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at least if i ever end up a single mom again i have a plan....

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i have had it with working low paying menial jobs for shitty employers. enough is enough. 

i am now on sick leave and just waiting for my record of employment to be sent to me so i can give it to employment insurance, i am *hoping* my EI will kick in before the new year, but not holding my breath.

in order to have some help from EI in re-training, i need to have a pretty rock solid "action plan" after a lot of thought and research, i have come up with a plan that will ensure i have a good paying job to go to when i am done my mat leave.

so my plan is to take my youth care worker certification via distance education, (online) by the time my mat leave is about up and baby is done breastfeeding, i will be starting my practicum, likely at Egadz, a youth center i used to go to a lot when i was a bad ass youth, and in fact, my old foster mom runs the place :) she was pretty sure i could get in for my practicum, which would be AWESOME!

i may also do some practicum at gov't run group homes, i want to be able to get a job in either gov't or a publicly funded organization when i am done. wages run from $17-37/hr for a YCW. 

once i am done my cert, i will start working, and continue taking distance ed (which i will be paying for course by course, on my own) to get my degree in YCW.

dh got the cattle thing done and has paid off our credit cards, THANK GOD! although i am not sure if he also got them cut off, i sure hope he has.

i looked online at his bank account, my suv is costing us $240/bi weekly, his car is about the same, the mortgage is $330. bi weekly. so it is not as much going out as i had thought (because DH said so) but i wish i could get lower car payments, HOWEVER, we over paid for the escape by about $10,000. and now have $17,000 in negative equity on that damn thing. **sigh** i dont know how to get that back to something reasonable. 

anyways. my plan is to get a damn good CAREER, not just a job. because a woman with a career has a lot more choices in life open to her than someone who is only making $11/hr. 

we need to contact the banks and see if we could possibly just pay the interest on the mortgage and cars while dh is in school for jan -feb, but somehow i doubt it.

eventually, we will have to sell the house and move, in the next 2-3 years. simply because we dont have enough job options out here, and dh has the highest level of education out of all the guys at his work, and he needs a 4th year journeyman to work under, or he can't continue to move up the ladder.

well, thats all for now.

by on Dec. 11, 2012 at 11:48 AM
Replies (31-40):
Ciaodarlings
by on Dec. 11, 2012 at 7:37 PM
Ah, we'll obviously I've missed out on something. She can't be as bad as Supermarketmama though!

Quoting MommyFlood:

OP is a notorious train wreck.





Quoting Ciaodarlings:

Does she have something against you or what? Good God. What a bitch.





Quoting D.O.E.:

and whats your fucking point? like seriously, shut up. as if i won't be able to afford diapers and wipes. get your head out of your ass. and car seats? of course i can afford a fucking car seat you moron. i'm not some fucking lazy bitch sitting on welfare, nor will i be. so fuck right off.

Quoting mom-super-2:

Oh are diapers and wipes free in Canada.  Here in the states we have to pay for those and we have to buy regulated car seats as well as clothing.  Where I live a baby costs about $9,000 in its first year. 


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MommyFlood
by on Dec. 11, 2012 at 7:47 PM

You'd be surprized. She's had like 3-4 screen names. 

Quoting Ciaodarlings:

Ah, we'll obviously I've missed out on something. She can't be as bad as Supermarketmama though!

Quoting MommyFlood:

OP is a notorious train wreck.





Quoting Ciaodarlings:

Does she have something against you or what? Good God. What a bitch.





Quoting D.O.E.:

and whats your fucking point? like seriously, shut up. as if i won't be able to afford diapers and wipes. get your head out of your ass. and car seats? of course i can afford a fucking car seat you moron. i'm not some fucking lazy bitch sitting on welfare, nor will i be. so fuck right off.

Quoting mom-super-2:

Oh are diapers and wipes free in Canada.  Here in the states we have to pay for those and we have to buy regulated car seats as well as clothing.  Where I live a baby costs about $9,000 in its first year. 



D.O.E.
by on Dec. 11, 2012 at 7:56 PM

DID YOU NOT READ MY OP "NEW MEMBER"? our credit cards are now FULLY paid off. FULLY. COMPLETELY. and we had no money until this little thing called PAYDAY.  smh.

Quoting mom-super-2:

I thought all your credit cards were maxed and you had no money in your bank accounts.


Ciaodarlings
by on Dec. 11, 2012 at 7:56 PM
What has she done though?

Quoting MommyFlood:

You'd be surprized. She's had like 3-4 screen names. 

Quoting Ciaodarlings:

Ah, we'll obviously I've missed out on something. She can't be as bad as Supermarketmama though!



Quoting MommyFlood:

OP is a notorious train wreck.








Quoting Ciaodarlings:

Does she have something against you or what? Good God. What a bitch.







