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found out the sex of the baby today!!! also discovered just how bad our finances are...**edit**

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so. had to go in to see my doctor today, had an ultrasound on fri, went to use dh's credit card to get gas, declined. thank god i went in to pay first, and thank god for small town business owners who know you. old man ackland filled my car and told me to pay him back later today, dh is in saskatoon so i was planning on getting some cash from him. 

on drive in to stoon i talked to my friend wes's mom who lives in town, she told me she would love to watch ds, and refused what i have been paying $120/wk, and said she would for $50/wk. so  phew that was one less worry. my sister R is staying at moms, and not coming out as previously planned. another less worry. 

but i have been in pain in my lower pelvic area for about a week now, and by the time we reached the city every bump in the road made me want to cry, it hurt so bad. get to the doctors, waddle in and had a chat with my doctor, he told me the ultrasound showed A BOY! ( i KNEW it!) and that my placenta is attached to the frontal wall of my uterus, just above my pelvic boney area, another wards, where it has been hurting. 

so he put me on sick leave, recommended i quit my employment asap, and made me a copy for boss and a copy for EI. huge reliefe, because i am honestly just so worn out it isn't funny.

anyways; went to meet DH at the A&W, ordered some food go to pay with debit "declined" moment of horror. we quickly cancel our order and leave, go back to the hotel where dh is staying while he is taking this week long course for his job. 

neither of us have ANY money until we get paid next friday. both of our accounts are at their line of credit limit, mine is -500 his is -1000. none of the credit cards are any good.


at this point i am stunned, just, stunned. we have never gotten to this point before. ended up having a very difficult discussion with him, made him call credit consolidation, and even brought up bankruptcy.

even though we are facing a small crisis, his response is "well what do you want me to do about it?" my god. i hate that answer. laoth it. it puts the responsability of figuring out a solution completely on me. 

my sister ended up emailing me $100 and i gave dh 50, kept 50 for gas, and headed home.

how am i supposed to be able to take sick leave without feeling like everything will fall apart? seriously worried about our future. dh has to take jan and feb off for schooling, at which time he will ALSO be on EI, which slashes out monthly income even more. 

65% of our income goes straight to paying down debt, about $800/mo goes to CREDIT CARDS. seriously? ugh! and $1500/mo for our cars ( which we need, and we owe more than they would sell for) $750/mo mortgage and insurance.  household bills about $600 mo. never mind gas and groceries. 

i left him in stoon feeling like the world is falling out under my feet in slow motion


then half hour ago he calls and tells me he reckons he can sell off the cattle he has and borrow from his parents or some fuckin thing, to pay off all the credit cards, then just pay his parents monthly. 

ok fine. he doesn't want to consolidate because it will ruin our credit. 

i'm just. i dont even know what to think right now.

**edit**

ok a few things; 1) turns out a few payments came out later than we expected, after we had gone grocery and christmas shopping, which is why his balance was zero. we were broke for about 4 days.

2) dh turned around and took out $ from a school trust fund for him, and payed off the credit cards. thank god we no longer have to worry about those, however he will be putting $ back into the trust fund monthly.

3) my doc put me on sick leave, worry about my placenta tearing away from the uerus or rupturing, i am now on EI, and will be able to start taking classes for my youth care worker cert in Feb. 

4) we won't be doing foster care, lol. that was a hair brained idea. and a not so good one *i can admit when i am wrong*

5) everything is going to be FINE. 

by on Dec. 3, 2012 at 10:58 PM
Replies (131-137):
meparty
by on Dec. 17, 2012 at 12:05 PM

WTF is this supposed to mean?

Quoting D.O.E.:

i do not negotiate with terrorists.

Quoting CuriousArentYa:

No offense but you sound completely oblivious. A lot of the questions asked on here you don't know the answer to and you should. You need to sit down and start figuring things out, not to mention learn how to negotiate period. Learning the art of negotiation is a huge asset to have in life. 



