He never wants to help with the housework. He thinks because I don't have a job that I am responsible for all the housework. I do think I should be responsible for most, but not all. All I usually ask is for him to take the trash out and down to the road( I end of having to do it 90% of the time) and sometimes carry the clean clothes upstairs because I overfill them and they get heavy lol but I usually just do it myself. Oh and I ask him to put his clothes in a basket and not on the floor. I end of having to pick them up. I cook, clean, take care of the kids about 90-95% of the time by myself.
He hardly has anything to do with the kids. The last time he gave them a bath was about a month ago and even then my mom did half of the work. On the weekends he is a little more active, but only in spurts. If it is something he wants to do, he is all for it and has all the energy in the world. So I feed, cloth, clean, play with the kids 90-95% of the time. I'm not complaining about doing all that just that he doesn't help.
He told me the other day that I was gaining weight. I am a little, but not everywhere just in my stomach, but I still only weigh 121 pounds. He said he has been trying to find a nice way to tell me.
A little over a year ago we were having problems. He told me he didn't want to be married anymore and that he didn't think he loved me anymore. The next day he said he was just mad.
He lies a lot even about stupid stuff. That has been a big issue.
He wants custody of his daughter, but doesn't help with her either.
I admit I am to blame too. I have a low sex drive and things in that dept have been slow, but it's not like I haven't tried getting help. The midwife blamed it on him for lack of seduction. Sex is also hard for me physically(it hurts most of the time) and emotionally(he basically raped me once, I let him try anal and he started out slow then basically shoved it in and I told him to stop over and over and that it hurt, he kept going for about 2 mins...when he was done I ran into the bathroom crying and he said it just felt so good and I'm sorry)
Oh and money is another issue. Since we are one income, watching out money is important. He doesn't listen to me. I tell him to watch what he spends, but he doesn't. He spends $20-30 a day at gas stations. And then complains he needs gas when there is no money left.
Lastly, he doesn't communicate with me. I try and talk to him about things and he either half ass answers or doesn't listen then later asks about it.
I don't have a job yet. I am about to interview for one and possibly another soon. I hope I get one. Sorry so long. What should I do? What would I say or ask?