Why have kids if your gonna allow daycare and school to raise them and teach them things you don't beleive in?
I am making this post for multiple reasons.
Mostly because I made a separate post in 2 other groups.. about parents allowing themselves off the hook when it comes to taking responsibility for their children..
And this was the reply of one of the ladies.
Many if not most children are raised in split homes where you possibly have a mixed set of values being taught depending on the parents and the directions they are moving in.
Some children spend from 8 am till 5 30 pm in school including the after school programs that are so common today. Given that many parents work full time it is necessary that this occur. So they are home from 5:30 till 9 which is bed time. These kids are not being influenced primarily by their parents.
My dd was in the highschool band and spent from 7 am to noon in the care of the band leader for 4 yrs. He had a tremendous impact on her that was for the most part positive.
It is unrealistic to think that all children will primarily be influenced by their parents in this society. Core values perhaps but not likes, dislikes or even direction IMO.
I know what she is saying is true for the majority of american children.. Their parents AREN'T there.. Aren't shaping them..
Why bother going through the expense, struggle and frustrations of having children if your not the ones who will be the person of most importance in their lives?