D.O.E.
by on Dec. 17, 2012 at 12:06 PM

but that was not a comment that i made, and i was too tired to respond to it, and i somewhat agreed with it, so i hit the like button. get over it man. move. on.

Quoting meparty:

Not all of them are that extreme.  Even a person without a mental illness DX could go off on a rampage.   in your comments you made it sound like ALL Mentally ill kids/people will grow up to be murderers.... well lots of them will grow up to be geniuses, like Steve Jobs, Einstein.. who also had mental illnesses.

Quoting D.O.E.:

i think that kids who are suffering from mental illness, and a danger to themselves or their families, can possibly grow up and pose a threat to society and the parents of those kids should have the option of placing them in assisted living mental health facilities. this includes my sister. 



D.O.E.
by on Dec. 17, 2012 at 12:06 PM

i tell my kids this all the time when they are making unreasonable demands. 

Quoting meparty:

WTF is this supposed to mean?

Quoting D.O.E.:

i do not negotiate with terrorists.

Quoting CuriousArentYa:

No offense but you sound completely oblivious. A lot of the questions asked on here you don't know the answer to and you should. You need to sit down and start figuring things out, not to mention learn how to negotiate period. Learning the art of negotiation is a huge asset to have in life. 




D.O.E.
by on Dec. 17, 2012 at 12:07 PM

ok.

Quoting FooLynRoo:

But its sufficient to say - everyone knows what you are now, willing to bash everyone in america, willing to bash mothers with autistic children.

Enjoy.



meparty
by on Dec. 17, 2012 at 12:08 PM

Hey dippy, no one can make you feel anything only you can.. how you take it, is your problem.  If you take what she says , and it makes you feel bad, thats your emotions working, not her throwing um.

My case and point is, I am a mom of a son with aspergers, and you have no right telling moms of kids with mental illnesses, that their kids are going to be murderers.  How would you like it if someone said something about one of your kids, indirectly? HUH? You dont like it when people talk about your sister? Do you.. who also had a mental illness it seems, so.. next time you wanna say something about a group in GENERAL, stop, STFU, and worry about your own life, and stop telling everyone else how to live theirs, cause we are doing just fine.

Quoting D.O.E.:

and one day you will wake up and realize you are a bitter woman who makes herself feel better by trying to make others feel bad about themselves. sounds like we both have some work to do on ourselves.


meparty
by on Dec. 17, 2012 at 12:10 PM

You tell your kids " I dont negotiate with terrorists"?

Quoting D.O.E.:

i tell my kids this all the time when they are making unreasonable demands. 

Quoting meparty:

WTF is this supposed to mean?

Quoting D.O.E.:

i do not negotiate with terrorists.

Quoting CuriousArentYa:

No offense but you sound completely oblivious. A lot of the questions asked on here you don't know the answer to and you should. You need to sit down and start figuring things out, not to mention learn how to negotiate period. Learning the art of negotiation is a huge asset to have in life. 





D.O.E.
by on Dec. 17, 2012 at 12:15 PM

yes, with a smile on my face. like when they have a melt down over something silly like...say...wanting icecream for breakfast, i tell them i do not negotiate with terrorists, and send them to their room, until they can calm down and eat whatever i am making for breakfast. (for instance) i have a strange sense of humor. gonna bash me for that too? :-)

Quoting meparty:

You tell your kids " I dont negotiate with terrorists"?

Quoting D.O.E.:

i tell my kids this all the time when they are making unreasonable demands. 

Quoting meparty:

WTF is this supposed to mean?

Quoting D.O.E.:

i do not negotiate with terrorists.

Quoting CuriousArentYa:

No offense but you sound completely oblivious. A lot of the questions asked on here you don't know the answer to and you should. You need to sit down and start figuring things out, not to mention learn how to negotiate period. Learning the art of negotiation is a huge asset to have in life. 






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