Quoting D.O.E.:

and whats your fucking point? like seriously, shut up. as if i won't be able to afford diapers and wipes. get your head out of your ass. and car seats? of course i can afford a fucking car seat you moron. i'm not some fucking lazy bitch sitting on welfare, nor will i be. so fuck right off.

Quoting mom-super-2:

Oh are diapers and wipes free in Canada.  Here in the states we have to pay for those and we have to buy regulated car seats as well as clothing.  Where I live a baby costs about $9,000 in its first year. 



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FooLynRoo
by on Dec. 11, 2012 at 7:58 PM

Well as much as your circle of antics annoy me.

I am glad to see you're actually thinking about your future for a change instead of impulsively moving through life an dragging your kids along for the rid.


D.O.E.
by on Dec. 11, 2012 at 7:58 PM

my family IS amazing, we love each other and there for each other no matter what. whatever life throws our way, we deal with TOGETHER. unlike SOME families. we are TIGHT. and we may have had our share of problems, but that doesn't make us a "bad" family. we are a big family, of course we have had our share of problems. but my family is 10000000000 x better than dh's so called family

Quoting FooLynRoo:


Quoting D.O.E.:

welll geez thanks for letting me know, i had no idea......smh.

if it makes you feel any better, my tubes are getting tied as soon as preston makes his appearance. 

and i was on pill form bc, but to be honest, i seriously suck at taking meds of any sort, i always forget, shit happens. i have no problem having another child, single or married, it doesn't matter. i have an amazing family and if and when i leave, i will be living in very close proximity to them. so it is not like i won't have a support system in place. and seeing as i am in canada and not the states, having a baby really isn't a huge expense.

they will still have a dad. we just very likely won't be living under the same roof.

Quoting mom-super-2:

Actions have consequences ie. Unprotected Sex=unplanned pregnancy. Marrying a emotionally dead man=lack of communication throughout the rest of your marrage.


HA HA HA HA


that is all




D.O.E.
by on Dec. 11, 2012 at 8:00 PM

i have always had the fight or flight thing going on, i usually choose flight. or verbally fight **shrugs** i know i am not perfect nor have i ever been perfect, but i am also not a total idiot. 

my sister is also trying to convince me to take my BA social work, because EI will pay for 3 of the 4 years it takes to complete it.....

Quoting FooLynRoo:

Well as much as your circle of antics annoy me.

I am glad to see you're actually thinking about your future for a change instead of impulsively moving through life an dragging your kids along for the rid.



FooLynRoo
by on Dec. 11, 2012 at 8:01 PM

ha ha ha ha ha ha

snicker

giggle

snort

Quoting D.O.E.:

my family IS amazing, we love each other and there for each other no matter what. whatever life throws our way, we deal with TOGETHER. unlike SOME families. we are TIGHT. and we may have had our share of problems, but that doesn't make us a "bad" family. we are a big family, of course we have had our share of problems. but my family is 10000000000 x better than dh's so called family

Quoting FooLynRoo:


Quoting D.O.E.:

welll geez thanks for letting me know, i had no idea......smh.

if it makes you feel any better, my tubes are getting tied as soon as preston makes his appearance. 

and i was on pill form bc, but to be honest, i seriously suck at taking meds of any sort, i always forget, shit happens. i have no problem having another child, single or married, it doesn't matter. i have an amazing family and if and when i leave, i will be living in very close proximity to them. so it is not like i won't have a support system in place. and seeing as i am in canada and not the states, having a baby really isn't a huge expense.

they will still have a dad. we just very likely won't be living under the same roof.

Quoting mom-super-2:

Actions have consequences ie. Unprotected Sex=unplanned pregnancy. Marrying a emotionally dead man=lack of communication throughout the rest of your marrage.


HA HA HA HA


that is all





FooLynRoo
by on Dec. 11, 2012 at 8:02 PM

what were you fleeing from when 5 months ago you purchased this home, with good jobs close by - no commute.

that now - had no jobs so you're going to have to sell.


Quoting D.O.E.:

i have always had the fight or flight thing going on, i usually choose flight. or verbally fight **shrugs** i know i am not perfect nor have i ever been perfect, but i am also not a total idiot. 

my sister is also trying to convince me to take my BA social work, because EI will pay for 3 of the 4 years it takes to complete it.....

Quoting FooLynRoo:

Well as much as your circle of antics annoy me.

I am glad to see you're actually thinking about your future for a change instead of impulsively moving through life an dragging your kids along for the rid.




ErrIsHuman
by on Dec. 11, 2012 at 8:03 PM

I swear your relationship is like the same as mine....I am also going to school and prepareing to possibly be single and my dh knows it and supports me staying here being a sahm while he works and provides for us then i go to school 

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