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If your kids were left out, would you still buy presents for theirs?

Posted by on Dec. 3, 2012 at 3:58 PM
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Backstory: me and my fiance have been together two years, so one year last Christmas. He has been a part of my kids life since they were under a year for the youngster and under three years for my oldest.

Last Christmas we went to his moms families Christmas party. They do a white elephant except for the little kids who get gifts from everyone. We got gifts for the three little girls (art easel, art supplies and paper). When the time came to open gifts my kids (2 and 3 years at that time) did not get anything and watched while all the other kids opened presents and played with their new toys.

So my question is this year, do I buy presents for the little girls again even though my kids for left out? And would you be bothered by this or do you think that's normal? I was raised where anyone who was there got presents so I found it rude that not a single person even thought of my kids who they knew would be there.
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boppysmom2007
by Bronze Member on Dec. 3, 2012 at 4:06 PM
I'm in the same spot when it comes to part of my family they didn't do anything for there bdays and if they do Christmas its usually Like 5 dollers if that even though we got them all something for there bdays and spent like 50 bucks on each kid my husband says no way if it doesn't change Christmas then hea not doing it next year I'm on the fence line
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LucyHarper
by on Dec. 3, 2012 at 4:08 PM
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While it is rude that they didn't get your kids anything, its not the childrens fault that their parents didn't get your kids presents. I would never not buy children presents because their parents and grandparents didn't get my kids presents. 

mich.el.le
by on Dec. 3, 2012 at 4:09 PM
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I would still get them something, and would also bring something for my kids to open.  That's pretty craptastic. :(

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Mommy4-27-08
by Bronze Member on Dec. 3, 2012 at 4:09 PM
I guess I don't want to be rude but I was a little bugged by the fast that we had been around his family lots and they left my kids out. One of the little girls wasn't even there and we for her stuff and then my kids were just blown off. I understand that they aren't his kids but his dads side includes them in everything and bought them presents and everything. Idk.... It just seemed unfair.


Quoting boppysmom2007:

I'm in the same spot when it comes to part of my family they didn't do anything for there bdays and if they do Christmas its usually Like 5 dollers if that even though we got them all something for there bdays and spent like 50 bucks on each kid my husband says no way if it doesn't change Christmas then hea not doing it next year I'm on the fence line

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CorpCityGrl
by on Dec. 3, 2012 at 4:09 PM

Oh I'm so sorry.  I would feel so terrible for my kids.

That's a tough spot to be in, however, I think I would still buy something - just not spend too much on it though.  Like you, my family buys for the kids and all the kids that will be there.  We even keep extra presents in the bedroom just in case we get unexpected visitors for present time.

mommy5912
by Member on Dec. 3, 2012 at 4:10 PM
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I personally would have my finace talk to them to make sure that your kids will not be left out this year

jb0520
by Silver Member on Dec. 3, 2012 at 4:10 PM
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I would buy for the kids but make sure my kids have something to open and play with
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capfelbeck
by on Dec. 3, 2012 at 4:11 PM
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This is what id do

Quoting mich.el.le:

I would still get them something, and would also bring something for my kids to open.  That's pretty craptastic. :(

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jujubear1
by Bronze Member on Dec. 3, 2012 at 4:11 PM

 What mich.el.le said.  I'd turn the other cheek on this one, but I know that had to be hard for you as a mom to see your kids get nothing.  I'd take them something small to open just in case.  Maybe have df ask his mom this year beforehand so she doesn't forget.

Mommy4-27-08
by Bronze Member on Dec. 3, 2012 at 4:11 PM
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I'm thinking about doing that. I could just bring a present for each in the car and then if they don't get anything I could bring them in for my kids. I didn't think it would happen that way last year so I didn't even think to bring back up presents.


Quoting mich.el.le:

I would still get them something, and would also bring something for my kids to open.  That's pretty craptastic. :(


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