jas_momof2:

Why? 

As a seller (if you read everything you agree to before selling) she should have figured out the shipping cost and included that in the price if it was too high.  I think she has some nerve asking the op for more money.

If you agree on a price of a car, sign the dotted line and right as the dealer is handing you the keys he tells you he forgot to charge you for something - are you really going to pay?

Quoting tennisgal:

offered to go half with her. it was only $6 more than you already spent, right. 





Jukebox_Jenny
by on Nov. 30, 2012 at 2:16 PM
She should have calculated first but people make mistakes, I personally would split it with her. And extra $6 isn't too big of a deal and she may be selling things so her kids can have a Christmas, too. Kwim? That's a $15 mistake, HERS yes, but that $15 could be her kid's only present this year. If I could I'd split it cuz it's be the kind thing to do.

Are you in the wrong if you don't? No. It is technically her fault.
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