Surprise party for my mom- WWYD? *Small update (of sorts)
This year (well, 2013), my mom is turning 50. She and 2 of my sisters live in Florida. I live in Colorado and another sister lives in Mississippi. We're trying to plan a surprise party for her, but we're having a hard time figuring out when to do it.
Her birthday is in mid-October. My kids will be in school (DD will start in August- 1st grade, and DS1 should start after Labor Day- preschool). The sister who lives in Mississippi also has a kid who will be in school.
Now, I usually go down once a year with the kids to visit for a few weeks, usually in late spring. This year, since I have 3 kiddos, I'm going to drive (flying would be a nightmare doing it alone with 3 kids-lol). Two of my sisters and a cousin (who's like a sister) have suggested doing it in October. I told them I can't. The kids will be in school and it would cost a fortune to fly down just for the weekend ($2500 for 5 of us- plus car rental and hotel rental). I can't spend that AND come down once DD is out of school for the summer.
Another issue we have to work around is one of my sisters (one in Florida) is pregnant and due in July. lol. I had suggested August, before school starts, but I think my nephew starts at the beginning of August and DD will start around the 19th (guessing). June is another option, since it'll be before my sister gives birth, but she thinks it'll be too early.
So, my question is- what would you do? My mom was planning on flying here to ride back with me, and I thought that might be a good time to get things together in Florida (while she's out of town). Then, we'd go to my sister's house (the preggo one- she has a pool and nice backyard) for a BBQ or something and SURPRISE! lol.
Do you ladies think June is too early for an October birthday? Unless my DH gets a promotion and starts making almost double what he is now, going down over the summer AND in October is just going to be way too expensive. And my mom would know something's up if I didn't come down over the summer.
*Small update (mostly a vent)
So, I thought we were just down to two time frames- June and August. I talked to the sister that's pregnant and suggested June because then she won't have to worry about the baby and germs. She said she didn't want to do it then, because she doesn't want to have a party while she's 9 months pregnant. Then she said she just wants to do it in October, we could do something with "just us girls" while I'm down over the summer, and then they can Skype me for the actual party.
I am so hurt and upset by this. I don't get it. My mom would rather have all of us together then do something like that and have 2 of us (the other sister who lives in Mississippi) on a webcam. I mean.....I don't get it. June and August are "too early" but having something without her kids there is ok?
I've cried about this. This is my mother, and a milestone birthday, and I wanted to be there to celebrate it with her. I miss out on so much already because I live in another state......it just seems unfair that my sister (and another sister) insist on doing it in October (when everyone will be working 12+ hour days, 6 days a week). I don't know what to do. I haven't really responded yet, because it is still only January, and I'm still very upset that I'm being excluded like this. I take everyone else in to consideration, especially on a decision like that, and my sister just won't budge. I don't want to say anything yet while I'm upset because I know there's a good chance I'll regret it down the road.
What would you do if you were in my position? Unless someone offers to fly us all down there for that weekend (to the tune of $2500), we can't go. I'm not taking my kids out of school for a week, and I'm not limiting my family time (our annual trip) to just 3 days (which, is what it would be- we can afford to go down once). What would you do?