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I don't understand how he could do this? ~~BIG EDIT!!!~~~UPDATE AT BOTTOM OF OP!~~

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My boyfriend has been having issues lately. He spent 3 weeks in the ICU over Christmas due to pancreatitis. He had to pay 3700 for a new motor for his car. Apparently something happened at work, which I don't know what it was because he was too pissed off to talk about it. But at one point he was telling me that this is how much he was behind right now because of a mortgage he has here and his rent and utilities where he is at. He's in Minnesota, I'm in Nebraska. He lived here when we started dating, he moved there for a job. So anyway, I understand that he's really stressed right now about his job, his bills and everything, but he would text me when it was convenient for him I guess. So on the 8th, he was sending me pics and talking to me and everything in a great mood. I called him that night and he didn't answer... No surprise there. He did text me back saying he would call in a bit. It was 9 pm. At almost midnight I tried calling him again.. No answer. Then I texted him and said 'disappearing act again or just ignoring me for the night? ' that sparked an argument. He texted me telling me that he was working underneath a car so he couldn't text me or talk on the phone and the stuff he was using had only 90 minutesbefore it hardened or whatever (he's an auto detailer) and then he proceeded to say if you don't mind me getting fired for wasting materials which I've already gotten chewed out for, then I can do that, if that's what you want. If not, I need to get off the phone and put my gloves back on and finish the work I started. So then I'm like carry on we'll talk tomorrow and thanks for making me feel like shit by the way. Then I went to bed. The next morning on the 9th I texted him good morning I'm sorry for being such an insensitive asshole last night and he didn't say anything, later in the after noon I was like could you please acknowledge my messages once in a while please? And he texted me saying this "I love you. I'm having the worst fucking day of my life so far." and that's the last I heard from him. What do you think that means? Better yet.. Ask your hubby's what it would mean if they had said that and then disappeared. I'm so upset, I don't know if anything bad has happened, or if he's in the hospital again, I haven't met his parents yet nor do I know their names.






EDIT- as far as him being in the ICU, he has pancreatitis, he was in the ICU for 5 weeks in 2010, and then for 3 weeks over Christmas









GOOD CALL LADIES! THIS MOTHER FUCKER IS INDEED MARRIED!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I'm retiring from dating, his wife is getting the pictures of him sleeping in my bed.





~~UPDATE 1/27/2013~~~

Since I had posted this, he has responded, I confronted him about being married and then he ended up telling me that he had stage 4 cancer and had a year left to live. He told me that he had told his wife about us. Wrong. Judging by the message I got from her on facebook today, he hadn't told her but I really didn't believe him when he said that he told her. She doesn't believe me even with the pictures of him sleeping in my bed.
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by on Jan. 12, 2013 at 8:03 PM
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jess80
by on Jan. 14, 2013 at 12:06 AM
What an ass!!
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angierose7679
by Angie on Jan. 14, 2013 at 1:05 AM
I'm so sorry :-(
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Basherte
by Silver Member on Jan. 14, 2013 at 7:10 AM

It really sounds a lot like the lives of men who are married to one lady in one state and seeing/dating/getting married to another lady in another state. Lots of time gone, not much time talking to one or the other.

@OP Glad you found out. Not sure how you found out, but glad you did. Let us know what his wife sends back to you when you send her the pictures.

Quoting eema.gray:

So glad I'm not the only one thinking this!


Quoting Bax:

Personally, I think he's married.



WenisEnvy
by Silver Member on Jan. 14, 2013 at 12:20 PM
My cousin googled him. I have sent the pictures to her. Just waiting on a reply.

Quoting Basherte:

It really sounds a lot like the lives of men who are married to one lady in one state and seeing/dating/getting married to another lady in another state. Lots of time gone, not much time talking to one or the other.

@OP Glad you found out. Not sure how you found out, but glad you did. Let us know what his wife sends back to you when you send her the pictures.

Quoting eema.gray:

So glad I'm not the only one thinking this!





Quoting Bax:

Personally, I think he's married.




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WenisEnvy
by Silver Member on Jan. 14, 2013 at 12:22 PM
My cousin googled him. I have sent the pictures to her. Just waiting for a reply

Quoting Basherte:

It really sounds a lot like the lives of men who are married to one lady in one state and seeing/dating/getting married to another lady in another state. Lots of time gone, not much time talking to one or the other.

@OP Glad you found out. Not sure how you found out, but glad you did. Let us know what his wife sends back to you when you send her the pictures.

Quoting eema.gray:

So glad I'm not the only one thinking this!





Quoting Bax:

Personally, I think he's married.




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KellyNips
by Member on Jan. 14, 2013 at 2:26 PM

either he is married or at least in another relationship.  you should just chalk this one up to one of the bad relationships we have all had and move on.  but with your next relationship, don't be so clingy.  you sound like you wait around for his calls/texts.  instead, do something with your friends/family and don't wait for him.  let him know you are not at his beck and call.  be strong girlfriend -- i know you got it in you!!!

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