SO Broke It Off, Due to His Family....UPDATE!
Anyways Sat SO was having a welcome home party for his daughter. I ask his friend B, at the house if she wanted help cooking. She ignored me. I then ask his cousin G if she needed help and I got go away. So I went into our room and watched tv with my boys.
We get to the park and none of the kids wanted to play with mine, so they played alone. I got ignored. As they were cleaning up I started having severe chest pains. I called my mom and she came and got my boys. I dont want them knowing my heart is acting up.
SO said hed take me to the er. His friends and family were po. Two hrs later and me in severe pain he was able to take me.
I checked out fine was told it was stres.
We woke up in the morning did our thing, then he took me home. Said i love yous and hugged. Thirty mints later when he got home, I got a text that it was over.
It was hurtful, but ill be ok. I guess.
What do you think?
UPDATE
So thanku so much ladies for your support and love. Im heading to the spa tomm, my guy friends are taking me there, shopping, manis pedis, and dinner. Happy happy!
As for the negative comments, i had no money for a cab whatever. I got shorted out of a hundred in my cs this mth. smh And my disability hasnt gone in yet.
He called me yesterday and said he felt stuck in the middle between his family and friends drama and me. He said give a wk or two, let it blow over then wed get back together. I said get a life and go elsewhere I am done.
So yeah hes regretting it and upset. i am done.
thank u and hugs ladies!
As long as you are doing fine and staying healthy that is all that matters. Take care Momma!
It is better that it happened now rather than after you've been married for awhile (I'm assuming you weren't married, no mention of divorce). I can understand him not wanting to be in the middle, but at the same time, when it comes to a relationship, you have to be willing to put 100% into it, and it doesn't sound as if he was.
Believe me, I know what it's like to fight for acceptance. It took a long time for some of DH's family to accept me, especially his mother. I wasn't good enough for her son (I'm older, was fat, etc), and in the beginning it seemed as if he put them first in everything. But that changed, and he basically told his mother that she just needed to accept me, and that was that. My relationship with his mother isn't perfect, we have our ups and downs, but it's better than it was in the beginning.
Oh and I've been called unsociable as well. I fully admit that I am, but you would be too if you were partially deaf and couldn't hear what everyone was saying. My MIL would think I was being snobbish, no matter how many times I had to remind her that I just couldn't hear anybody and rather than sit there and look stupid, I preferred to tune out. I think it finally clicked with her. At least now I have a hearing aide so it's easier, but still!
My inner eardrum left ear completly busted open. Nothing can fix it, basically I hear garbled muffled speech. I too sometimes tune out. 90% deaf, no surgery, nor a hearing aid will not help. I need a hearing transmitter that costs $1,500. 30% deaf on right. Im hoping by my bday in august that ill get one from my family. My greatest hope is to hear a simple I Love You Mommy from my babies. 4 yrs of slurred, stuttered speech, being loud, i want to hear this year.
hugss
Quoting thatgirl70:It is better that it happened now rather than after you've been married for awhile (I'm assuming you weren't married, no mention of divorce). I can understand him not wanting to be in the middle, but at the same time, when it comes to a relationship, you have to be willing to put 100% into it, and it doesn't sound as if he was.
Believe me, I know what it's like to fight for acceptance. It took a long time for some of DH's family to accept me, especially his mother. I wasn't good enough for her son (I'm older, was fat, etc), and in the beginning it seemed as if he put them first in everything. But that changed, and he basically told his mother that she just needed to accept me, and that was that. My relationship with his mother isn't perfect, we have our ups and downs, but it's better than it was in the beginning.
Oh and I've been called unsociable as well. I fully admit that I am, but you would be too if you were partially deaf and couldn't hear what everyone was saying. My MIL would think I was being snobbish, no matter how many times I had to remind her that I just couldn't hear anybody and rather than sit there and look stupid, I preferred to tune out. I think it finally clicked with her. At least now I have a hearing aide so it's easier, but still!
I empathize on the hearing loss. For me, it's 100% in one ear, 25% in the other. The hearing aide has definitely been a big help. It was costly too, but we have decent health insurance, so my co-pay wasn't too bad (the deductible is what brought it up a bit). My fingers are crossed for you that you'll get your wish this year.
Quoting F_Stathouse:
We were together 5 mths, im divorced from a previous ex.
My inner eardrum left ear completly busted open. Nothing can fix it, basically I hear garbled muffled speech. I too sometimes tune out. 90% deaf, no surgery, nor a hearing aid will not help. I need a hearing transmitter that costs $1,500. 30% deaf on right. Im hoping by my bday in august that ill get one from my family. My greatest hope is to hear a simple I Love You Mommy from my babies. 4 yrs of slurred, stuttered speech, being loud, i want to hear this year.
hugss
Quoting thatgirl70:It is better that it happened now rather than after you've been married for awhile (I'm assuming you weren't married, no mention of divorce). I can understand him not wanting to be in the middle, but at the same time, when it comes to a relationship, you have to be willing to put 100% into it, and it doesn't sound as if he was.
Believe me, I know what it's like to fight for acceptance. It took a long time for some of DH's family to accept me, especially his mother. I wasn't good enough for her son (I'm older, was fat, etc), and in the beginning it seemed as if he put them first in everything. But that changed, and he basically told his mother that she just needed to accept me, and that was that. My relationship with his mother isn't perfect, we have our ups and downs, but it's better than it was in the beginning.
Oh and I've been called unsociable as well. I fully admit that I am, but you would be too if you were partially deaf and couldn't hear what everyone was saying. My MIL would think I was being snobbish, no matter how many times I had to remind her that I just couldn't hear anybody and rather than sit there and look stupid, I preferred to tune out. I think it finally clicked with her. At least now I have a hearing aide so it's easier, but still!
Quoting Nikki286:well atleast you didnt take him back cause most of the time that stuff just continues.
Is it just me, or... ?
- F_Stathouse
on Jan. 17, 2013 at 12:02 PM