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I can't be in this marriage anymore :( update...

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Please bare with me. We have been married 6 years, we have two kids and I'm 33w pregnant with number 3. Over the past two years my husband has changed, a few years ago he just up and left for no reason and I didn't hear from him until he came home 6 days later, he had been at his mothers. Bottom line I now have extreme anxiety if I don't hear back from him. He does whatever he wants, I don't remember the last time we had a real conversation. This baby I'm pregnant with he didn't want me to keep, I feel like he resents me for keeping him. Tonight he's out for New Years, no idea where, wont return messages or phone calls and I am in tears. This isn't the full story but I hate feeling like this, I feel like he just doesn't care, the only time we interact is during sex. I feel alone and I'm scared of what ill become if I leave him, I'm unhappy now but I'm afraid of becoming depressed and anxious if I leave. He probably wouldn't even care. I always pretend to be in a happy marriage but here it is, this is how it really is. I just needed to get this out. Thank you to anyone who read this

UPDATE
So I packed up and left with the kids yesterday and went to my parents. They have helped out with the kids while I have some time to sort things out in my mind. I finally lost it and told dh exactly how it is. We're are seeing each other Sunday to talk, I will tell him everything, how I feel, everything. I will finally stand up for myself. Ill also ask him what he wants and get to the bottom of that finally and go from there. But I think this will be it, after I see him Sunday I don't think there will be any going back
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by on Dec. 31, 2012 at 6:47 AM
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kaylasmom22
by on Dec. 31, 2012 at 7:20 AM
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Usually when dh and I don't get along or are having issues the last thing on my mind is sex. I don't get how women sleep with their dh if there dh's are such assholes. Jmo
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lovelove211
by Silver Member on Dec. 31, 2012 at 7:21 AM
Thank you so much


Quoting deenakate:

If you leave you will become a stron woman that stood up for herself.


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lovelove211
by Silver Member on Dec. 31, 2012 at 7:22 AM
Thank you. It's going to be hard but I guess I need to take the first step


Quoting badgirl44654:

I know how iut feels, my 4 year old's bio father was an alcoholic drug addict. He'd leave and not answer his phone. Go to the bar whenever he wanted. It's no surprise really that he abandoned us when she was only 7 days old. Get out and learn to stand on your own 2 feet again.

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lovelove211
by Silver Member on Dec. 31, 2012 at 7:23 AM
Thank you


Quoting alli1204:

Don't waste your life with someone like that. You deserve happiness so go out and make it for yourself. Good luck!

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lovelove211
by Silver Member on Dec. 31, 2012 at 7:23 AM
Thank you


Quoting 3xangel:

Hugs

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lovelove211
by Silver Member on Dec. 31, 2012 at 7:24 AM
What do you mean by the first part? And yes about the kids you're absolutely right


Quoting badgirl44654:

You don't want him to resort to a murder-suicide to fix his problem do you? Teach your children that that isn't acceptable behavior, and you wil not be treated that way.

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lovelove211
by Silver Member on Dec. 31, 2012 at 7:25 AM
Thank you. In a way I'm relieved hearing people say this. He makes me feel like I'm the one with the problem not him and I over react. It's nice to know I'm not over reacting


Quoting Alrescha:

Get out now. It's hard but necessary.

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lovelove211
by Silver Member on Dec. 31, 2012 at 7:26 AM
That's the thing. He does this stuff then acts like everything is fine and somehow makes me believe the drama is all in my head an I fall for him being affectionate


Quoting kaylasmom22:

Usually when dh and I don't get along or are having issues the last thing on my mind is sex. I don't get how women sleep with their dh if there dh's are such assholes. Jmo

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rhope4
by on Dec. 31, 2012 at 7:30 AM
My ex used to do that too and wondered why I would not believe him when he said everything is all right. This is a form of emotional abuse. He is keeping you chained to him, and it would not surprise me if he suddenly wanted to work things out when you finally get your fill and leave. Sending hugs.

Quoting lovelove211:

That's the thing. He does this stuff then acts like everything is fine and somehow makes me believe the drama is all in my head an I fall for him being affectionate




Quoting kaylasmom22:

Usually when dh and I don't get along or are having issues the last thing on my mind is sex. I don't get how women sleep with their dh if there dh's are such assholes. Jmo

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lovelove211
by Silver Member on Dec. 31, 2012 at 7:36 AM
Really? So he does this because he cares actually no likes no know I care and likes feeling like he can control me? Ill have to look up about emotional abuse


Quoting rhope4:

My ex used to do that too and wondered why I would not believe him when he said everything is all right. This is a form of emotional abuse. He is keeping you chained to him, and it would not surprise me if he suddenly wanted to work things out when you finally get your fill and leave. Sending hugs.



Quoting lovelove211:

That's the thing. He does this stuff then acts like everything is fine and somehow makes me believe the drama is all in my head an I fall for him being affectionate






Quoting kaylasmom22:

Usually when dh and I don't get along or are having issues the last thing on my mind is sex. I don't get how women sleep with their dh if there dh's are such assholes. Jmo


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