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I have really had about all I can take from my 7 year old. First off he still wets the bed. We have a plastic sheet on his bed to prevent anything from going on the mattress, he wears a goodnight to bed at night and we have those despoable mattress pads for on top of the sheet. Second off he has taken up lying to us. Last night Dh got the boys ready for bed. I came in to tuck them in and before I tucked my 7 year old in bed I asked him if he had a pull up on. He swore he did. I believed him because Dh helped them get ready for bed. This morning after the boys left for school I went in there room to check for dirty clothes and basically just straighten up. I went to put his bear in his bed and check his despoable mattress pad and I noticed his comforter was soaked along with the despoable mattress pad and sheet. I was confused. I was like, "seriously you peed through your pull up that much?" I looked around for his jammies so I could throw them in the wash with his blanket and sheet. I found them stuffed all the way to the back of the under side of his bed. There was no pull in the trash nor with his clothes. Just a pair of wet pants, undies and shirt. Get where I am going with this he lied about wearing a pull up. Last thing that is absolutely driving me crazy with my son is the fact that he won't go in his room, got to the bathroom or basically go anywhere by himself. If I ask him to go brush his teeth he will make any and every excuse why he can't by saying things like, "I'm waiting for brother to come or I need you to help me." If I ask him to go take his shower he will ask if I will sit in the bathroom with him or if he can leave the door open. If he needs to go potty he will drag the dog back there with him. I am sick and tired of having to follow him around the house or having to get on him about doing what he needs to do with having to have someone with him. Please tell me I am not alone. That there are other mom's out there having similar issues.
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by on Dec. 12, 2012 at 10:41 AM
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xtwistedxlovex
by Gold Member on Dec. 13, 2012 at 2:42 AM
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Any chance he's lying about the pull-ups because he feels bad about needing them? He could be thinking of them as diapers and be ashamed. Maybe if you tried the ones that are like boxers (called good nights, I think) or cloth trainers/padded underwear he would feel better about it. Also, many kids who are used to disposable products hate the feel of wet cloth and that can prompt them to stop having accidents.
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Bonita131
by Member on Dec. 13, 2012 at 2:50 AM
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If you haven't realized your son has an insecurity problem and more, by now, you never will. Being pissed off and getting angry with your son for hiding his wet clothing is not going to solve the problem, it will make it worse. Take the advice you've been given by PPs, and have your son checked by a behavioural specialist or child psychologist. Something by the way, you should have done a long time ago.

Kageegirl
by Gold Member on Dec. 13, 2012 at 8:46 AM
Before you all go postal I have had my son checked by a doctor for his bed wetting. The doctor didn't find anything physical or mentally wrong with him. Per the doctors suggestions I tried setting an alarm and waking him up, but Everytime I take him he says he doesn't have to go. He'll stand there two or 3 minutes trying to go and doesn't. I put him back to bed and 9 times out of 10 when I got back in there to take him again he's already peed. I've also tried not letting him drink past 6pm, pottying him before bed numerous times ect. As per the pull up thing in the original post I stated he wears a good night. As for not wanting to go in a room by himself that has to do with my parents. When he stayed a weekend over the summer at my parents my dad let him watch jeepers creepers and pumpkin head. Then he told him a scary story about bloody Mary. Dad said he begged him to let him watch them and he begged for a scary story. I asked my son why he lied about putting a pull up on and he said because his legs were to tired and he didn't want to get out of bed. I asked why he hid the fact that he wet his bed and he said because I lied about my pull up. I told him I wasn't mad that he wet the bed just mad he lied. I told him if he would have just told me he didn't have a pull up on I would have gotten him one to put on. He said okay and that was that. I'm not as evil as I may have come off. I was just eventing my frustrations.
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piwife
by on Dec. 13, 2012 at 9:04 AM
Maybe he does have issues and you can't or won't accept... I mean no mother wants to hear their child might have issues.
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momma-flynn
by ♥Gee Willickers♥ on Dec. 13, 2012 at 5:40 PM

He's not lazy. That's a bullshit excuse on your part. I had to have a renal scan when I was his age because my parents couldn't figure out what to do. My kidneys were fine, but I was a very heavy sleeper. I had an alarm that would go off if I wet the bed (you may want to look in to them). I would sleep right thru it but the rest of the house woke up. No one could ever figure it out. I have heard that certain food allergies can cause bed wetting, so if it were my child, that would be a route I would look in to. Another thing I would suggest is to talk to him about his dreams. I have very vivid dreams. I finally learned to train myself that if I had a dream that I was either looking for a toilet or sitting on one that I needed to wake up asap. He's obviously embarrassed about the issue since he is not wearing the training pants & hiding the accidents from you. Poor kid.  

