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I can't be the only one!

Posted by on Dec. 12, 2012 at 10:41 AM
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I have really had about all I can take from my 7 year old. First off he still wets the bed. We have a plastic sheet on his bed to prevent anything from going on the mattress, he wears a goodnight to bed at night and we have those despoable mattress pads for on top of the sheet. Second off he has taken up lying to us. Last night Dh got the boys ready for bed. I came in to tuck them in and before I tucked my 7 year old in bed I asked him if he had a pull up on. He swore he did. I believed him because Dh helped them get ready for bed. This morning after the boys left for school I went in there room to check for dirty clothes and basically just straighten up. I went to put his bear in his bed and check his despoable mattress pad and I noticed his comforter was soaked along with the despoable mattress pad and sheet. I was confused. I was like, "seriously you peed through your pull up that much?" I looked around for his jammies so I could throw them in the wash with his blanket and sheet. I found them stuffed all the way to the back of the under side of his bed. There was no pull in the trash nor with his clothes. Just a pair of wet pants, undies and shirt. Get where I am going with this he lied about wearing a pull up. Last thing that is absolutely driving me crazy with my son is the fact that he won't go in his room, got to the bathroom or basically go anywhere by himself. If I ask him to go brush his teeth he will make any and every excuse why he can't by saying things like, "I'm waiting for brother to come or I need you to help me." If I ask him to go take his shower he will ask if I will sit in the bathroom with him or if he can leave the door open. If he needs to go potty he will drag the dog back there with him. I am sick and tired of having to follow him around the house or having to get on him about doing what he needs to do with having to have someone with him. Please tell me I am not alone. That there are other mom's out there having similar issues.
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frndlyfn
by Emerald Member on Dec. 12, 2012 at 10:48 AM

It sounds like he is very insecure about things.  The hiding of wet clothing and not using what he needs would frustrate me.   I am presuming he has been to the doctor about it to rule out any medical conditions aside from immature bladder.

Kageegirl
by Gold Member on Dec. 12, 2012 at 11:36 AM
Yes he has no medical issue that is causing his bed wetting. He is just a heavy sleeper and lazy. Doesn't want to get out of bed when he does wake up because he is too scared and sleeps to hard most nights to notice he does it.


Quoting frndlyfn:

It sounds like he is very insecure about things.  The hiding of wet clothing and not using what he needs would frustrate me.   I am presuming he has been to the doctor about it to rule out any medical conditions aside from immature bladder.


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linzrenae
by on Dec. 12, 2012 at 5:18 PM

I am a school nurse aid and I have 6 year old student that does the same thing only he poops his pants all the time. We figured out that he does all of it for manipulation. He tries to hide the fact he pooped his pants by doing multiple diffrent things, but it is not because he is insecure at all. He also had to have someone by his side in everything he did, whether it was a parent, teacher or brother/sister. After we stopped giving into him and letting him have his way all the time, he was a totally diffrent kid in 1 week. (there was ALOT of crying and tantrums involved) He has so far had 1 accident in the last 8 weeks and we are all very proud of him. Mom still gives into him at home and allows him to wear pull ups and sleep with a pacifer but it really didn't take much to turn his behavior around at school with a little consistency.

GaleJ
by Silver Member on Dec. 13, 2012 at 12:11 AM
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PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE, don't ignore this situation or your son's insecurity until he is thoroughly checked by a behavioral specialist. There are more than physical reasons for problems such as his and before you act it is best to be sure that you understand his difficulties and from where they originate. This little boy is crying out for help and needs you to provide him with what he needs.

Holztastic
by on Dec. 13, 2012 at 12:16 AM

Sounds like you need to see a behavioral therapist and maybe a family counselor - yesterday.

Holztastic
by on Dec. 13, 2012 at 12:17 AM
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Okay lady, scared does NOT equal lazy.

I'm backing out of this post before I say something rude.

Quoting Kageegirl:

Yes he has no medical issue that is causing his bed wetting. He is just a heavy sleeper and lazy. Doesn't want to get out of bed when he does wake up because he is too scared and sleeps to hard most nights to notice he does it.


Quoting frndlyfn:

It sounds like he is very insecure about things.  The hiding of wet clothing and not using what he needs would frustrate me.   I am presuming he has been to the doctor about it to rule out any medical conditions aside from immature bladder.



Justine1123
by Justine on Dec. 13, 2012 at 2:10 AM
When I was younger I'd say maybe even close to that age I was a heavy sleeper and I know also scared like most kids. But I just wasn't capable of waking myself up at night so my mom set an alarm and took me to the bathroom once or twice a night to potty train me at night.

Maybe he's not the only lazy one in the house?
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Justine1123
by Justine on Dec. 13, 2012 at 2:11 AM
I commented... But there was so much more I wanted to say but won't. I agree with you.

Quoting Holztastic:

Okay lady, scared does NOT equal lazy.

I'm backing out of this post before I say something rude.

Quoting Kageegirl:

Yes he has no medical issue that is causing his bed wetting. He is just a heavy sleeper and lazy. Doesn't want to get out of bed when he does wake up because he is too scared and sleeps to hard most nights to notice he does it.





Quoting frndlyfn:

It sounds like he is very insecure about things.  The hiding of wet clothing and not using what he needs would frustrate me.   I am presuming he has been to the doctor about it to rule out any medical conditions aside from immature bladder.




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Bonita131
by Member on Dec. 13, 2012 at 2:34 AM


Quoting linzrenae:

I am a school nurse aid and I have 6 year old student that does the same thing only he poops his pants all the time. We figured out that he does all of it for manipulation. He tries to hide the fact he pooped his pants by doing multiple diffrent things, but it is not because he is insecure at all. He also had to have someone by his side in everything he did, whether it was a parent, teacher or brother/sister. After we stopped giving into him and letting him have his way all the time, he was a totally diffrent kid in 1 week. (there was ALOT of crying and tantrums involved) He has so far had 1 accident in the last 8 weeks and we are all very proud of him. Mom still gives into him at home and allows him to wear pull ups and sleep with a pacifer but it really didn't take much to turn his behavior around at school with a little consistency.


How do you know the boy isn't insecure? How do you know he poops his pants for manipulation? What an idiotic thing to say about a 6 yr old that very well may have emotional as well as insecurity problems.  Are you with the boy 24/7? Do you know his usual or unusual habits when he is at his home? Do you know how well, or how not so well his relationship might be with his parents when he is at home? Do you know everything that is said, positive or negative to the boy by his parents, when he is at home? You're a school nurse aide, you are not his parent. You know nothing more than what you think is the boys problem. Your evaluation of this boys behaviour is beyond ridiculous. School nurses aide indeed. Where did you buy your credentials, eBay?

Emmasmommy52212
by on Dec. 13, 2012 at 2:40 AM
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If u act towards him with the same attitude u posted with, im not surprised. You probably scare the shit out of him. He probably hid his wet clothes, so u wouldnt find them. BECAUSE U SCARE HIM.. Why dont u be a little more supportive, instead of so negative.
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