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email he Sent her!

Posted by on Jan. 14, 2013 at 7:48 AM
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So Satuday evening I come home get on the computer and find that my fiance's email is open. I find it odd that it was because he is very secretive about his emails and cell phone and never lets me use it or see what's  in them. So being that I have always wondered about him, I checked his sent messages and I find this email below to my neighbor girl two doors down. This was sent back in July 2012. Also, The girl has the same name as me, Brandy. I was 7months prego with our third child when he wrote this. 

I know you have a few heart felt messages to read yet but if you could read mine first. its easier for me to speak to you in person rather to write but here it goes......now dont take this the wrong way and assume i'm some kind of weirdo, but I do like you. I have since the day I moved in in 2003. I have seen you come and go and imagined what it would be like to hang out with you. I'm coming clean here so take it how you want. I have sat on my porch for a good 8 years and waited to hear your door open and see you walking my way just to say hello. I understand you. we have alot in common believe it or not. I know where youre coming from when we chat. I feel it. sometimes i feel i was with the wrong brandi(y). i wanted so bad to talk to you over the years but you were taken or involved and never would cross that line. many a nights i have dreamt of you and its just hard to overcome my feelings for you. and believe me its nothing perverted. its a different type of dream and its actually heart warming. i'm sorry but i had to tell you. its about time i did. like i said if you are ever in the mood to talk , i'm 2 doors down. nothing weird, just conversation. if you ever want to text or call, day or night, and youre upset about something, need to cry, talk whatever, dont hesitate to hit me up.( xxx-xxx-xxxx <--- his cell #). again i apologize for being sappy but its hard not to. matt


so I confront him and he says that's an old email he had on his myspace when it was popular and wanted to show her what he had wrote back in the day. REALLY! Back in the day?! We have been together since 2005 so do the math ladies. and then I asked why he gave her is new cell number,  again, another EXCUSE! he said well I just added it at the end of the old email I had. OH REALLY!? so I guess you added the apology for being sappy and that "it's hard not to" as well? I'll be honest I am not buying his excuse as far as I'm concerned it is as recent as the words sound. He was caught and he has to make dumb make no sense at all excuses. I will confront the girl today after work. I will be very lady like as that is my nature. This is all killing me because I was planning our wedding this year but that isn't happening and I have already begun my search for a new place to live alone with my kids. The way I see it is I am too good for him!   What do you think ladies?

by on Jan. 14, 2013 at 7:48 AM
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lucky2Beeme
by Platinum Member on Jan. 14, 2013 at 7:51 AM
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Keep moving forward without him momma. Sadly you are not the Brandi he wants. I wouldn't bother confronting her. He's not in love with you. That should be enough for you to want to move on.

periwinkle163
by on Jan. 14, 2013 at 7:54 AM

 Why confront her, if you are done, just be done.

BrandyBaby22
by on Jan. 14, 2013 at 7:55 AM


Quoting periwinkle163:

 Why confront her, if you are done, just be done.

I thought about it and I absolutely agree with you ladies. If the email is enough to leave him why bother confronting.

ashleighmama
by on Jan. 14, 2013 at 8:00 AM
Time to get rid of him, you deserve better.
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RaLALA
by on Jan. 14, 2013 at 8:00 AM
As heartbreaking as it is,id walk away. cant live with being second choice..sorry. He'll soon learn that the grass is not greener.,hugs.
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kris0921
by on Jan. 14, 2013 at 8:07 AM
Do what you have to, to be happy. Btw my ex was named Matt, and he is (he is still fulling around on his girl now) just a cheater, I dumped him for my dh.
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tristahope
by on Jan. 14, 2013 at 8:09 AM
I agree with all these other ladies momma. Move on and find you a new place for you and your kids. He does not deserve you. You deserve a lot better than that shit. Good Luck momma.
shylynn22
by on Jan. 14, 2013 at 8:16 AM
I think those excuses are lies. It sound recent and he was trying to cheat. If she had accepted then,he probably would have.
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mommy2alissa
by on Jan. 14, 2013 at 8:17 AM

move on. his story is obviously fake, and even if not he should not been sending it or his number to her 

coolmommy2x
by Ruby Member on Jan. 14, 2013 at 8:22 AM
Good for you! You're definitely a better person than he is. Anytime someone is secretive with their phone or email, it's a red flag.
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