My son is only 5 years old. He is in Kindergarten and just being so bad. Every day his teacher will put a smiley, straight face, or sad face on their calendars that they have in their bring home folders. He started out good for the first couple months or so of school and he just keeps getting worse and worse, since december has started he has had 5 sad faces, 1 straight face (he only did one thing wrong that day), and only 2 happy faces. I have over the past couple months met with the teacher several times, talked to my son, tried to explain that he NEEDS to be good and follow the rules to go on to 1st grade, and in life. I told him that mommy and daddy have to follow the rules or we go to jail. Thats what happens when grown ups are bad. I asked him if anything was wrong, if anyone was mean to him, he said no he's fine. When I couldn't think of anything else to say or ask him about I started threatening to ground him and take stuff away, then I actually had to take stuff away and ground him, and he was still doing it. I threatened to take Christmas presents away and call Santa and tell him not to come. He's still being bad and i'm seriously considering not giving him anything for Christmas. Now I'm threatening spanking, I called the guidence counselor multiple times about a month or so ago and she never answered or called me back. The teacher says that sometimes he tries to be the boss to the other students, that he was about a month ago refusing to sing the alphabet for her so I went in and made him do it for me in front of her and he did. I don't understand why he is being like this. He will run around our house singing his ABC's, counting, he knows our address, and most of my phone #, but he refuses to tell her, yesterday they had the elementary band do a show for the school and she said he was loud and disrespectful and had to sit out in the hall alone. Today he refused to do his math sheet and sit in his seat and was messing around with the other kids while they were doing their work. I got a letter saying that we need to have a meeting in January with the guidence counselor. I'm guessing to discuss holding him back. I asked about ADHD and she said its not that he can't listen and pay attention, he just doesn't want to. He knows his stuff though, he can read and write just fine, they do flash cards and he does them everyday no problem. I just don't know what to do anymore. I don't want him to be held back just because I can't make him behave. He has two cousins that are in the same grade, all the same age, one is a little younger, it would be so embarrassing for him mostly because they are always competing because they are all the same age, if he had to be a year behind them, but i just don't know how to make him behave. He did preschool and he was so good last year. I just don't understand what happened to my good boy. I feel like a bad mother. Why is he all the sudden (for the last 2-3 months) being bad in school?
Sorry its so long, I wanted to give as much detail as possible, and get it all out.
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