Quoting Kageegirl:

Yes he has no medical issue that is causing his bed wetting. He is just a heavy sleeper and lazy. Doesn't want to get out of bed when he does wake up because he is too scared and sleeps to hard most nights to notice he does it.


Quoting frndlyfn:

It sounds like he is very insecure about things.  The hiding of wet clothing and not using what he needs would frustrate me.   I am presuming he has been to the doctor about it to rule out any medical conditions aside from immature bladder.


 

FooLynRoo
by on Dec. 13, 2012 at 5:47 PM

he seems fearful.

Compromise, go with him for his tasks for a day - and tell him the next day you will wait in the hall and the next day - further away.

Then you will just talk to him while he goes by himself.

gradually - he will get used to doing things on his own and lose his fear.


mom23heathens
by Bronze Member on Dec. 13, 2012 at 9:49 PM

 My son is now 20. He was a bed wetter til about 13. He didn't have any medical issues either. I had no answers for it and was told that it can run in the family, was more common in boys, and had several possible reasons. Was advised to not allow drinks for 2-3 hours before bedtime and then try to train him again by waking him up in the middle of the night and taking him the to bathroom. This worked on and off then eventually i got tired as he got older and just made him deal with it himself. By the time he was 10 he was cleaning it up himself. The other issue about not wanting to do anything alone may be a separate issue altogether. Counseling?

Gruntlings
by on Dec. 13, 2012 at 9:57 PM
I showed my son the cost of a month worth of nighttime pullups and we found what toy costs the same as two months of pull-ups. Once accident free for two months he could spend that money on the toy. That overcomes the lazy but not the deep sleep.

If he's hiding the pajamas he is embarassed and afraid of punishment. That won't help him wake up to use the bathroom. He needs to know it is not his fault and that his body just needs to start waking him up when he needs to pee.

There are pullup alarms that go off when they get wet. It might teach him by waking him when he starts to pee.

You can also set your alarm for 3 hours and wake up every 3 hours to take him to the bathroom. Some parents find that after doing this for a couple of weeks their child starts waking up for the bathroom on their own.

Thinking your child is "lazy" just perpetuates the issue. When someone insists thatyou are something, you become it.
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Bonita131
by Member on Dec. 13, 2012 at 10:15 PM


Quoting Kageegirl:

Before you all go postal I have had my son checked by a doctor for his bed wetting. The doctor didn't find anything physical or mentally wrong with him. Per the doctors suggestions I tried setting an alarm and waking him up, but Everytime I take him he says he doesn't have to go. He'll stand there two or 3 minutes trying to go and doesn't. I put him back to bed and 9 times out of 10 when I got back in there to take him again he's already peed. I've also tried not letting him drink past 6pm, pottying him before bed numerous times ect. As per the pull up thing in the original post I stated he wears a good night. As for not wanting to go in a room by himself that has to do with my parents. When he stayed a weekend over the summer at my parents my dad let him watch jeepers creepers and pumpkin head. Then he told him a scary story about bloody Mary. Dad said he begged him to let him watch them and he begged for a scary story. I asked my son why he lied about putting a pull up on and he said because his legs were to tired and he didn't want to get out of bed. I asked why he hid the fact that he wet his bed and he said because I lied about my pull up. I told him I wasn't mad that he wet the bed just mad he lied. I told him if he would have just told me he didn't have a pull up on I would have gotten him one to put on. He said okay and that was that. I'm not as evil as I may have come off. I was just eventing my frustrations.

Do you stay in the bathroom with your son when you've taken him to use the toilet? If you do, that could be part of the problem. A lot of boys at age 7 are embarrassed to do their "business" in front of someone, Moms especially.  My youngest grandson is the same age as your son, & he will not use the toilet if his Mother is in the bathroom.

Allisonc7910
by Allison on Dec. 13, 2012 at 11:52 PM

 Idk, I can see where you are coming from but I am seeing a lot of those things in my 5 year old, besides the bed wetting which isn't his fault.  Kids will tell little white lies at times, maybe he did it because he was scared to tell you.  I would just let it go.  I still help bath my 5 year old and do all that, maybe he just needs some attention.  Get his bath started and set him up with toys and then walk out, you don't have to sit with him the whole time.

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