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I can't be in this marriage anymore :( update...

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Please bare with me. We have been married 6 years, we have two kids and I'm 33w pregnant with number 3. Over the past two years my husband has changed, a few years ago he just up and left for no reason and I didn't hear from him until he came home 6 days later, he had been at his mothers. Bottom line I now have extreme anxiety if I don't hear back from him. He does whatever he wants, I don't remember the last time we had a real conversation. This baby I'm pregnant with he didn't want me to keep, I feel like he resents me for keeping him. Tonight he's out for New Years, no idea where, wont return messages or phone calls and I am in tears. This isn't the full story but I hate feeling like this, I feel like he just doesn't care, the only time we interact is during sex. I feel alone and I'm scared of what ill become if I leave him, I'm unhappy now but I'm afraid of becoming depressed and anxious if I leave. He probably wouldn't even care. I always pretend to be in a happy marriage but here it is, this is how it really is. I just needed to get this out. Thank you to anyone who read this

UPDATE
So I packed up and left with the kids yesterday and went to my parents. They have helped out with the kids while I have some time to sort things out in my mind. I finally lost it and told dh exactly how it is. We're are seeing each other Sunday to talk, I will tell him everything, how I feel, everything. I will finally stand up for myself. Ill also ask him what he wants and get to the bottom of that finally and go from there. But I think this will be it, after I see him Sunday I don't think there will be any going back
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by on Dec. 31, 2012 at 6:47 AM
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HouseMa
by on Jan. 8, 2013 at 7:51 AM

He was gone for six days, he was at his mom's, and you didn't think to call your MIL after a day or two to ask where he was?

If my husband went missing I'd be searching hell and high water to find him. The first place I would have called was his mother....and she wouldn't let him hide at her house.  Of course, I also wouldn't have married a loser who runs to his mommy's house, or runs away from home if things aren't going his way.

Something's weird about this.

NMTS711
by on Jan. 8, 2013 at 7:54 AM
I'm sorry to hear that. Good luck. And glad to hear that you are standing up for yourself
:-)
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TaralynnStewart
by Silver Member on Jan. 8, 2013 at 7:54 AM
I thought the same thing the only difference is my MIL would hide him out and make everything my fault but my FIL would give me every detail.


Quoting HouseMa:

He was gone for six days, he was at his mom's, and you didn't think to call your MIL after a day or two to ask where he was?

If my husband went missing I'd be searching hell and high water to find him. The first place I would have called was his mother....and she wouldn't let him hide at her house.  Of course, I also wouldn't have married a loser who runs to his mommy's house, or runs away from home if things aren't going his way.

Something's weird about this.


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