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Finish School or put it on hold until my baby can talk

Posted by on Dec. 30, 2012 at 1:13 AM
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Hello,

My name is Nikkole and i am 25 years old with a 4 month old and i am a SAHM . I am debating if I should go back to school in March and finish up my Masters or stay at home with my little one until he gets old enough to talk. I really want to go back to school but I will not have the time to do the work that comes along with a Masters program. My husband works 12 hour shifts and he won't be any help. I do not have any family in the area to watch my son nor do I know anyone in the area. Should I continue to stay at home or pursue my Masters ?
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ColieO
by I Rock on Dec. 30, 2012 at 1:15 AM
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If you continue to pursue it, who's going to help? Trust me, it's much easier to get things done when they're not talking and walking.
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cklamour
by Bronze Member on Dec. 30, 2012 at 1:18 AM
Can you try taking some online classes?
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loveablej
by Member on Dec. 30, 2012 at 1:19 AM
Can you put him in daycare a few hours so you can finish? I have been in this feild for many years. I have had parents who would bring there child in for half a day so they could go to school and get homework done. He will learn things also. We had circle time and arts and crafts. I loved every child I took care of and still talk to some of them. If you find the right place I'm sure you both will be happy.
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Osalter
by on Dec. 30, 2012 at 1:26 AM
I don't have any help. It's just me and my husband. My husband work 4 days on and 4 days off.
judybant
by on Dec. 30, 2012 at 1:28 AM
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my niece just finished her masters in accounting while working full time from home, and raising 3 kids. She did it on line from the state university where she lives. She had to travel to the campus 2 or 3 times per semester to give speeches, etc, and have face-time with the professors, but she took care of it all. Her husband is in the army, and was deployed a good amount of time in the last 5 years, so she was pretty much on her own most of the time. She graduated with a 3.995 GPA. If you want it badly enough, anything is possible. 

Osalter
by on Dec. 30, 2012 at 1:31 AM
Most of my classes are on the weekends and if they are during the week the classes are held in the evening . So daycare is not an option. My husband do not want to use a Nanny service because he do not want strangers in the house and I agree with him.
Maddoxs_Mommy12
by on Dec. 30, 2012 at 1:33 AM
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I would put it on hold. The only reason I say that is because if you put your child in daycare and he can't talk, what if something bad happened to him or the teachers mistreat him? I don't know if it is just me, but just the way America is today, anything can happen. My son will be 5 months old in January and if my mom couldn't help me watch him I wouldn't be going to college anytime soon.

Osalter
by on Dec. 30, 2012 at 1:34 AM
I've already started at a school and most of it is online. I would just need someone to watch him on those days that I have to go into the classroom
Osalter
by on Dec. 30, 2012 at 1:36 AM
I feel the same way about day are as you do. I wish I had a family member or someone I know to watch my son while I finished school
ballerina18
by Platinum Member on Dec. 30, 2012 at 1:42 AM

I think it depends on the program, class schedule (online or not), and how well you handle stress and college.

I finally finished two bachelors degrees this past 2011 and it was not easy with a toddler and no family around to help. The older my dd got the harder it was to get through my classes. Now I am applying to grad school, but this time my classes will be online and my dd will be in school.

I think it is do-able, but it definitely will take it's toll on your lifestyle, family, and child.

Good luck whatever you decide to do! =)

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