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I don't understand how he could do this? ~~BIG EDIT!!!~~~UPDATE AT BOTTOM OF OP!~~

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My boyfriend has been having issues lately. He spent 3 weeks in the ICU over Christmas due to pancreatitis. He had to pay 3700 for a new motor for his car. Apparently something happened at work, which I don't know what it was because he was too pissed off to talk about it. But at one point he was telling me that this is how much he was behind right now because of a mortgage he has here and his rent and utilities where he is at. He's in Minnesota, I'm in Nebraska. He lived here when we started dating, he moved there for a job. So anyway, I understand that he's really stressed right now about his job, his bills and everything, but he would text me when it was convenient for him I guess. So on the 8th, he was sending me pics and talking to me and everything in a great mood. I called him that night and he didn't answer... No surprise there. He did text me back saying he would call in a bit. It was 9 pm. At almost midnight I tried calling him again.. No answer. Then I texted him and said 'disappearing act again or just ignoring me for the night? ' that sparked an argument. He texted me telling me that he was working underneath a car so he couldn't text me or talk on the phone and the stuff he was using had only 90 minutesbefore it hardened or whatever (he's an auto detailer) and then he proceeded to say if you don't mind me getting fired for wasting materials which I've already gotten chewed out for, then I can do that, if that's what you want. If not, I need to get off the phone and put my gloves back on and finish the work I started. So then I'm like carry on we'll talk tomorrow and thanks for making me feel like shit by the way. Then I went to bed. The next morning on the 9th I texted him good morning I'm sorry for being such an insensitive asshole last night and he didn't say anything, later in the after noon I was like could you please acknowledge my messages once in a while please? And he texted me saying this "I love you. I'm having the worst fucking day of my life so far." and that's the last I heard from him. What do you think that means? Better yet.. Ask your hubby's what it would mean if they had said that and then disappeared. I'm so upset, I don't know if anything bad has happened, or if he's in the hospital again, I haven't met his parents yet nor do I know their names.






EDIT- as far as him being in the ICU, he has pancreatitis, he was in the ICU for 5 weeks in 2010, and then for 3 weeks over Christmas









GOOD CALL LADIES! THIS MOTHER FUCKER IS INDEED MARRIED!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I'm retiring from dating, his wife is getting the pictures of him sleeping in my bed.





~~UPDATE 1/27/2013~~~

Since I had posted this, he has responded, I confronted him about being married and then he ended up telling me that he had stage 4 cancer and had a year left to live. He told me that he had told his wife about us. Wrong. Judging by the message I got from her on facebook today, he hadn't told her but I really didn't believe him when he said that he told her. She doesn't believe me even with the pictures of him sleeping in my bed.
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WenisEnvy
by Silver Member on Jan. 12, 2013 at 8:56 PM
Normally he texts me alot

Quoting eema.gray:

So glad I'm not the only one thinking this!




Quoting Bax:

Personally, I think he's married.


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WenisEnvy
by Silver Member on Jan. 12, 2013 at 9:11 PM
Bump
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D.O.E.
by on Jan. 12, 2013 at 9:15 PM

he probably got fired

WenisEnvy
by Silver Member on Jan. 12, 2013 at 9:19 PM
Maybe so, but he can't text me?

Quoting D.O.E.:

he probably got fired

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la_bella_vita
by Platinum Member on Jan. 12, 2013 at 9:20 PM

 Giant red flags. I would assume he has no respect for you or is cheating.

D.O.E.
by on Jan. 12, 2013 at 9:21 PM

i have been reading the replies, and i'm not seeing anything between you two that = girlfriend/ boyfriend status.  how long have you even known this guy?

Quoting WenisEnvy:

Maybe so, but he can't text me?

Quoting D.O.E.:

he probably got fired


WenisEnvy
by Silver Member on Jan. 12, 2013 at 9:23 PM
We've been talking for a year and a half

Quoting D.O.E.:

i have been reading the replies, and i'm not seeing anything between you two that = girlfriend/ boyfriend status.  how long have you even known this guy?

Quoting WenisEnvy:

Maybe so, but he can't text me?



Quoting D.O.E.:

he probably got fired


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WenisEnvy
by Silver Member on Jan. 12, 2013 at 9:28 PM
And how would it not equal that?

Quoting WenisEnvy:

We've been talking for a year and a half



Quoting D.O.E.:

i have been reading the replies, and i'm not seeing anything between you two that = girlfriend/ boyfriend status.  how long have you even known this guy?

Quoting WenisEnvy:

Maybe so, but he can't text me?





Quoting D.O.E.:

he probably got fired


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KawaiiNerrie
by on Jan. 12, 2013 at 9:37 PM
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There is something wrong here. You should get out of this "relationship" while you can. You've been "together" for this long and haven't even learned his parents names? My fiancee lives in Ontario, Canada and I live in upstate NY and even I know his parents names. Hell, I even met them during the Christmas holiday in 2011 and spent 2 weeks with them this past summer. I'm sorry to say but he's not worth your time, especially if he keeps pulling those childish disappearing acts with you.

cLanief
by Gold Member on Jan. 12, 2013 at 9:40 PM
Ummm hes with someone else.
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